No card, no flowers, no candy from long distance boyfriend

[Anonymous]

I told him two weeks ago that it was really important to me that we acknowledge Valentine’s Day given the current long distance situation. I handmade a card, sent a piece of art that I made and a care package of his favorite treats in a decorated box.

He made me a Spotify playlist. That would have been cute when I was 17.

[Anonymous]

Good for him. Setting the expectations early

[Anonymous]

I think a spotify playlist is actually really nice, and very clearly acknowledges the holiday.

Strange to me that you think the playlist juvenile but your arts and crafts project is sophisticated?

[Anonymous]

Well...do you really need Valentine's Day to figure out how he feels about you?

[Anonymous]

Op. How old are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think a spotify playlist is actually really nice, and very clearly acknowledges the holiday.

Strange to me that you think the playlist juvenile but your arts and crafts project is sophisticated?

I had the same exact thought!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think a spotify playlist is actually really nice, and very clearly acknowledges the holiday.

Strange to me that you think the playlist juvenile but your arts and crafts project is sophisticated?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think a spotify playlist is actually really nice, and very clearly acknowledges the holiday.

Strange to me that you think the playlist juvenile but your arts and crafts project is sophisticated?

I just hoped for a little more effort and forethought.

[Anonymous]

You made a card? Hehe corny. It’s going in the trash you know

[Anonymous]

Oh, man. He acknowledged the holiday. But you wanted a traditionally romantic gift. To preserve your sanity you must

a) train him -- i.e. "This year I'd really like flowers, candy, or jewelry on Feb 14."

or

b) select the kind of man who likes to do these things for his partner.

He doesn't care about the card, care box, etc. He takes it for granted, assuming that you like to do those things. Ask him what he wants for holidays. If he is like my DH and many men, the thing he craves is a pass to do zilch.

[Anonymous]

Ugh. You give women a bad name.

[Anonymous]

He probably thinks you were too cheap to even buy a card

[Anonymous]

What were the songs? What are they about?

[Anonymous]

Unless you live in Asia, the day isn't over yet ... calm down, damn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, man. He acknowledged the holiday. But you wanted a traditionally romantic gift. To preserve your sanity you must

a) train him -- i.e. "This year I'd really like flowers, candy, or jewelry on Feb 14."

or

b) select the kind of man who likes to do these things for his partner.

He doesn't care about the card, care box, etc. He takes it for granted, assuming that you like to do those things. Ask him what he wants for holidays. If he is like my DH and many men, the thing he craves is a pass to do zilch.

Thanks, this is a helpful way to frame it. It does bring me joy to create things for other people and I love giving thoughtful gifts - it’s my love language so it bums me out that he hasn’t picked up on this and tried a little bit to reciprocate. It probably made me happier to send the package than he will be to receive it.