Does your community pool have a dress code?

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Anonymous wrote:It’s a lot. I swear half the reason my preteen has decided they’re nonbinary is because they have no desire to dress like typical girls and is fairly horrified. Short shorts, crop tops, and cheeky bathing suits appall her. Since hitting puberty at age 10 she would rather cover it all up.

I try to remind myself it’s so great these kids have such body confidence - but I also find the suits distracting. And I’m not sexualizing anybody - just noticing the girls are nearly naked.

Funny how the men aren’t wearing banana hammocks with their checks hanging out.

Something that struck me as—well I was going to write odd but really it’s just different culture— is that in a lot of European countries “swimming briefs” (like speedos and jammers) are way more common in casual settings. Common amongst all ages.

Like, here in the U.S. it’s a bit odd to see guys wearing those in a situation other than competitive swimming. Not so in Europe.

In fact, in France public pools are required by law to enforce a “swimming briefs only” dress code. No trunks, board shorts, etc. Just swimming briefs allowed. You will get called out on it and forced to purchase a swim briefs on location if you want to continue to swim.

Why? Why do they care if we wear trunks?

Yeah, that's a weird rule.

Rules banning non-swimming clothes make sense, because those fibers can clog pool filters. I can't think of any rationale for banning larger swimsuits, though.

Also, to be clear, people are citing Europeans as an example of how we shouldn't make rules policing swimsuits, but the French will actually FORCE you to BUY another swimsuit if they don't like the one you have on?

I'm skeptical about this. This sounds like something that was lost in translation.

No one here is saying that people who wear thongs or display their erections should be forced to purchase different bathing suits.

Those two things aren't really the same, you know.

Can't say I've ever seen the latter at our pool.

But, you'd be okay with it?

The latter? No. But that's probably a vanishingly rare occurrence at the average pool. I mean, I grew up in Florida, which is much more of a beach and pool party culture. I never saw someone doing that.

Thongs? They don't bother me.

AH!

Finally, we have someone willing to condemn men displaying their erections. So, one more vote for dress code!

You’re the one who keeps bringing erections into the conversation. No one has said they’re okay with kids seeing them; everyone has asked you what that has to do with dress code. Are you saying men who might get an erection at the swimming pool should dress in a way that it wouldn’t be visible to other people? I will agree with that but honestly I’ve never seen someone dealing with that issue at my public pool so explicitly writing it into the dress code seems like overkill to me.

Ever see a murder happen? Still okay with murder being written into the law?

It's illegal to expose your genitalia at a pool.

It's not illegal to have an erection in public, though.

This thread really went off the rails. It's tough to see much of a parallel between smaller swimsuits and exposing one's genitals in public.

Men in thongs, men in see-thru suits... should they be allowed at children's pools?

Have you seen either of these things occur, or do they only exist in your over-heated imagination? And what's your definition of a children's pool? A pool where only kids and their parents are allowed?

Answer the question - should they be allowed?

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Anonymous wrote:It’s a lot. I swear half the reason my preteen has decided they’re nonbinary is because they have no desire to dress like typical girls and is fairly horrified. Short shorts, crop tops, and cheeky bathing suits appall her. Since hitting puberty at age 10 she would rather cover it all up.

I try to remind myself it’s so great these kids have such body confidence - but I also find the suits distracting. And I’m not sexualizing anybody - just noticing the girls are nearly naked.

Funny how the men aren’t wearing banana hammocks with their checks hanging out.

Something that struck me as—well I was going to write odd but really it’s just different culture— is that in a lot of European countries “swimming briefs” (like speedos and jammers) are way more common in casual settings. Common amongst all ages.

Like, here in the U.S. it’s a bit odd to see guys wearing those in a situation other than competitive swimming. Not so in Europe.

In fact, in France public pools are required by law to enforce a “swimming briefs only” dress code. No trunks, board shorts, etc. Just swimming briefs allowed. You will get called out on it and forced to purchase a swim briefs on location if you want to continue to swim.

Why? Why do they care if we wear trunks?

Yeah, that's a weird rule.

Rules banning non-swimming clothes make sense, because those fibers can clog pool filters. I can't think of any rationale for banning larger swimsuits, though.

Also, to be clear, people are citing Europeans as an example of how we shouldn't make rules policing swimsuits, but the French will actually FORCE you to BUY another swimsuit if they don't like the one you have on?

I'm skeptical about this. This sounds like something that was lost in translation.

No one here is saying that people who wear thongs or display their erections should be forced to purchase different bathing suits.

Those two things aren't really the same, you know.

Can't say I've ever seen the latter at our pool.

But, you'd be okay with it?

The latter? No. But that's probably a vanishingly rare occurrence at the average pool. I mean, I grew up in Florida, which is much more of a beach and pool party culture. I never saw someone doing that.

Thongs? They don't bother me.

AH!

Finally, we have someone willing to condemn men displaying their erections. So, one more vote for dress code!

