Spouse not on wedding invitation
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Anonymous
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An old friend from college is getting married and I received the invitation last week. DH is not listed on the invitation. Do I:
1. Assume DH is not invited and go solo 2. Ask old friend if DH is invited, which could lead to awkwardness if he's not 3. Something else? Old friend and I live in the same city and the wedding is local. We see each other a couple times per year, so I wouldn't consider us close, but old friend did attend my wedding some years ago. |
Anonymous
| Just ask if you can bring your spouse. If the answer is no, normally there will be an explanation. Then you can decide what to do. |
Anonymous
| Decline |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| If this person is a really close friend, you can ask what's up. Otherwise, decline -- it was super rude to invite you without your spouse, but asking to bring him would be rude too. |
Anonymous
| Option 1. |
Anonymous
| Weird to invite one spouse but not the other, no? |
Anonymous
I'm PP who said choose option one. I don't think it's weird at all. OP's friend wants OP to be part of her day. Maybe she doesn't even know the spouse, why would she want him there? There is no reason for him to attend. |
Anonymous
Not only is it weird, it's extremely rude to invite someone without their spouse. It wouldn't be terribly rude/weird if the person had called friend up and explained they were having a very intimate wedding that could only accommodate 25, so she'd be getting a solo invite and hope she understands. To get an invite without the spouse out of the blue is strange and poor etiquette. |
Anonymous
Wow. |
Anonymous
+2 |
Anonymous
| Ask but be cool about it. “I noticed the invite didn’t include my spouse—just wanted to see if I can bring him or not? No big deal if I can’t!” Maybe she’s on a REALLY tight budget. I can relate to that. |
Anonymous
Guests are guests. She doesn't want to invite OP's husband, so big deal- OP can't do anything alone? He's not invited, so OP can absolutely go by herself, she's a big girl. |
Anonymous
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Do you know anyone else who would also be invited? Can you ask them if they know about spouses?
I wouldn't necessarily decline if I was invited with spouse but I would bring him if he was invited and available. |
Anonymous
| ^^withoit!! |