At what point does a favor become a burden?

Anonymous
Especially when it’s non-reciprocated.

A neighbor recently had twins. We share a bus stop, and they asked if I wouldn’t mind taking their kids to the bus stop with mine “for a few weeks”. Well, it’s been a few weeks and it doesn’t seem they are in any hurry to resume their children’s transportation.

I agreed at first because they said they were adjusting and it would be helpful, and would be more convenient for the mom to not have to load the twins in the car to drive two blocks. Well, I am also inconvenienced (slightly), because I’m leaving 10 minutes earlier than I usually would to ensure I have time to fetch the other kids. We all know that’s precious time in the AM.

But by now, I am sure the parents have a routine down, right? Do I just flat out ask them if they are ready to take back their kids?
Anonymous
Weeks???
With twins?

Have a heart and do it until it starts to warm up again in the Spring, OP.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Especially when it’s non-reciprocated.

A neighbor recently had twins. We share a bus stop, and they asked if I wouldn’t mind taking their kids to the bus stop with mine “for a few weeks”. Well, it’s been a few weeks and it doesn’t seem they are in any hurry to resume their children’s transportation.

I agreed at first because they said they were adjusting and it would be helpful, and would be more convenient for the mom to not have to load the twins in the car to drive two blocks. Well, I am also inconvenienced (slightly), because I’m leaving 10 minutes earlier than I usually would to ensure I have time to fetch the other kids. We all know that’s precious time in the AM.

But by now, I am sure the parents have a routine down, right? Do I just flat out ask them if they are ready to take back their kids?


OMG, really? It's been a few weeks? COME ON. You are leaving 10 whole minutes earlier? You have got to be kidding, right? I hope you never, ever need help from anyone.
Anonymous
I would only do it if I felt good about it. Let her know when the last day will be and ask her to find another neighbor to pitch in if she's not ready yet.
Anonymous
You're complaining about driving them two blocks?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Weeks???
With twins?

Have a heart and do it until it starts to warm up again in the Spring, OP.

Omg, do people not know how to warm up their cars and keep them running? Will this woman and children hibernate ALL winter? Surely they travel other places, right?

I hate when people have more kids than they can handle and make it everyone else’s problem. It’s not OPs problem. I had winter babies and they all survived. Bundle them up and turn on the heat.
Anonymous
Yea, it's a burden. But your 10 minutes a day sacrifice sounds like a daily angel's errand for a parent of newborn twins. Nothing is routine for the first couple months!

It's not reciprocated now, but you're in the position to make a huge difference for this family. Clearly you live nearby.. down the line you may need some help yourself and have the relationship established to ask for it.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Especially when it’s non-reciprocated.

A neighbor recently had twins. We share a bus stop, and they asked if I wouldn’t mind taking their kids to the bus stop with mine “for a few weeks”. Well, it’s been a few weeks and it doesn’t seem they are in any hurry to resume their children’s transportation.

I agreed at first because they said they were adjusting and it would be helpful, and would be more convenient for the mom to not have to load the twins in the car to drive two blocks. Well, I am also inconvenienced (slightly), because I’m leaving 10 minutes earlier than I usually would to ensure I have time to fetch the other kids. We all know that’s precious time in the AM.

But by now, I am sure the parents have a routine down, right? Do I just flat out ask them if they are ready to take back their kids?


You seriously cannot help out a neighbor for another few months, OP? You sound awful.

Yes, them you are done and hopefully they will find someone who is a better neighbor and friend to do this small favor for them.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I would only do it if I felt good about it. Let her know when the last day will be and ask her to find another neighbor to pitch in if she's not ready yet.


This right here--too bad you weren't clear about an end point at the outset.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Weeks???
With twins?

Have a heart and do it until it starts to warm up again in the Spring, OP.

Omg, do people not know how to warm up their cars and keep them running? Will this woman and children hibernate ALL winter? Surely they travel other places, right?

I hate when people have more kids than they can handle and make it everyone else’s problem. It’s not OPs problem. I had winter babies and they all survived. Bundle them up and turn on the heat.


Wow. Ugly Mommy.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Weeks???
With twins?

Have a heart and do it until it starts to warm up again in the Spring, OP.

Omg, do people not know how to warm up their cars and keep them running? Will this woman and children hibernate ALL winter? Surely they travel other places, right?

I hate when people have more kids than they can handle and make it everyone else’s problem. It’s not OPs problem. I had winter babies and they all survived. Bundle them up and turn on the heat.


Wow. Ugly Mommy.

Yet you managed to make it back to work after your children were born, right PP? Did you teleport them to daycare, or did you drive them in your car?
Anonymous
Seriously OP?? Have a heart. They just had twins!! Plan for an extra 10 minutes in the AM for the foreseeable future and consider it good karma. Maybe someday you will need help.
Anonymous
10 precious minutes

10 PRECIOUS MINUTES !

I've seen some straight up mean crap on here but this takes the grand prize.
Anonymous
OP, you should honestly be embarrassed and ashamed.

10 minutes? Really?

Do the right thing.

Anonymous
I am shocked that everyone is attacking OP. I think you are being taken advantage of and, I don't know about the rest of y'all, but ten minutes in the morning is a lot.

Tell her that you can give her another week, but then your schedule is changing.

It was nice of you to do it for three weeks!
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