When you say "displaying their erections" do you mean the guy actively whipped it out at the pool? Because you don't need a dress code for that- that's already illegal.

Or, do you mean you could kind of see an outline of it through his shorts? If so, that doesn't seem like a big deal.

So, you're for men wearing see through swim trunks so that everyone can see their erections? At children's pools?

I'm a live and let live kinda gal, but uh... yeah, I'm not okay with that.

I've literally never seen anything like this at the type of pool frequented by a mixed group of people. I have a hard time believing this is something other than vanishingly rare.

Is this something you've seen frequently, or was this just a freak occurrence?

How many times would it have to happen for you to be bothered by it?

I'm having a hard time visualizing what happened here. You briefly saw the shape of a penis through someone's swim trunks once? What kind of rule do you want imposed to prevent that happening?

I don't think men should be allowed to wear see-thru bathing suits.

I mean, showing your genitalia in public is already illegal in public, as far as I know.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s a lot. I swear half the reason my preteen has decided they’re nonbinary is because they have no desire to dress like typical girls and is fairly horrified. Short shorts, crop tops, and cheeky bathing suits appall her. Since hitting puberty at age 10 she would rather cover it all up.

I try to remind myself it’s so great these kids have such body confidence - but I also find the suits distracting. And I’m not sexualizing anybody - just noticing the girls are nearly naked.

Funny how the men aren’t wearing banana hammocks with their checks hanging out.

Something that struck me as—well I was going to write odd but really it’s just different culture— is that in a lot of European countries “swimming briefs” (like speedos and jammers) are way more common in casual settings. Common amongst all ages.

Like, here in the U.S. it’s a bit odd to see guys wearing those in a situation other than competitive swimming. Not so in Europe.

In fact, in France public pools are required by law to enforce a “swimming briefs only” dress code. No trunks, board shorts, etc. Just swimming briefs allowed. You will get called out on it and forced to purchase a swim briefs on location if you want to continue to swim.

Why? Why do they care if we wear trunks?

Yeah, that's a weird rule.

Rules banning non-swimming clothes make sense, because those fibers can clog pool filters. I can't think of any rationale for banning larger swimsuits, though.

Also, to be clear, people are citing Europeans as an example of how we shouldn't make rules policing swimsuits, but the French will actually FORCE you to BUY another swimsuit if they don't like the one you have on?

I'm skeptical about this. This sounds like something that was lost in translation.

No one here is saying that people who wear thongs or display their erections should be forced to purchase different bathing suits.

Those two things aren't really the same, you know.

Can't say I've ever seen the latter at our pool.

But, you'd be okay with it?

The latter? No. But that's probably a vanishingly rare occurrence at the average pool. I mean, I grew up in Florida, which is much more of a beach and pool party culture. I never saw someone doing that.

Thongs? They don't bother me.

AH!

Finally, we have someone willing to condemn men displaying their erections. So, one more vote for dress code!

You’re the one who keeps bringing erections into the conversation. No one has said they’re okay with kids seeing them; everyone has asked you what that has to do with dress code. Are you saying men who might get an erection at the swimming pool should dress in a way that it wouldn’t be visible to other people? I will agree with that but honestly I’ve never seen someone dealing with that issue at my public pool so explicitly writing it into the dress code seems like overkill to me.

Ever see a murder happen? Still okay with murder being written into the law?

It's illegal to expose your genitalia at a pool.

It's not illegal to have an erection in public, though.

This thread really went off the rails. It's tough to see much of a parallel between smaller swimsuits and exposing one's genitals in public.

Men in thongs, men in see-thru suits... should they be allowed at children's pools?

Have you seen either of these things occur, or do they only exist in your over-heated imagination? And what's your definition of a children's pool? A pool where only kids and their parents are allowed?

Answer the question - should they be allowed?

As long as your genitalia isn't exposed, I'm fine with whatever swimsuit you want to wear to the pool. I also don't have a problem with women going topless to the pool.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s a lot. I swear half the reason my preteen has decided they’re nonbinary is because they have no desire to dress like typical girls and is fairly horrified. Short shorts, crop tops, and cheeky bathing suits appall her. Since hitting puberty at age 10 she would rather cover it all up.

I try to remind myself it’s so great these kids have such body confidence - but I also find the suits distracting. And I’m not sexualizing anybody - just noticing the girls are nearly naked.

Funny how the men aren’t wearing banana hammocks with their checks hanging out.

Something that struck me as—well I was going to write odd but really it’s just different culture— is that in a lot of European countries “swimming briefs” (like speedos and jammers) are way more common in casual settings. Common amongst all ages.

Like, here in the U.S. it’s a bit odd to see guys wearing those in a situation other than competitive swimming. Not so in Europe.

In fact, in France public pools are required by law to enforce a “swimming briefs only” dress code. No trunks, board shorts, etc. Just swimming briefs allowed. You will get called out on it and forced to purchase a swim briefs on location if you want to continue to swim.

