Being more submissive to my husband

[Anonymous]

Anyone else practice submission by choice to your husbands? It's only been about a month since I've been actively submitting to my husbands will, and our relationship has been better then it's been in years! I'm curious to hear others experiences.
For wives- how has your relationship changed since becoming more submissive? What are some ways you practice being more submissive?
Husbands- what is it about having a submissive wife that's appealing? What do you find challenging about it?

"A submissive wife is one who makes a choice not to resist her husband's will. That is not to say that she cannot disagree with him or that she cannot express an opinion. Indeed the submissive wife is, by definition, a strong woman and will usually therefore have her own opinions and these may often be different to the opinions of her husband. Can she express them? Of course she can, and indeed it might often be wrong for her not to express them since she is, after all, supposed to be her husband's helper, not his slave or doormat. Expressing her opinions and giving advice and suggestions will often be a valuable part of the help that she gives her husband."

[Anonymous]

The commander's wife in the Handmaid's Tale made that choice, and look how well it turned out for her.

[Anonymous]

Dominant / submissive relationships are not all that unusual. As long as both parties feel good about their roles and can step out of them and be equal partners when needed, go for it.

[Anonymous]

I mean, there's BDSM, and then there's this bullshit.

I know people who are BDSM submissives. Outside the bedroom, if their husband was like, "Make me a sandwich," there would be hell.

[Anonymous]

I'm not opposed to the concept, because I feel that most relationships have a dominant personality. What I'm unclear on is why it must be the husband. In our family, I'm the sole breadwinner and DH went from being unemployed and looking to being a full-time SAHD. He also isn't great with money, so why should I submit to him solely because he is male?

[Anonymous]

Definitely not for me but if you're happy....not just your husband.....then no argument from me.

[Anonymous]

Creepy thread title

[Anonymous]

Urgh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not opposed to the concept, because I feel that most relationships have a dominant personality. What I'm unclear on is why it must be the husband. In our family, I'm the sole breadwinner and DH went from being unemployed and looking to being a full-time SAHD. He also isn't great with money, so why should I submit to him solely because he is male?

Dominant / submissive relationships aren't always the male being dominant. It also isn't about who is the breadwinner. It is about one person having more power / control (intentionally and with consent) in the relationship. It can over time be exhausting for the dominant person as they don't really get to be vulnerable and they can get tired of having to make all the decisions. It can run it course for the submissive person too who starts to find it harder to come out of the submissive role and be an equal partner. But if it works, then it works.

See a thread on reddit about this: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/6cnvk0/why_am_i_19m_so_attracted_to_my_girlfriend_19f/

[Anonymous]

Jesus no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, there's BDSM, and then there's this bullshit.

I know people who are BDSM submissives. Outside the bedroom, if their husband was like, "Make me a sandwich," there would be hell.

+1

[Anonymous]

Good for you, I hope you're happy.

It's not for me, more importantly, my husband wouldn't want that kind of relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone else practice submission by choice to your husbands? It's only been about a month since I've been actively submitting to my husbands will, and our relationship has been better then it's been in years! I'm curious to hear others experiences.
For wives- how has your relationship changed since becoming more submissive? What are some ways you practice being more submissive?
Husbands- what is it about having a submissive wife that's appealing? What do you find challenging about it?

"A submissive wife is one who makes a choice not to resist her husband's will. That is not to say that she cannot disagree with him or that she cannot express an opinion. Indeed the submissive wife is, by definition, a strong woman and will usually therefore have her own opinions and these may often be different to the opinions of her husband. Can she express them? Of course she can, and indeed it might often be wrong for her not to express them since she is, after all, supposed to be her husband's helper, not his slave or doormat. Expressing her opinions and giving advice and suggestions will often be a valuable part of the help that she gives her husband."

This sounds very strange, scary and a bit cultish. It's 2017. No one but spazzed out church people high on religion even speak like this anymore. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Gross.

[Anonymous]

LOL @ "the submissive wife is, by definition, a strong woman...." Where do these deluded people come from? How damaged do you have to be to subscribe to this idea?