Spouse not on wedding invitation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wedding etiquette is pretty clear here. Spouse should get an invite too even if the bride/groom doesn't know your spouse.

This. I would send my regrets. Anyone that clueless about basic etiquette isn't worth my time.

Yes, let’s throw a years-long friendship away over an etiquette slip. I’m sure she would miss you as a friend.

[Anonymous]

My first thoughts were she forgot his name. She is frazzled planning the wedding and forgot to write Mr. and Mrs.

Maybe she gave the list to someone else to help with invitations and wrote your name down but forgot to write +1 so they didn't know.

Contact her and ask. Don't overthink it.

[Anonymous]

Agree that in this case asking would be ok. Or just breach etiquette yourself and write his name on the response card (if there is a space) or 2 for number of guests. Normally I would never suggest such a thing, but this is a weird omission on her part. Usually it's a boyfriend or fiance that someone is posting about, not a spouse.

[Anonymous]

It's fine to ask in this scenario because it's an odd situation and you need clarification. Just text her in a matter-of-fact way - "hi Jane, are spouses invited or is it just me? Trying to plan ahead. Thanks!"

[Anonymous]

It was very rude not to include him, but if it's local, just go alone.

[Anonymous]

Perhaps the bride didn't write the invitations herself? It is probably an oversight. I would ask.

[Anonymous]

OP do you still use your maiden name? If so, maybe she forgot your DH's last name, knew she can't write "MR. and Mrs. DH's LAST Name" and knew it would be rude to say Jane Smith plus 1 because you're married so she just opted to put your name.

Look at how the RSVP is written - does it give you the option to put how many people are coming? That might give more indication that your DH is invited.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Weird to invite one spouse but not the other, no?

I'm PP who said choose option one. I don't think it's weird at all. OP's friend wants OP to be part of her day. Maybe she doesn't even know the spouse, why would she want him there? There is no reason for him to attend.

np. It is traditional to invite spouse especially since Op said her friend went to her wedding so she knows she is married. If I were Op I would ask and then decide what you want to do. For example, my DH got invited to a wedding and at first I was invited ( email invite) but, then we got another email saying I was. I had no problem just sending him alone but, will go now that I am. It was a long time family friend and I met him only once.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wedding etiquette is pretty clear here. Spouse should get an invite too even if the bride/groom doesn't know your spouse.

This. I would send my regrets. Anyone that clueless about basic etiquette isn't worth my time.

Yes, let’s throw a years-long friendship away over an etiquette slip. I’m sure she would miss you as a friend.

Declining an invitation (wedding or other) isn't going to end the friendship.

It is really rude not to include the spouse/fiance/live-in in a wedding invitation, no matter how intimate the wedding. If she's decided she doesn't care, she doesn't get to be POd if you decline. It's not as though you have to explain why you're declining. You just send your regrets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Weird to invite one spouse but not the other, no?

I'm PP who said choose option one. I don't think it's weird at all. OP's friend wants OP to be part of her day. Maybe she doesn't even know the spouse, why would she want him there? There is no reason for him to attend.

np. It is traditional to invite spouse especially since Op said her friend went to her wedding so she knows she is married. If I were Op I would ask and then decide what you want to do. For example, my DH got invited to a wedding and at first I was invited ( email invite) but, then we got another email saying I was. I had no problem just sending him alone but, will go now that I am. It was a long time family friend and I met him only once.

Mean't wasn't invited, instead of 'was"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weird to invite one spouse but not the other, no?

Inappropriate. I'd assume this was a mistake. Contact the coordinator and verify. If this was intentional I would cut and run. How could you celebrate a union of two people while disrespecting another?

[Anonymous]

Don't go

[Anonymous]

Decline. That's so rude.

[Anonymous]

She is inviting you without your H because she obviously has someone in mind she'd like you to meet. Duh!!!!

Go! Have fun! No one will know.

[Anonymous]

I got an invitation to a baby shower with just my name on it and figured it was just for women. When I got there, everyone's partner was there, too, and the hostess asked where DH was. So I think its fine to ask the bride instead of assuming.