Why? Why do they care if we wear trunks?

Yeah, that's a weird rule.

Rules banning non-swimming clothes make sense, because those fibers can clog pool filters. I can't think of any rationale for banning larger swimsuits, though.

Also, to be clear, people are citing Europeans as an example of how we shouldn't make rules policing swimsuits, but the French will actually FORCE you to BUY another swimsuit if they don't like the one you have on?

I'm skeptical about this. This sounds like something that was lost in translation.

No one here is saying that people who wear thongs or display their erections should be forced to purchase different bathing suits.

Those two things aren't really the same, you know.

Can't say I've ever seen the latter at our pool.

But, you'd be okay with it?

The latter? No. But that's probably a vanishingly rare occurrence at the average pool. I mean, I grew up in Florida, which is much more of a beach and pool party culture. I never saw someone doing that.

Thongs? They don't bother me.

AH!

Finally, we have someone willing to condemn men displaying their erections. So, one more vote for dress code!

When you say "displaying their erections" do you mean the guy actively whipped it out at the pool? Because you don't need a dress code for that- that's already illegal.

Or, do you mean you could kind of see an outline of it through his shorts? If so, that doesn't seem like a big deal.

So, you're for men wearing see through swim trunks so that everyone can see their erections? At children's pools?

I'm a live and let live kinda gal, but uh... yeah, I'm not okay with that.

I've literally never seen anything like this at the type of pool frequented by a mixed group of people. I have a hard time believing this is something other than vanishingly rare.

Is this something you've seen frequently, or was this just a freak occurrence?

How many times would it have to happen for you to be bothered by it?

I'm having a hard time visualizing what happened here. You briefly saw the shape of a penis through someone's swim trunks once? What kind of rule do you want imposed to prevent that happening?

I don't think men should be allowed to wear see-thru bathing suits.

I mean, showing your genitalia in public is already illegal in public, as far as I know.

Answer the question! Should see-thru suits be allowed for men at children's pools?

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Anonymous wrote:16 year olds are dressing sexy to be attractive to other young people. They do not think their friend’s moms and dads are sexualizing them and getting boners. They actually think that adults aren’t being creepy about kids. Of course you’ll notice the bathing suit but it doesn’t need to be sexual for you. Good Lord!

People don't choose to make things sexual, it just is.

Adults can choose not to do anything about it.

Exactly.

A man can look at a fully developed 16 yo who is clearly putting herself on display, and he can think in his head “man, that’s hot.” Then he can go about his day.

This is probably exactly what’s happening now. I don’t see the big deal.

- woman

Check this persons hard drive. yikes.

If you think that 99% of men aren’t doing this, then I have a bridge to sell you.

I recently saw on twitter that there is a reddit forum about dads who are attracted to their daughters, and wish to see them naked. So yes, it happens. And yes, it's sick. These are children, be a f***ing adult and stop sexualizing minors.

Do you honestly think it’s NOT a reflexive thought when they see almost completely exposed 16-17-18 yo girls in skimpy bathing suits? You think they actually control this thought process?

And I’m not talking about dads and daughters, that’s an entirely different story.

Yes, I think - and expect - men to control themselves around children. Stop being disgusting.

But they’re not doing anything at all except looking. The rest is observation in their heads. Are you honestly saying men need to immediately avert their eyes when a bathing suit may possibly reveal too much? Is that the “control” you are talking about?

Your extreme defense of pedophiles and adults sexually attracted to minors is really disgusting. You need therapy.

There is no pedophilia at play here. Please stop using that in your posts. You need to go look up the meaning before you use it again.

I asked a question about what “control” you are looking for. Can you answer that question?

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Anonymous wrote:It’s a lot. I swear half the reason my preteen has decided they’re nonbinary is because they have no desire to dress like typical girls and is fairly horrified. Short shorts, crop tops, and cheeky bathing suits appall her. Since hitting puberty at age 10 she would rather cover it all up.

I try to remind myself it’s so great these kids have such body confidence - but I also find the suits distracting. And I’m not sexualizing anybody - just noticing the girls are nearly naked.

Funny how the men aren’t wearing banana hammocks with their checks hanging out.

Something that struck me as—well I was going to write odd but really it’s just different culture— is that in a lot of European countries “swimming briefs” (like speedos and jammers) are way more common in casual settings. Common amongst all ages.

Like, here in the U.S. it’s a bit odd to see guys wearing those in a situation other than competitive swimming. Not so in Europe.

In fact, in France public pools are required by law to enforce a “swimming briefs only” dress code. No trunks, board shorts, etc. Just swimming briefs allowed. You will get called out on it and forced to purchase a swim briefs on location if you want to continue to swim.

Why? Why do they care if we wear trunks?

Yeah, that's a weird rule.

Rules banning non-swimming clothes make sense, because those fibers can clog pool filters. I can't think of any rationale for banning larger swimsuits, though.

