Is two divorces a red flag?

[Anonymous]

She is a very accomplished, intelligent woman...two kids (HS aged) as well, who are similarly driven people. She was married to the kids' father for 10 years, divorced, remarried 4 years later, divorced 4 years after that.

[Anonymous]

Yes. 1 divorce is a huge red flag. 2 is a definite no go. Date her, don't marry her

[Anonymous]

I would never date a divorced woman. It just screams entitlement

[Anonymous]

One is red flag, no matter the reason

[Anonymous]

One is a red flag, two is no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never date a divorced woman. It just screams entitlement

Lol!

[Anonymous]

Well, it all depends. How is her relationship with her kids' father? Were both divorces amicable?

Two divorces could mean that she has bad judgment in mates. By "bad judgment" I mean that she either picks guys who aren't good at commitment or she is attracted to guys with whom she is incompatible.

I think people get a pass for one divorce. Two divorces isn't necessarily a red flag, but it just means you should proceed cautiously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never date a divorced woman. It just screams entitlement

How so? Honest question.

I'm divorced. I also give a pass for one divorce. Two, I wouldn't completely rule it out but I would definitely want to know the circumstances of each. Two divorced would lead me to worry that the person might jump into things too quickly and bail when reality sets in.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Run as far away as you can. Does she need a t-shirt that says "Batshit Crazy" for you to get the message?

[Anonymous]

One, nope. Two? Yes. Doesn't know how to pick well.

[Anonymous]

One, no, but I would want some more info. Two? Very concerning. I wouldn't write her off completely but I would have some serious conversations about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, it all depends. How is her relationship with her kids' father? Were both divorces amicable?

Two divorces could mean that she has bad judgment in mates. By "bad judgment" I mean that she either picks guys who aren't good at commitment or she is attracted to guys with whom she is incompatible.

I think people get a pass for one divorce. Two divorces isn't necessarily a red flag, but it just means you should proceed cautiously.

Her relationship is good. She speaks positively about him and they live just a few miles away from each other.

I'm not sure if it matters but she is a community activist, volunteers very often for places like Planned Parenthood and political campaigns, and holds a leadership position with a local Democratic party. (I am not living in DC anymore so I doubt I am outing her).

[Anonymous]

Anyone divorced twice is just nasty. Dude get some self esteem

[Anonymous]

Know a woman who got married within a year to a guy who had been married twice and was fifteen years older than her. Still together 10 years on.