Spouse not on wedding invitation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^withoit!!

Good night. I guess I'm too tired to post.

[Anonymous]

Do you know anyone else who was invited that you can ask to see if they also received an invite just for themselves?

[Anonymous]

1. Perhaps the friend doesn't know OP is married.
2. Perhaps the friend is lax and can't be bothered about etiquette, and either thinks the spouse is automatically invited, or thinks only OP should come.

In all cases, it's perfectly acceptable to call and ask whether the spouse is invited.

I'm astonished how many people are exercised over this. Relax, people. It's just a wedding.

[Anonymous]

OP, you over think this. Ask. If you're friends, ask! If you're not friends, not close enough to have a conversation, attending or not, offending or not, is unimportant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know anyone else who was invited that you can ask to see if they also received an invite just for themselves?

OP here - another friend was also invited without a guest, but she's not married. She has a boyfriend she said she'd like to bring, but it's not a long term relationship. IME it's a slightly different situation.

I don't mind going solo, but find it a little odd DH was not invited, that's all. Old friend definitely knows I'm married!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you know anyone else who was invited that you can ask to see if they also received an invite just for themselves?

OP here - another friend was also invited without a guest, but she's not married. She has a boyfriend she said she'd like to bring, but it's not a long term relationship. IME it's a slightly different situation.

I don't mind going solo, but find it a little odd DH was not invited, that's all. Old friend definitely knows I'm married!

So? He's not on the invitation!

[Anonymous]

I'm guessing your old friend is clueless about how this works. Why don't you just send her a text or email and ask if your husband is invited? You won't be the only guest who is asking -- she probably did this with everyone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Weird to invite one spouse but not the other, no?

I'm PP who said choose option one. I don't think it's weird at all. OP's friend wants OP to be part of her day. Maybe she doesn't even know the spouse, why would she want him there? There is no reason for him to attend.

Not only is it weird, it's extremely rude to invite someone without their spouse.

It wouldn't be terribly rude/weird if the person had called friend up and explained they were having a very intimate wedding that could only accommodate 25, so she'd be getting a solo invite and hope she understands. To get an invite without the spouse out of the blue is strange and poor etiquette.

Guests are guests. She doesn't want to invite OP's husband, so big deal- OP can't do anything alone? He's not invited, so OP can absolutely go by herself, she's a big girl.

Of course she can, but it's pretty strange. I'm not a stickler for etiquette but it really is standard to invite spouses to a wedding. I don't believe I've ever received a wedding or bar/bat mitzvah invitation that did not include my spouse.

[Anonymous]

I would be fine with a work colleague or old friend inviting me and not my spouse to a local wedding.

If you really do not know, just ask,

[Anonymous]

I was on a tight budget. But we didn't invite people without their spouse/long time partner! Have it somewhere less expensive instead. It is odd/rude to only invite one.

[Anonymous]

Wedding etiquette is pretty clear here. Spouse should get an invite too even if the bride/groom doesn't know your spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An old friend from college is getting married and I received the invitation last week. DH is not listed on the invitation. Do I:

1. Assume DH is not invited and go solo
2. Ask old friend if DH is invited, which could lead to awkwardness if he's not
3. Something else?

Old friend and I live in the same city and the wedding is local. We see each other a couple times per year, so I wouldn't consider us close, but old friend did attend my wedding some years ago.

A "girls only" wedding?

[Anonymous]

I would decline "due to plans we made WITH MY HUSBAND a long time ago and which can't be amended"

[Anonymous]

Maybe she doesn't like your husband? Or she forgot his name?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wedding etiquette is pretty clear here. Spouse should get an invite too even if the bride/groom doesn't know your spouse.

This. I would send my regrets. Anyone that clueless about basic etiquette isn't worth my time.