Also, to be clear, people are citing Europeans as an example of how we shouldn't make rules policing swimsuits, but the French will actually FORCE you to BUY another swimsuit if they don't like the one you have on?

I'm skeptical about this. This sounds like something that was lost in translation.

No one here is saying that people who wear thongs or display their erections should be forced to purchase different bathing suits.

Those two things aren't really the same, you know.

Can't say I've ever seen the latter at our pool.

But, you'd be okay with it?

The latter? No. But that's probably a vanishingly rare occurrence at the average pool. I mean, I grew up in Florida, which is much more of a beach and pool party culture. I never saw someone doing that.

Thongs? They don't bother me.

AH!

Finally, we have someone willing to condemn men displaying their erections. So, one more vote for dress code!

You’re the one who keeps bringing erections into the conversation. No one has said they’re okay with kids seeing them; everyone has asked you what that has to do with dress code. Are you saying men who might get an erection at the swimming pool should dress in a way that it wouldn’t be visible to other people? I will agree with that but honestly I’ve never seen someone dealing with that issue at my public pool so explicitly writing it into the dress code seems like overkill to me.

Ever see a murder happen? Still okay with murder being written into the law?

It's illegal to expose your genitalia at a pool.

It's not illegal to have an erection in public, though.

This thread really went off the rails. It's tough to see much of a parallel between smaller swimsuits and exposing one's genitals in public.

Men in thongs, men in see-thru suits... should they be allowed at children's pools?

Have you seen either of these things occur, or do they only exist in your over-heated imagination? And what's your definition of a children's pool? A pool where only kids and their parents are allowed?

Answer the question - should they be allowed?

As long as your genitalia isn't exposed, I'm fine with whatever swimsuit you want to wear to the pool. I also don't have a problem with women going topless to the pool.

So, a see-thru swimsuit would expose genitalia... so you are okay banning them?

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Anonymous wrote:It’s a lot. I swear half the reason my preteen has decided they’re nonbinary is because they have no desire to dress like typical girls and is fairly horrified. Short shorts, crop tops, and cheeky bathing suits appall her. Since hitting puberty at age 10 she would rather cover it all up.

I try to remind myself it’s so great these kids have such body confidence - but I also find the suits distracting. And I’m not sexualizing anybody - just noticing the girls are nearly naked.

Funny how the men aren’t wearing banana hammocks with their checks hanging out.

Something that struck me as—well I was going to write odd but really it’s just different culture— is that in a lot of European countries “swimming briefs” (like speedos and jammers) are way more common in casual settings. Common amongst all ages.

Like, here in the U.S. it’s a bit odd to see guys wearing those in a situation other than competitive swimming. Not so in Europe.

In fact, in France public pools are required by law to enforce a “swimming briefs only” dress code. No trunks, board shorts, etc. Just swimming briefs allowed. You will get called out on it and forced to purchase a swim briefs on location if you want to continue to swim.

Why? Why do they care if we wear trunks?

Yeah, that's a weird rule.

Rules banning non-swimming clothes make sense, because those fibers can clog pool filters. I can't think of any rationale for banning larger swimsuits, though.

Also, to be clear, people are citing Europeans as an example of how we shouldn't make rules policing swimsuits, but the French will actually FORCE you to BUY another swimsuit if they don't like the one you have on?

I'm skeptical about this. This sounds like something that was lost in translation.

No one here is saying that people who wear thongs or display their erections should be forced to purchase different bathing suits.

Those two things aren't really the same, you know.

Can't say I've ever seen the latter at our pool.

But, you'd be okay with it?

The latter? No. But that's probably a vanishingly rare occurrence at the average pool. I mean, I grew up in Florida, which is much more of a beach and pool party culture. I never saw someone doing that.

Thongs? They don't bother me.

AH!

Finally, we have someone willing to condemn men displaying their erections. So, one more vote for dress code!

You’re the one who keeps bringing erections into the conversation. No one has said they’re okay with kids seeing them; everyone has asked you what that has to do with dress code. Are you saying men who might get an erection at the swimming pool should dress in a way that it wouldn’t be visible to other people? I will agree with that but honestly I’ve never seen someone dealing with that issue at my public pool so explicitly writing it into the dress code seems like overkill to me.

The same person moaning about erections is the same person saying they are sexually attracted to minors. So they are really just worried about themselves it sounds like... Women and girls must not wear thongs because they wont be able to control themselves around children or women showing more than 35% of their butt cheeks.

I would like to end the erection talk—we all agree they should not be displayed at children's pools?

It's already illegal to display erections in public regardless of the proximity of children or pools.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s a lot. I swear half the reason my preteen has decided they’re nonbinary is because they have no desire to dress like typical girls and is fairly horrified. Short shorts, crop tops, and cheeky bathing suits appall her. Since hitting puberty at age 10 she would rather cover it all up.

I try to remind myself it’s so great these kids have such body confidence - but I also find the suits distracting. And I’m not sexualizing anybody - just noticing the girls are nearly naked.

