S/O AP is pregnant (or AP got me pregnant)

[Anonymous]

I know of a few cases from a generation or two ago. My grandfather's first wife had a baby with her lover; my grandfather divorced her and married my grandmother. So there's no blood relation between that baby and my dad, but it's a complicated situation since there was another child in that marriage who is half-sibling to both my dad (same father) and the other baby (same mother).

I don't personally know of any current situations of this. Birth control is a lot more available and effective than it was 50 years ago, although there are obviously still failures at times.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My ex had a baby with his 26 year old married assistant. Lived a Jerry Springer show for 3 years. It was an absolute nightmare. I survived though and am doing great.

Are you the Christmas inflatable poster?

Yep. That’s me. Doing so much better. All inflatables in my area survived the Christmas season this year.

Good! Glad things are better for you! How are your kids? Do they have a relationship with their father?

Thank you. Kids are doing good. Yes. They have a good relationship with their dad. He lives close and we coparent through texts and emails. I refuse to speak to him but never say a word to the kids. They have made it clear they want nothing to do with the child. Sad but it is their choice as it should be. They may change their minds when they are older. They do love their dad. It’s been a tough road for them but they go to counseling and that has helped.

Good for you!

Is he still with her? Did the husband leave her? How are the kids with the new sibling?

No. He is not with her at all. She is still married. Kids have never met him and have zero desire. I have no idea of his involvement with him and honestly don’t care. My guess is the woman is still furious he didn’t leave his family and never would have.

[Anonymous]

Yep, my ex did this. He is married to the OW and they have more children now. Just gross behavior and the two of them deserve each other.

My kids love their dad but don't have a traditional relationship with him. He does not co-parent or provide support.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I remember reading online about a married white church lady that had an affair with a black man ( also from the church iirc). She got pregnant by the black guy, confessed everything to her husband, and then said Jesus used this to make her marriage better.

You can't make this shit up!

No wonder she cheated, he husband is a p***y

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My friends neighbor did the 23 and me test with her family. Turned out she didn’t match her Dad’s DNA profile..mother had to dress up she had an affair and that the man who raised her wasn’t her dad. Of course he didn’t find out until then either

I bet this starts happening a lot more now that these tests are getting more popular.

I hope they properly chastised, flogged and humiliated her. She deserves it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friends neighbor did the 23 and me test with her family. Turned out she didn’t match her Dad’s DNA profile..mother had to dress up she had an affair and that the man who raised her wasn’t her dad. Of course he didn’t find out until then either

+1

This happened to an older cousin of mine as well! In her case, both her mother and her “dad” had been deceased for a number of years. Her biological dad was still alive and told her that all three of them were aware of the situation but over time just came to believe that her mother’s husband was her father because they looked a lot alike (which they definitely did...she looks more like her “dad” then her mother).

[Anonymous]

TO do this 23 and me test, do you only need your dNA? How are they mapping to other people if it is just your data being collected?

[Anonymous]

I read the worst story of this sort a few years ago. Some poor guy's wife cheated with his brother. The husband was understandably incensed and they separated, only for his ex to get pregnant with twins by his brother. His parents felt terribly for the husband but could not cut off their other son/the grandkids. The jilited husband can't go home for holidays without the ex wife, the brother who betrayed him, etc in his face.

Terrible

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:TO do this 23 and me test, do you only need your dNA? How are they mapping to other people if it is just your data being collected?

I think they map it to everyone else's DNA that they have collected. My understanding is that part of the terms of service is that you allow them to retain your DNA for future mapping. They may also have entered into partnership agreements with the other services to share access to your DNA.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, you need to have more than a few screws loose to be the AP of a married man and keep the baby. It's absolutely insane and recipe for a life of drama, pain, and crippling heartache (for both the mother, baby, and father).

The female AP is basically a massive masochist.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My ex had a baby with his 26 year old married assistant. Lived a Jerry Springer show for 3 years. It was an absolute nightmare. I survived though and am doing great.

Are you the Christmas inflatable poster?

Yep. That’s me. Doing so much better. All inflatables in my area survived the Christmas season this year.

Good! Glad things are better for you! How are your kids? Do they have a relationship with their father?

Thank you. Kids are doing good. Yes. They have a good relationship with their dad. He lives close and we coparent through texts and emails. I refuse to speak to him but never say a word to the kids. They have made it clear they want nothing to do with the child. Sad but it is their choice as it should be. They may change their minds when they are older. They do love their dad. It’s been a tough road for them but they go to counseling and that has helped.

Good for you!

Is he still with her? Did the husband leave her? How are the kids with the new sibling?

No. He is not with her at all. She is still married. Kids have never met him and have zero desire. I have no idea of his involvement with him and honestly don’t care. My guess is the woman is still furious he didn’t leave his family and never would have.

Thanks for the update! Glad you're moving on and inflatables are no longer in danger. Hugs!

[Anonymous]

I think, married female ex-AP here, we are really really f'ed up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My friends neighbor did the 23 and me test with her family. Turned out she didn’t match her Dad’s DNA profile..mother had to dress up she had an affair and that the man who raised her wasn’t her dad. Of course he didn’t find out until then either

I bet this starts happening a lot more now that these tests are getting more popular.

One of my kids had to have genetic tests done when he was a toddler due to some.developmental issues. One of the things my husband and I had to be counseled on when we signed off on the test was that they sometimes surprise the parents with unexpected information (ie child is the product of an affair by mom or parents come from.the same family tree somewhere down the line).

Jokingly asked if that ever really happens and they doc said yes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I know of several stories like this sadly.

There used to be a lady online who blogged on a marriage/family blog about her husband stepping out on her with his partner (he was a police officer). Well the partner got pregnant with twins and the wife stayed with him.

Husband built a nursery in his home with his wife for the boys prior to their birth and was very supportive of his partner throughout the pregnancy.The husband insisted on being with the partner while she gave birth so he could see his sons being born. The wife stayed home and got the room together even though she was distraught. The husband and wife had two daughters who were older.

The point of the blog was for her to show her relationship with Christ and how Christ is able to heal anything. What's crazy is the baby momma/partner used to come on her blog and taunt her about the fact that she was still sleeping with the husband.

It was quite entertaining honestly. The wife eventually stopped blogging because the partner/baby momma would not leave her alone.

OMG you’ve gotta post the link to that site.

http://www.blackloveandmarriage.com/2012/05/im-not-a-stepmom/

NP - she says she's "an Emmy-Award winning journalist". I've tried googling what she won the award for but I can't even find ANY Emmy Awards for journalism much less for her. Any one else have any luck?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, you need to have more than a few screws loose to be the AP of a married man and keep the baby. It's absolutely insane and recipe for a life of drama, pain, and crippling heartache (for both the mother, baby, and father).

The female AP is basically a massive masochist.

I know my husband's AP kept the baby in hopes that he will leave me and marry her. I'm sure he encouraged her in this thinking because no sane woman would have a baby otherwise. Well, not only did he not leave me, but we ended up having more children. She is very angry, and now, when she is realizing how much drama there will be for her child in the foreseeable future, she gets angrier every day. It's a terrible situation, as I said. No one wins, everyone is in pain, forever. She says her daughter has been deprived of a father for five years, and I'm like yes....she has been...what did you think it was going to be like?