No card, no flowers, no candy from long distance boyfriend

[Anonymous]

Broads like OP are why I'm glad I don't do the ridiculous monogamous relationship thing anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh, man. He acknowledged the holiday. But you wanted a traditionally romantic gift. To preserve your sanity you must

a) train him -- i.e. "This year I'd really like flowers, candy, or jewelry on Feb 14."

or

b) select the kind of man who likes to do these things for his partner.

He doesn't care about the card, care box, etc. He takes it for granted, assuming that you like to do those things. Ask him what he wants for holidays. If he is like my DH and many men, the thing he craves is a pass to do zilch.

Thanks, this is a helpful way to frame it. It does bring me joy to create things for other people and I love giving thoughtful gifts - it’s my love language so it bums me out that he hasn’t picked up on this and tried a little bit to reciprocate. It probably made me happier to send the package than he will be to receive it.

So what is his love language? It seems you focused your giving from what you would want to receive, not what he would want to receive. Maybe he did the same. Maybe gifts are meaningless to him. Maybe what he appreciates and would like is something you have never thought of and wouldn't enjoy yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think a Spotify playlist is really sweet actually. And I'm almost 50.

+1. Reminds me of the mixtapes one of my ex-boyfriends made me. I still love those songs and think of him whenever I hear them.

Yes, yes! I loved the mixed tapes!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gave flowers, candy, but was called out for no card. OK, makes me a bad person, and I didn't really expect anything in return, though I helped to the tune of $13K for repairs and dental work. I guess I should have remembered the card.

Dump her.

[Anonymous]

A man should give a woman the D for Valentine's Day. Anything else doesn't matter. Op, you're shallow

[Anonymous]

When I was 17 a boy I had dated briefly gave me two roses, chocolates, and a love letter. In college a young man I actually never dated made a romantic dinner for me in his dorm room ( had his friends move furniture to redecorate, put in green light bulb), and gave me a mixtape and flowers. One of my biggest regrets is that I never gave him a shot. I had a boyfriend at the time who maybe gave me a card. As we all know, youth is wasted on the young.