Funny how the men aren’t wearing banana hammocks with their checks hanging out.

Something that struck me as—well I was going to write odd but really it’s just different culture— is that in a lot of European countries “swimming briefs” (like speedos and jammers) are way more common in casual settings. Common amongst all ages.

Like, here in the U.S. it’s a bit odd to see guys wearing those in a situation other than competitive swimming. Not so in Europe.

In fact, in France public pools are required by law to enforce a “swimming briefs only” dress code. No trunks, board shorts, etc. Just swimming briefs allowed. You will get called out on it and forced to purchase a swim briefs on location if you want to continue to swim.

Why? Why do they care if we wear trunks?

Yeah, that's a weird rule.

Rules banning non-swimming clothes make sense, because those fibers can clog pool filters. I can't think of any rationale for banning larger swimsuits, though.

Also, to be clear, people are citing Europeans as an example of how we shouldn't make rules policing swimsuits, but the French will actually FORCE you to BUY another swimsuit if they don't like the one you have on?

I'm skeptical about this. This sounds like something that was lost in translation.

No one here is saying that people who wear thongs or display their erections should be forced to purchase different bathing suits.

Those two things aren't really the same, you know.

Can't say I've ever seen the latter at our pool.

But, you'd be okay with it?

The latter? No. But that's probably a vanishingly rare occurrence at the average pool. I mean, I grew up in Florida, which is much more of a beach and pool party culture. I never saw someone doing that.

Thongs? They don't bother me.

AH!

Finally, we have someone willing to condemn men displaying their erections. So, one more vote for dress code!

You’re the one who keeps bringing erections into the conversation. No one has said they’re okay with kids seeing them; everyone has asked you what that has to do with dress code. Are you saying men who might get an erection at the swimming pool should dress in a way that it wouldn’t be visible to other people? I will agree with that but honestly I’ve never seen someone dealing with that issue at my public pool so explicitly writing it into the dress code seems like overkill to me.

The same person moaning about erections is the same person saying they are sexually attracted to minors. So they are really just worried about themselves it sounds like... Women and girls must not wear thongs because they wont be able to control themselves around children or women showing more than 35% of their butt cheeks.

I would like to end the erection talk—we all agree they should not be displayed at children's pools?

It's already illegal to display erections in public regardless of the proximity of children or pools.

Your refusal to answer the question is getting weird! Nobody asked your understanding of the law, we asked you to agree that men should not display erections at children's pools. Do you agree?

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Anonymous wrote:16 year olds are dressing sexy to be attractive to other young people. They do not think their friend’s moms and dads are sexualizing them and getting boners. They actually think that adults aren’t being creepy about kids. Of course you’ll notice the bathing suit but it doesn’t need to be sexual for you. Good Lord!

People don't choose to make things sexual, it just is.

Adults can choose not to do anything about it.

Exactly.

A man can look at a fully developed 16 yo who is clearly putting herself on display, and he can think in his head “man, that’s hot.” Then he can go about his day.

This is probably exactly what’s happening now. I don’t see the big deal.

- woman

Check this persons hard drive. yikes.

If you think that 99% of men aren’t doing this, then I have a bridge to sell you.

I recently saw on twitter that there is a reddit forum about dads who are attracted to their daughters, and wish to see them naked. So yes, it happens. And yes, it's sick. These are children, be a f***ing adult and stop sexualizing minors.

Do you honestly think it’s NOT a reflexive thought when they see almost completely exposed 16-17-18 yo girls in skimpy bathing suits? You think they actually control this thought process?

And I’m not talking about dads and daughters, that’s an entirely different story.

Yes, I think - and expect - men to control themselves around children. Stop being disgusting.

Ok, you’re a Troll.


There’s no way you aren’t. One minute you’re calling them “women”, who should be allowed to dress however they want, and the next minute you’re calling them children who are being taken advantage of by men looking at them.


You’re a troll. You’re just here to stir sh!t.

Go away.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s a lot. I swear half the reason my preteen has decided they’re nonbinary is because they have no desire to dress like typical girls and is fairly horrified. Short shorts, crop tops, and cheeky bathing suits appall her. Since hitting puberty at age 10 she would rather cover it all up.

I try to remind myself it’s so great these kids have such body confidence - but I also find the suits distracting. And I’m not sexualizing anybody - just noticing the girls are nearly naked.

Funny how the men aren’t wearing banana hammocks with their checks hanging out.

Something that struck me as—well I was going to write odd but really it’s just different culture— is that in a lot of European countries “swimming briefs” (like speedos and jammers) are way more common in casual settings. Common amongst all ages.

Like, here in the U.S. it’s a bit odd to see guys wearing those in a situation other than competitive swimming. Not so in Europe.

In fact, in France public pools are required by law to enforce a “swimming briefs only” dress code. No trunks, board shorts, etc. Just swimming briefs allowed. You will get called out on it and forced to purchase a swim briefs on location if you want to continue to swim.

Why? Why do they care if we wear trunks?

