How do I let my fiancée know she made a terrible mistake with her hair?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he doesn't tell her, then she might keep doing it.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm in camp tell her.

Tell her so she can know the kind of person you are and she can decide i that's the kind of person she wants to be married to.

Oh give me a break. So you're in camp "keep all your opinions bottled up so you don't hurt anyone's feelings, even if you say it kindly and she's just way over sensitive?" Camp "we can't even communicate honestly"? Glad you're not my spouse.

I wrote " I'm in camp tell her." The opposite of keeping feelings inside. She should know her fiance's feelings and interest in her are completely dependent on how she looks, she can then decide if that's the kind of man she wants to be married to.

As for you being glad I'm not your spouse, the feeling is mutual, I'm glad I'm not married to a man-baby that can't read.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm in camp tell her.

Tell her so she can know the kind of person you are and she can decide i that's the kind of person she wants to be married to.

Oh give me a break. So you're in camp "keep all your opinions bottled up so you don't hurt anyone's feelings, even if you say it kindly and she's just way over sensitive?" Camp "we can't even communicate honestly"? Glad you're not my spouse.

I wrote " I'm in camp tell her." The opposite of keeping feelings inside. She should know her fiance's feelings and interest in her are completely dependent on how she looks, she can then decide if that's the kind of man she wants to be married to.

As for you being glad I'm not your spouse, the feeling is mutual, I'm glad I'm not married to a man-baby that can't read.

Too bad I'm not a man.

[Anonymous]

You do not tell her she "made a mistake."

You say, "I think I prefer it <however>, but as long as you're happy I'm happy. You always look beautiful."

[Anonymous]

"Terrible mistake" and "hair" never go together, because HAIR GROWS BACK.

You big silly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm in camp tell her.

Tell her so she can know the kind of person you are and she can decide i that's the kind of person she wants to be married to.

Oh give me a break. So you're in camp "keep all your opinions bottled up so you don't hurt anyone's feelings, even if you say it kindly and she's just way over sensitive?" Camp "we can't even communicate honestly"? Glad you're not my spouse.

I wrote " I'm in camp tell her." The opposite of keeping feelings inside. She should know her fiance's feelings and interest in her are completely dependent on how she looks, she can then decide if that's the kind of man she wants to be married to.

You are being passive aggressive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep your mouth shut unless she asks and then don't say anything stupid! Try something like "tell me what you think, but I was fine with the way it was before". But you still might get a kick in the groin. She will hear comments from her girlfriends that she will listen to. You're just an accessory.

Why are you so angry?

[Anonymous]

I'd absolutely want to be told in a kind and loving way. If you can't have that kind of frank discussion with your fiance, then you're not ready to be married. Hair is a choice, much like fashion. If my fiance/dh didn't care for an outfit, he would tell me, nicely, that it wasn't flattering or whatever, and I would be glad for his feedback. He's not, as someone said, an accessory. He is my best friend. I value his taste and opinion.

[Anonymous]

As a potential spouse you both should be part of the decision. She sounds awful

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she likes it, that is what counts.

If she asks your opinion, give it.

Golden Rule: Don't be a dick.

Whether she likes it counts, but it's not the only thing that counts. If she rates hairstyle "A" a 9 and hairstyle "B" an 8 while her significant other rates them 2 and 8 respectively, then she should go with hairstyle "B".

I remember when my wife got a mommy-bob. It was horrible. She grew her hair out, and it looks awesome now. I tried not to be a dick about it, but when she asked me how I liked her short hair, I didn't pretend I liked it as well as her long hair. I didn't make a federal case out of it. At the end of the day, it's her hair and her choice. But I definitely had a preference, and I'm happy she took that into consideration.

Just wanted to say that I'm sorry that your wife had a moment where she thought a mommy bob was a good idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a potential spouse you both should be part of the decision. She sounds awful

Haha. You're funny pp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a potential spouse you both should be part of the decision. She sounds awful

+1 I've been married 20 years and I certainly want my dh to find my style attractive. Plus, I value his opinion as he picks better clothes for me than I do for myself. Obviously, I have to like my hair, too. But if he grew a beard or grew his hair out long enough for a ponytail and I hated it, I'd hope he'd take that into consideration.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a potential spouse you both should be part of the decision. She sounds awful

+1 I've been married 20 years and I certainly want my dh to find my style attractive. Plus, I value his opinion as he picks better clothes for me than I do for myself. Obviously, I have to like my hair, too. But if he grew a beard or grew his hair out long enough for a ponytail and I hated it, I'd hope he'd take that into consideration.

I know DCUM is very conservative and traditional leaning, but this is sad to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a potential spouse you both should be part of the decision. She sounds awful

+1 I've been married 20 years and I certainly want my dh to find my style attractive. Plus, I value his opinion as he picks better clothes for me than I do for myself. Obviously, I have to like my hair, too. But if he grew a beard or grew his hair out long enough for a ponytail and I hated it, I'd hope he'd take that into consideration.

I know DCUM is very conservative and traditional leaning, but this is sad to me.

+1,000,000 to the bolded.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You do not tell her she "made a mistake."

You say, "I think I prefer it <however>, but as long as you're happy I'm happy. You always look beautiful."

This. Exactly this.