Lost points for not wearing suit jacket and tie at girlfriend's Thanksgiving dinner
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Anonymous
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My girlfriend invited me to her home for Thanksgiving. All the other men wore jackets and ties. I was business casual. In my family, all the relatives dressed informally -- like jeans and flannel shirts. Anyway, she's still in a bit of a huff. I didn't know. I would have dressed up if I had.
Do the men in your family dress up for Thanksgiving? |
Anonymous
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No, we're casual.
She should have told you to dress up if it was expected. |
Anonymous
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I have never ever heard of anyone dressing up for Thanksgiving.
If it was important to her, she should have let you know beforehand. |
Anonymous
| This doesn’t sound like a good fit. If it was important to her she should have communicated to you. DTMFA. |
Anonymous
+1 Never heard of dressing up for Thanksgiving. Is this a thing where you live? |
Anonymous
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She should have told you the dress code. YOU could be angry at HER for hanging you out to dry.
In our family the men wear non-jeans and sweaters. Women are slightly more dressy, but there are a flurry of texts confirming dress levels. |
Anonymous
No, where I'm from in small-town midwest it's casual. This was in a DC suburb. |
Anonymous
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My family and every family I've ever had thanksgiving with, except for DH's Midwest family, has dressed up. Men in ties and sport coats, women in dresses and skirts. It's a holiday people! Oh, and we don't eat on paper plates!
But OP, it does suck that she didn't tell you. |
Anonymous
| Wait, really? That wouldn't have even been on my radar. |
Anonymous
| Jeans and sneakers. |
Anonymous
| Jacket, nice trousers/shoes for men. Not a tie. No sweaters. |
Anonymous
My family always dressed up for Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Easter. But for the love of god, why didn’t she tell you? It’s not like every family has the same traditions. And although my family always dressed up I would never, ever tell a boyfriend he lost points because of how he dressed. If my parents were that superficial I’d keep the info to myself. |
Anonymous
This is so closed minded and exactly the type of statement that makes people hate flyover country. Where you are FROM is not how things ARE in the entire WORLD. Can't you see that? Isn't it reasonable to you that people would dress up for special occasions, even if your little podunk family doesn't do it? |
Anonymous
It's thanksgiving! It's about eating until you burst and watching football. It is not about cranberry stains on your tie and penny loafers. If uncle frank isn't prone on the couch, pants undone and snoring after dinner, it's not thanksgiving |
Anonymous
| If she’s in a huff, she would not be the one for me. |