Yeah, that's a weird rule.

Rules banning non-swimming clothes make sense, because those fibers can clog pool filters. I can't think of any rationale for banning larger swimsuits, though.

Also, to be clear, people are citing Europeans as an example of how we shouldn't make rules policing swimsuits, but the French will actually FORCE you to BUY another swimsuit if they don't like the one you have on?

I'm skeptical about this. This sounds like something that was lost in translation.

No one here is saying that people who wear thongs or display their erections should be forced to purchase different bathing suits.

Those two things aren't really the same, you know.

Can't say I've ever seen the latter at our pool.

But, you'd be okay with it?

The latter? No. But that's probably a vanishingly rare occurrence at the average pool. I mean, I grew up in Florida, which is much more of a beach and pool party culture. I never saw someone doing that.

Thongs? They don't bother me.

AH!

Finally, we have someone willing to condemn men displaying their erections. So, one more vote for dress code!

You’re the one who keeps bringing erections into the conversation. No one has said they’re okay with kids seeing them; everyone has asked you what that has to do with dress code. Are you saying men who might get an erection at the swimming pool should dress in a way that it wouldn’t be visible to other people? I will agree with that but honestly I’ve never seen someone dealing with that issue at my public pool so explicitly writing it into the dress code seems like overkill to me.

The same person moaning about erections is the same person saying they are sexually attracted to minors. So they are really just worried about themselves it sounds like... Women and girls must not wear thongs because they wont be able to control themselves around children or women showing more than 35% of their butt cheeks.

I would like to end the erection talk—we all agree they should not be displayed at children's pools?

It's already illegal to display erections in public regardless of the proximity of children or pools.

Your refusal to answer the question is getting weird! Nobody asked your understanding of the law, we asked you to agree that men should not display erections at children's pools. Do you agree?

If it's already not allowed, it's not allowed.

No one is refusing to answer anything. Are you a parrot? All you do is repeat the same garbage over and over again.

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Anonymous wrote:16 year olds are dressing sexy to be attractive to other young people. They do not think their friend’s moms and dads are sexualizing them and getting boners. They actually think that adults aren’t being creepy about kids. Of course you’ll notice the bathing suit but it doesn’t need to be sexual for you. Good Lord!

People don't choose to make things sexual, it just is.

Adults can choose not to do anything about it.

Exactly.

A man can look at a fully developed 16 yo who is clearly putting herself on display, and he can think in his head “man, that’s hot.” Then he can go about his day.

This is probably exactly what’s happening now. I don’t see the big deal.

- woman

Check this persons hard drive. yikes.

If you think that 99% of men aren’t doing this, then I have a bridge to sell you.

I recently saw on twitter that there is a reddit forum about dads who are attracted to their daughters, and wish to see them naked. So yes, it happens. And yes, it's sick. These are children, be a f***ing adult and stop sexualizing minors.

Do you honestly think it’s NOT a reflexive thought when they see almost completely exposed 16-17-18 yo girls in skimpy bathing suits? You think they actually control this thought process?

And I’m not talking about dads and daughters, that’s an entirely different story.

Yes, I think - and expect - men to control themselves around children. Stop being disgusting.

But they’re not doing anything at all except looking. The rest is observation in their heads. Are you honestly saying men need to immediately avert their eyes when a bathing suit may possibly reveal too much? Is that the “control” you are talking about?

Your extreme defense of pedophiles and adults sexually attracted to minors is really disgusting. You need therapy.

Obvious troll is obvious.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s a lot. I swear half the reason my preteen has decided they’re nonbinary is because they have no desire to dress like typical girls and is fairly horrified. Short shorts, crop tops, and cheeky bathing suits appall her. Since hitting puberty at age 10 she would rather cover it all up.

I try to remind myself it’s so great these kids have such body confidence - but I also find the suits distracting. And I’m not sexualizing anybody - just noticing the girls are nearly naked.

Funny how the men aren’t wearing banana hammocks with their checks hanging out.

Something that struck me as—well I was going to write odd but really it’s just different culture— is that in a lot of European countries “swimming briefs” (like speedos and jammers) are way more common in casual settings. Common amongst all ages.

Like, here in the U.S. it’s a bit odd to see guys wearing those in a situation other than competitive swimming. Not so in Europe.

In fact, in France public pools are required by law to enforce a “swimming briefs only” dress code. No trunks, board shorts, etc. Just swimming briefs allowed. You will get called out on it and forced to purchase a swim briefs on location if you want to continue to swim.

Why? Why do they care if we wear trunks?

Yeah, that's a weird rule.

Rules banning non-swimming clothes make sense, because those fibers can clog pool filters. I can't think of any rationale for banning larger swimsuits, though.

Also, to be clear, people are citing Europeans as an example of how we shouldn't make rules policing swimsuits, but the French will actually FORCE you to BUY another swimsuit if they don't like the one you have on?

I'm skeptical about this. This sounds like something that was lost in translation.

