S/O AP is pregnant (or AP got me pregnant)

[Anonymous]

Was reading the thread about surprises on the Md Judiciary Case Search and saw this topic raised with a man having children outside of his marriage.

Was curious how common of an occurrence this may be- especially seeing all the affair threads lately.

If you have a story- what was the circumstances and outcome?

(And no DCUM roasters and trolls, I'm not in this position and looking for advice.)

[Anonymous]

I know of several stories like this sadly.

There used to be a lady online who blogged on a marriage/family blog about her husband stepping out on her with his partner (he was a police officer). Well the partner got pregnant with twins and the wife stayed with him.

Husband built a nursery in his home with his wife for the boys prior to their birth and was very supportive of his partner throughout the pregnancy.The husband insisted on being with the partner while she gave birth so he could see his sons being born. The wife stayed home and got the room together even though she was distraught. The husband and wife had two daughters who were older.

The point of the blog was for her to show her relationship with Christ and how Christ is able to heal anything. What's crazy is the baby momma/partner used to come on her blog and taunt her about the fact that she was still sleeping with the husband.

It was quite entertaining honestly. The wife eventually stopped blogging because the partner/baby momma would not leave her alone.

[Anonymous]

Wife had triplets and husband left her in the hospital to go be with his mistress because it was the mistress' birthday. Babies had to stay in the hospital because they were so small and the husband couldn't be reached so wife's sister had to go get her from the hospital.

Exactly 9 months later mistress gave birth to husband's baby. Wife is convinced the baby was conceived while she was left in the hospital to fin for herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know of several stories like this sadly.

There used to be a lady online who blogged on a marriage/family blog about her husband stepping out on her with his partner (he was a police officer). Well the partner got pregnant with twins and the wife stayed with him.

Husband built a nursery in his home with his wife for the boys prior to their birth and was very supportive of his partner throughout the pregnancy.The husband insisted on being with the partner while she gave birth so he could see his sons being born. The wife stayed home and got the room together even though she was distraught. The husband and wife had two daughters who were older.

The point of the blog was for her to show her relationship with Christ and how Christ is able to heal anything. What's crazy is the baby momma/partner used to come on her blog and taunt her about the fact that she was still sleeping with the husband.

It was quite entertaining honestly. The wife eventually stopped blogging because the partner/baby momma would not leave her alone.

OMG you’ve gotta post the link to that site.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know of several stories like this sadly.

There used to be a lady online who blogged on a marriage/family blog about her husband stepping out on her with his partner (he was a police officer). Well the partner got pregnant with twins and the wife stayed with him.

Husband built a nursery in his home with his wife for the boys prior to their birth and was very supportive of his partner throughout the pregnancy.The husband insisted on being with the partner while she gave birth so he could see his sons being born. The wife stayed home and got the room together even though she was distraught. The husband and wife had two daughters who were older.

The point of the blog was for her to show her relationship with Christ and how Christ is able to heal anything. What's crazy is the baby momma/partner used to come on her blog and taunt her about the fact that she was still sleeping with the husband.

It was quite entertaining honestly. The wife eventually stopped blogging because the partner/baby momma would not leave her alone.

OMG you’ve gotta post the link to that site.

http://www.blackloveandmarriage.com/2012/05/im-not-a-stepmom/

[Anonymous]

I remember reading online about a married white church lady that had an affair with a black man ( also from the church iirc). She got pregnant by the black guy, confessed everything to her husband, and then said Jesus used this to make her marriage better.

You can't make this shit up!

[Anonymous]

What does religion have to do with any of this?

[Anonymous]

My ex had a baby with his 26 year old married assistant. Lived a Jerry Springer show for 3 years. It was an absolute nightmare. I survived though and am doing great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex had a baby with his 26 year old married assistant. Lived a Jerry Springer show for 3 years. It was an absolute nightmare. I survived though and am doing great.

Are you the Christmas inflatable poster?

[Anonymous]

PP. I was in shock and tried to save my family. We were high school sweethearts and I was distraught. I would have NEVER gotten over the betrayal. Not my monkeys not my circus. I did not start to heal until he was out of my life. I am so sorry if you are going through something similar. It was horrific. I had to pick myself off the floor and March on. Pretty happy now. I have never been alone but kinda liking it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ex had a baby with his 26 year old married assistant. Lived a Jerry Springer show for 3 years. It was an absolute nightmare. I survived though and am doing great.

Are you the Christmas inflatable poster?

Yep. That’s me. Doing so much better. All inflatables in my area survived the Christmas season this year.

[Anonymous]

+1 on this sadly being common.

My grandfather had a child out of wedlock and I was probably 14 when that became common family knowledge. Our last name is her middle name, which is apparently what old school families do when that happens. All I know about her is that she grew up with me knowing what happened and who she was. And who I was. The deal was her mom got a check every month as a deal to keep it away from us. At 14, I found out I had an aunt born within months of me who grew up knowing so much of this nonsense. And I felt horrible. How do you do that to a child? There was one woman my family ran into who had our last name as a middle name, but she disappeared before the adult women in my family could decide if it was appropriate to ask her if ahe was one of us.

Maybe when my grandfather dies, I may be asked to help with the estate and find her information and tell her if she ever wants to have a relationship with me, get in touch.

My take away from this is that honesty is the best option now. So what if you got your AP pregnant. No one can hide these things anymore and the damage done to everyone is stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:+1 on this sadly being common.

My grandfather had a child out of wedlock and I was probably 14 when that became common family knowledge. Our last name is her middle name, which is apparently what old school families do when that happens. All I know about her is that she grew up with me knowing what happened and who she was. And who I was. The deal was her mom got a check every month as a deal to keep it away from us. At 14, I found out I had an aunt born within months of me who grew up knowing so much of this nonsense. And I felt horrible. How do you do that to a child? There was one woman my family ran into who had our last name as a middle name, but she disappeared before the adult women in my family could decide if it was appropriate to ask her if ahe was one of us.

Maybe when my grandfather dies, I may be asked to help with the estate and find her information and tell her if she ever wants to have a relationship with me, get in touch.

My take away from this is that honesty is the best option now. So what if you got your AP pregnant. No one can hide these things anymore and the damage done to everyone is stupid.

Should have reread before sending. She grew up with me not knowing who she was, but knowing for a long time who I was and to stay away from me, because she was illegitamite and I was not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ex had a baby with his 26 year old married assistant. Lived a Jerry Springer show for 3 years. It was an absolute nightmare. I survived though and am doing great.

Are you the Christmas inflatable poster?

Yep. That’s me. Doing so much better. All inflatables in my area survived the Christmas season this year.

Good! Glad things are better for you! How are your kids? Do they have a relationship with their father?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ex had a baby with his 26 year old married assistant. Lived a Jerry Springer show for 3 years. It was an absolute nightmare. I survived though and am doing great.

Are you the Christmas inflatable poster?

Yep. That’s me. Doing so much better. All inflatables in my area survived the Christmas season this year.

Good! Glad things are better for you! How are your kids? Do they have a relationship with their father?

Thank you. Kids are doing good. Yes. They have a good relationship with their dad. He lives close and we coparent through texts and emails. I refuse to speak to him but never say a word to the kids. They have made it clear they want nothing to do with the child. Sad but it is their choice as it should be. They may change their minds when they are older. They do love their dad. It’s been a tough road for them but they go to counseling and that has helped.