How do I let my fiancée know she made a terrible mistake with her hair?

[Anonymous]

It was interesting, for a weekend. But she looks like a different person. Not a fan. Miss the old her.

[Anonymous]

Wait and get used to it. If she dislikes it, maybe help her find a way to make it better. If she likes it, let it be and maybe suggest a different cut next time.

[Anonymous]

You don't. What the f is she supposed to do, magically reattach it all? It'll grow out.

[Anonymous]

It's a dramatic color change.

[Anonymous]

You don't.

[Anonymous]

It's not a terrible mistake. You are just not used to it. Don't make her feel bad about how she looks. She won't keep it that way forever. Who made you Vidal Sasoon?

For better or worse buddy... What about when your hair starts falling out or you gain some weight?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don't.

+1

[Anonymous]

grow some balls and tell her.

but also be ok if she tells you when she's not feeling a change you made.

if you two can't have frank and open convos on something irrelevant as hair, don't get married

[Anonymous]

Ok, dial it back a bit -- a "terrible mistake" is a bit dramatic. But I think you can tell her in a gentle way. "Honey, I miss the old you. You're always beautiful to me, but look isn't my cup of tea". And if she decides to keep it, you deal with it.

Just curious - what color did she change it to?

[Anonymous]

Funny that it's a mistake because YOU don't like it. If she likes it then it wasn't a mistake.

[Anonymous]

Does she like it?

[Anonymous]

"Miss the old her." WTH? She's still the same person.

My god. Men are so simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, dial it back a bit -- a "terrible mistake" is a bit dramatic. But I think you can tell her in a gentle way. "Honey, I miss the old you. You're always beautiful to me, but look isn't my cup of tea". And if she decides to keep it, you deal with it.

Just curious - what color did she change it to?

I agree with this.

First: if the person who doesn't like it can't voice their opinion in a tactful and respectful way, that's a problem. If the person who made the change can't receive a tactfully voiced opinion without losing it, that's also a problem. In a relationship you need to be able to both give and receive criticism or a disagreeing opinion gracefully and like an adult. I don't like it when my partner cuts his hair too short. I've told him that. It hasn't caused a problem.

Second: I don't see anything wrong with thinking that a spouse should want to look good for their partner. If I knew my husband didn't like my new haircut I probably wouldn't keep it. I'm not going to keep it just to spite him. I trust his opinion and I also want to look and feel sexy for him. His opinion does matter to me.

[Anonymous]

She's your fiance, you should be able to express opinions and ideas to her in a kind, construcstive way.

[Anonymous]

If she likes it, that is what counts.

If she asks your opinion, give it.

Golden Rule: Don't be a dick.