No one here is saying that people who wear thongs or display their erections should be forced to purchase different bathing suits.

Those two things aren't really the same, you know.

Can't say I've ever seen the latter at our pool.

But, you'd be okay with it?

The latter? No. But that's probably a vanishingly rare occurrence at the average pool. I mean, I grew up in Florida, which is much more of a beach and pool party culture. I never saw someone doing that.

Thongs? They don't bother me.

AH!

Finally, we have someone willing to condemn men displaying their erections. So, one more vote for dress code!

You’re the one who keeps bringing erections into the conversation. No one has said they’re okay with kids seeing them; everyone has asked you what that has to do with dress code. Are you saying men who might get an erection at the swimming pool should dress in a way that it wouldn’t be visible to other people? I will agree with that but honestly I’ve never seen someone dealing with that issue at my public pool so explicitly writing it into the dress code seems like overkill to me.

The same person moaning about erections is the same person saying they are sexually attracted to minors. So they are really just worried about themselves it sounds like... Women and girls must not wear thongs because they wont be able to control themselves around children or women showing more than 35% of their butt cheeks.

I would like to end the erection talk—we all agree they should not be displayed at children's pools?

It's already illegal to display erections in public regardless of the proximity of children or pools.

Your refusal to answer the question is getting weird! Nobody asked your understanding of the law, we asked you to agree that men should not display erections at children's pools. Do you agree?

If it's already not allowed, it's not allowed.

No one is refusing to answer anything. Are you a parrot? All you do is repeat the same garbage over and over again.

So, another vote for dress codes. Great!

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Anonymous wrote:It’s a lot. I swear half the reason my preteen has decided they’re nonbinary is because they have no desire to dress like typical girls and is fairly horrified. Short shorts, crop tops, and cheeky bathing suits appall her. Since hitting puberty at age 10 she would rather cover it all up.

I try to remind myself it’s so great these kids have such body confidence - but I also find the suits distracting. And I’m not sexualizing anybody - just noticing the girls are nearly naked.

Funny how the men aren’t wearing banana hammocks with their checks hanging out.

Something that struck me as—well I was going to write odd but really it’s just different culture— is that in a lot of European countries “swimming briefs” (like speedos and jammers) are way more common in casual settings. Common amongst all ages.

Like, here in the U.S. it’s a bit odd to see guys wearing those in a situation other than competitive swimming. Not so in Europe.

In fact, in France public pools are required by law to enforce a “swimming briefs only” dress code. No trunks, board shorts, etc. Just swimming briefs allowed. You will get called out on it and forced to purchase a swim briefs on location if you want to continue to swim.

Why? Why do they care if we wear trunks?

Yeah, that's a weird rule.

Rules banning non-swimming clothes make sense, because those fibers can clog pool filters. I can't think of any rationale for banning larger swimsuits, though.

Also, to be clear, people are citing Europeans as an example of how we shouldn't make rules policing swimsuits, but the French will actually FORCE you to BUY another swimsuit if they don't like the one you have on?

I'm skeptical about this. This sounds like something that was lost in translation.

No one here is saying that people who wear thongs or display their erections should be forced to purchase different bathing suits.

Those two things aren't really the same, you know.

Can't say I've ever seen the latter at our pool.

But, you'd be okay with it?

The latter? No. But that's probably a vanishingly rare occurrence at the average pool. I mean, I grew up in Florida, which is much more of a beach and pool party culture. I never saw someone doing that.

Thongs? They don't bother me.

AH!

Finally, we have someone willing to condemn men displaying their erections. So, one more vote for dress code!

You’re the one who keeps bringing erections into the conversation. No one has said they’re okay with kids seeing them; everyone has asked you what that has to do with dress code. Are you saying men who might get an erection at the swimming pool should dress in a way that it wouldn’t be visible to other people? I will agree with that but honestly I’ve never seen someone dealing with that issue at my public pool so explicitly writing it into the dress code seems like overkill to me.

Ever see a murder happen? Still okay with murder being written into the law?

It's illegal to expose your genitalia at a pool.

It's not illegal to have an erection in public, though.

This thread really went off the rails. It's tough to see much of a parallel between smaller swimsuits and exposing one's genitals in public.

Men in thongs, men in see-thru suits... should they be allowed at children's pools?

Have you seen either of these things occur, or do they only exist in your over-heated imagination? And what's your definition of a children's pool? A pool where only kids and their parents are allowed?

Answer the question - should they be allowed?

As long as your genitalia isn't exposed, I'm fine with whatever swimsuit you want to wear to the pool. I also don't have a problem with women going topless to the pool.

So, a see-thru swimsuit would expose genitalia... so you are okay banning them?

They're already illegal in public, so it seems like the rule already exists.

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Anonymous wrote:16 year olds are dressing sexy to be attractive to other young people. They do not think their friend’s moms and dads are sexualizing them and getting boners. They actually think that adults aren’t being creepy about kids. Of course you’ll notice the bathing suit but it doesn’t need to be sexual for you. Good Lord!

