Muscles = More Sex?

[Anonymous]

so I've been married to my wife for 15 years. During that time, even when dating, I've had to push for sex more than once per week. She's always been fit and attractive. I'm not ugly but have always had more of an endurance athlete build - scrawny and not much muscle mass. I've competed racing bicycles (road and mtb) for the last 8ish years. As I'm getting older, long training hours on a bike just aren't realistic anymore and I've had to find a new, reasonably healthy interest. I started lifting heavy in the gym 3 days a week and tracking my food using the Lose It iphone app. I've managed to put on more muscle than I've ever had and whittled my stomach dow to a six pack.

Here are some of the things I've noted as changes:

-She' commenting almost daily about how I look.
- She keeps finding reasons to rub my chest or arms and make comments.
- Yesterday, when I got out of the shower, she dried me off from head to toe.
- She got on top of me the other night in bed and I wasn't sure if she was trying to initiate or not. The next day she told me that she wanted me but our kid wasn't asleep and that we were doing it that night. She NEVER initiates.
- If I'm doing something without my shirt she'll make a comment that I'm about to get licked.
- I'm catching her watching me when I'm changing.
- There used to never be a good time for sex and it needed to be scheduled (she's very type A). Now, before we get out of bed in the morning she dry hump me and tell me that its too bad our kid is up.

So, these are just my observations but obviously I'm enjoying her interest in me.

Is my wife more visual than most and somehow I'm only just now discovering it after 15 years together?

Btw, I apologize if this post came off egotistical in any way. I'm really crazy about my wife and am excited by this new trend!

[Anonymous]

I thought OP said "Mulches = More Sex"? LOL

[Anonymous]

Sounds like your wants you hard OP. If I were you I'd be scheduling a babysitter pronto for a three-day sexfest. Like drop the kid off Friday night and don't come back until Sunday. You'll thank me later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought OP said "Mulches = More Sex"? LOL

Might also be true...good landscaping skills are a nice quality to have!

Personally I’m very attracted to muscles. I don’t need some WWE steakhead with a huge neck or anything, but I just love some sculpted, sexy arms. Muscles beat a scrawny runner build any day (and I’m an avid runner with a lot of male runner friends—I’m really not attracted to any of them).

[Anonymous]

I don't really care about muscles per se but the scrawny muscle build is, well, not a turn-off, but definitely not a turn-on. The sinewy low body fat look squicks me out a little. I'd take a little chunky dad bod over that 100% of the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't really care about muscles per se but the scrawny muscle build is, well, not a turn-off, but definitely not a turn-on. The sinewy low body fat look squicks me out a little. I'd take a little chunky dad bod over that 100% of the time.

Meant to say scrawny runner build.

[Anonymous]

Your kids are older. She is no longer exhausted.

Your working out makes you less angry and she's happy you aren't always on her case.

[Anonymous]

In my house, sex happens when my wife feels sexy. I was in much better shape in my 30s and no sex because kids were little. Now, decent sex life because she works out and isn't exhausted

Point being, it's almost never about what he is doing it's about her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kids are older. She is no longer exhausted.

Your working out makes you less angry and she's happy you aren't always on her case.

OP here. We've always had a pretty good relationship. Also, like I mentioned above, she's a very driven Type A personality who has had a strong career and is an overachiever at home as well. There's really nothing for me to get on her case about.

[Anonymous]

This is awesome- instead of her having to divorce to get a hot new spouse, she gets to stay with you and get the hot "new" spouse. Enjoy it!!

[Anonymous]

Glad you finally pumped it up and got some muscles. Yeah, women like them. We don't have to have them, but apparently they are the frosting on the cake.

My DH has zero muscles and it sucks.

[Anonymous]

I think society has guilted women into being ashamed of wanting hot guys and that "looks shouldn't matter". But, they do.

[Anonymous]

Why doesn't my spouse have muscles? He isn't scrawny, either. Plain old fat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why doesn't my spouse have muscles? He isn't scrawny, either. Plain old fat.

Would you enjoy doing him more if he did?

[Anonymous]

Nice work OP! Sounds like you're looking awesome and she's finding you irresistible, and after years of marriage how great is that?! Keep up the good work. I have found that when I've been working out a lot my sex drive takes off (which is what I thought this post was going to be about when I clicked on it), and I can absolutely tell you that even though our sex life now is fine, I would be helllllla more attracted to my husband if he would take a page out of your book. There's something super attractive about strong and defined arms/back/chest...