I wanted to have sex with DH today

[Anonymous]

During the day I was feeling it and thought DH and I would have sex tonight.

Then I spent an hour driving home from work, ordered things from amazon during commute for kids' bday party this weekend, picked up the dog, picked up the kids (5 and 3) one of whom had a meltdown because her snack was in wrong container, came home to other dog, fed dogs, fed kids, facetimed with 5 different relatives for 5 year old's birthday, wrangled kids to bath and bed, cleaned playroom, cleaned books off their floor, cleaned dishes, cooked dinner, cleaned up more dishes and pots after dinner, finished decluttering house, broke down boxes and gathered trash/recycling to put to curb, and washed a load of laundry.

It is 20 minutes to midnight (I live in central time) and I am just now sitting down for the first time all night. During all that, DH came home with balloons for the kids, exercised, had dinner with me, watched tv, answered some work emails. He went to bed about 20 minutes ago after a shower.

I don't even know if I'm posting to ask a question or vent or what, but it's disappointing and frustrating.

[Anonymous]

It's a man's world, baby.

[Anonymous]

Life got in the way. Sorry, OP.

Did your DH have any idea?

[Anonymous]

Lie in bed beside slumbering DH with Mr. Hitachi loudly humming. Especially if it wake Sir Studly he might get the message.

Working so hard for your family's benefit and getting no appreciation when YOU need some TLC really s*cks.

[Anonymous]

I guess clean house, dogs and five relatives are more important than sex for you, OP. Where there is a will, there is a way.

[Anonymous]

Can Ang if the clutter be left for the next day once in a while? Maybe you can relax your expectations of yourself occasionally. For example, sometimes the dishes can get a quick rinse but be left in the sink overnight, etc.

Or maybe my DH and I are just slobs, lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can Ang if the clutter be left for the next day once in a while? Maybe you can relax your expectations of yourself occasionally. For example, sometimes the dishes can get a quick rinse but be left in the sink overnight, etc.

Or maybe my DH and I are just slobs, lol.

Meant - can the clutter occasionally be left for the next day ^^

[Anonymous]

Why didn't you have him do some of the stuff you were doing? Why wasn't he dealing with trash, bedtimes, picking up? And "decluttering the house" can wait on a school night. And if you have sex for longer than it takes to have a load of laundry go through the cycle, more power to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you have him do some of the stuff you were doing? Why wasn't he dealing with trash, bedtimes, picking up? And "decluttering the house" can wait on a school night. And if you have sex for longer than it takes to have a load of laundry go through the cycle, more power to you.

+1 send him a text before you leave work and let him know what you have in mind and ask him to do xyz. Also decide what must be done. Decluttering and laundry can wait a day or a few until the weekend.

[Anonymous]

Disappointing and frustrating? Yup, those are feelings you should have for yourself.

If you wanted to have sex, you could have communicated that to your husband. There was no need for all the facetiming, cleaning up and taking care of the kids. Share the workload. Drop the rope.

[Anonymous]

Morning sex!

[Anonymous]

Your words may say "I wanted sex" but your actions say "I wanted to me a SuperMom and a martyr"

[Anonymous]

Martyrs aren't sexy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:During the day I was feeling it and thought DH and I would have sex tonight.

Then I spent an hour driving home from work, ordered things from amazon during commute for kids' bday party this weekend, picked up the dog, picked up the kids (5 and 3) one of whom had a meltdown because her snack was in wrong container, came home to other dog, fed dogs, fed kids, facetimed with 5 different relatives for 5 year old's birthday, wrangled kids to bath and bed, cleaned playroom, cleaned books off their floor, cleaned dishes, cooked dinner, cleaned up more dishes and pots after dinner, finished decluttering house, broke down boxes and gathered trash/recycling to put to curb, and washed a load of laundry.

It is 20 minutes to midnight (I live in central time) and I am just now sitting down for the first time all night. During all that, DH came home with balloons for the kids, exercised, had dinner with me, watched tv, answered some work emails. He went to bed about 20 minutes ago after a shower.

I don't even know if I'm posting to ask a question or vent or what, but it's disappointing and frustrating.

Did you tell DH during the day that you were feeling it? Send him a flirty text? Let him know that you wanted him? Not blaming you or him, but if it isn't a regular thing, maybe he'd never know you were thinking sexy thoughts?

[Anonymous]

When I want to have sex with DH I just reach over and grab him. He's usually a little bit into it.