People don't choose to make things sexual, it just is.

Adults can choose not to do anything about it.

Exactly.

A man can look at a fully developed 16 yo who is clearly putting herself on display, and he can think in his head “man, that’s hot.” Then he can go about his day.

This is probably exactly what’s happening now. I don’t see the big deal.

- woman

Check this persons hard drive. yikes.

If you think that 99% of men aren’t doing this, then I have a bridge to sell you.

I recently saw on twitter that there is a reddit forum about dads who are attracted to their daughters, and wish to see them naked. So yes, it happens. And yes, it's sick. These are children, be a f***ing adult and stop sexualizing minors.

Do you honestly think it’s NOT a reflexive thought when they see almost completely exposed 16-17-18 yo girls in skimpy bathing suits? You think they actually control this thought process?

And I’m not talking about dads and daughters, that’s an entirely different story.

Yes, I think - and expect - men to control themselves around children. Stop being disgusting.

Ok, you’re a Troll.


There’s no way you aren’t. One minute you’re calling them “women”, who should be allowed to dress however they want, and the next minute you’re calling them children who are being taken advantage of by men looking at them.


You’re a troll. You’re just here to stir sh!t.

Go away.

I'm the troll? Not the person who thinks wearing a thong is equivalent to f***ing in the shallow end of a pool? L-O-f**king-L.
I do think women should be able to dress how they want. One specific poster said she would eye-f*** a 16 year old girl, which is straight up disgusting. Men and this female poster should be able to control themselves in public around kids dressed in swim suits.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s a lot. I swear half the reason my preteen has decided they’re nonbinary is because they have no desire to dress like typical girls and is fairly horrified. Short shorts, crop tops, and cheeky bathing suits appall her. Since hitting puberty at age 10 she would rather cover it all up.

I try to remind myself it’s so great these kids have such body confidence - but I also find the suits distracting. And I’m not sexualizing anybody - just noticing the girls are nearly naked.

Funny how the men aren’t wearing banana hammocks with their checks hanging out.

Something that struck me as—well I was going to write odd but really it’s just different culture— is that in a lot of European countries “swimming briefs” (like speedos and jammers) are way more common in casual settings. Common amongst all ages.

Like, here in the U.S. it’s a bit odd to see guys wearing those in a situation other than competitive swimming. Not so in Europe.

In fact, in France public pools are required by law to enforce a “swimming briefs only” dress code. No trunks, board shorts, etc. Just swimming briefs allowed. You will get called out on it and forced to purchase a swim briefs on location if you want to continue to swim.

Why? Why do they care if we wear trunks?

Yeah, that's a weird rule.

Rules banning non-swimming clothes make sense, because those fibers can clog pool filters. I can't think of any rationale for banning larger swimsuits, though.

Also, to be clear, people are citing Europeans as an example of how we shouldn't make rules policing swimsuits, but the French will actually FORCE you to BUY another swimsuit if they don't like the one you have on?

I'm skeptical about this. This sounds like something that was lost in translation.

No one here is saying that people who wear thongs or display their erections should be forced to purchase different bathing suits.

Those two things aren't really the same, you know.

Can't say I've ever seen the latter at our pool.

But, you'd be okay with it?

The latter? No. But that's probably a vanishingly rare occurrence at the average pool. I mean, I grew up in Florida, which is much more of a beach and pool party culture. I never saw someone doing that.

Thongs? They don't bother me.

AH!

Finally, we have someone willing to condemn men displaying their erections. So, one more vote for dress code!

You’re the one who keeps bringing erections into the conversation. No one has said they’re okay with kids seeing them; everyone has asked you what that has to do with dress code. Are you saying men who might get an erection at the swimming pool should dress in a way that it wouldn’t be visible to other people? I will agree with that but honestly I’ve never seen someone dealing with that issue at my public pool so explicitly writing it into the dress code seems like overkill to me.

Ever see a murder happen? Still okay with murder being written into the law?

It's illegal to expose your genitalia at a pool.

It's not illegal to have an erection in public, though.

This thread really went off the rails. It's tough to see much of a parallel between smaller swimsuits and exposing one's genitals in public.

Men in thongs, men in see-thru suits... should they be allowed at children's pools?

Have you seen either of these things occur, or do they only exist in your over-heated imagination? And what's your definition of a children's pool? A pool where only kids and their parents are allowed?

Answer the question - should they be allowed?

As long as your genitalia isn't exposed, I'm fine with whatever swimsuit you want to wear to the pool. I also don't have a problem with women going topless to the pool.

So, a see-thru swimsuit would expose genitalia... so you are okay banning them?

They're already illegal in public, so it seems like the rule already exists.

Great, two votes for dress codes!

Now that we agree men shouldn't be allowed to wear bathing suits that permit them to pursue sexual activity at public pools... how about women? Should women be allowed to wear see-thru swimsuits?