New boss uses the word retarded. Still. In 2018. At work!
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Anonymous
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This is blowing my mind.
She's only been on the job for 2 weeks; this is her first week solo without shadowing the person she replaced. She ran her first meeting this morning, which included one of our longtime clients, but seniority wise in the company, she was the highest person on the call. It wasn't just said once, either. The first time she said it, everyone around the table kind of gave each other side looks, like, 'did that really just happen?' She then said it again a bit later and someone on the conference call did the awkward throat clearing and moved the conversation forward. I grew up in a family with a SN relative, so the r-word is not in our vocabulary at all and it's always striking to hear someone say it. Usually it's teens, but to hear an adult say it in a professional setting is just... wow. Do I email our client and apologize? Do I let someone higher than this person know? Do I speak with her first privately? Is this just something you tell HR about and let them deal with? Position wise, she's the new Controller and the meeting was made up of the senior members of our finance team as well as this longtime client. I just feel embarrassed she was the main representative from our company on this call and was so unprofessional. |
Anonymous
| Go to HR; they need to address this stat. |
Anonymous
| I hear people say this at work too occasionally (I work in a fed law enforcement capacity) and it is shocking to me too. It never occurred to me to report it, though. I’m not quite sure what you should do here besides let it go. She’s only making herself look bad. |
Anonymous
| Just tell har that it made you uncomfortable. My CFO assigned us “spirit animals” and had a Redskins mug and Lanyard. She is not Native American. I sent a note to HR and preato the mug and lanyard were gone and now we have “mascots” |
Anonymous
| Don't be passive aggressive , tell her in private and if it continues report her. |
Anonymous
Is she European or Indian or something? |
Anonymous
| I would talk to HR with the goal of having someone tell her she is not to use that word again at work. Are you the primary contact for the client? At my job, I'd speak to HR, make sure the issue was addressed, and then call the client and apologize and then them know the issue has been addressed and won't happen again, but I think your response depends on how your org works-the hierarchy for this sort of thing and how much discretion you have in working with your clients. |
Anonymous
| I would go to someone above her if you already have a relationship with that person. If not, go to HR. Beyond the morality of it all, this is bad for the business. |
Anonymous
| Definitely go to HR. Disabled individuals are a protected class, so what your boss did is arguably an EEO violation. |
Anonymous
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My supervisor used the word rape in a meeting, as in, being taken advantage of. "This company will rape us if we accept this deal."
It made me very uncomfortable and I think he realized it because he never said it again. If he had, I would have told him in private. Once when he said something about the "Latin" guy in our group being late to our meeting, I told him "that's racist" in a joking way. |
Anonymous
| Go with HR even if it's passive aggressive. No need to bring the house down on your head for the sake of being actively aggressive. |
Anonymous
| Hr!!! |
Anonymous
OP do you agree with this? |
Anonymous
| Tell her privately that everyone thinks she is hilarious. She will say even more insulting things, then when she gets fired apply for her job. Sell yourself to the company as an internal candidate who they can be sure will not huulate the company with clients. |
Anonymous
| OP - was texting with my husband and he thinks I should just let HR handle it since she's my new boss and I report directly to her; no need to cause waves. I think I'll go that route. Maybe in more of a heads up sort of way. |