One child substantially more attractive than the other

[Anonymous]

I don't even know how to say this, but it's becoming relatively obvious that one of my children is much more attractive than the other. My oldest is classically attractive, just got lucky in the gene pool I suppose. She is more attractive than either DH or myself, definitely. The younger, not so much. It's like one is a combination of our worst features and the other is a combination of our best. Just wondering how to handle this if anyone has a similar situation. I am almost afraid that someone else will comment on it.. seems like it's so blatant that it's only a matter of time, and that makes me so sad.

[Anonymous]

OMG, grow up, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't even know how to say this, but it's becoming relatively obvious that one of my children is much more attractive than the other. My oldest is classically attractive, just got lucky in the gene pool I suppose. She is more attractive than either DH or myself, definitely. The younger, not so much. It's like one is a combination of our worst features and the other is a combination of our best. Just wondering how to handle this if anyone has a similar situation. I am almost afraid that someone else will comment on it.. seems like it's so blatant that it's only a matter of time, and that makes me so sad.

Seems like you do know how to say this!

How old are they? If under 10, way too early to worry about this.

[Anonymous]

Your youngest may grow in to their looks, are they at a particularly awkward age now?

[Anonymous]

Prince William and Prince Harry were the same...but as adults Harry took an outsized lead. Focus on other qualities and don't project. Each of your kids will have a separate peer group in which to find approval and acceptance. Shut down anything else coming from family members (which I doubt would happen unless your family members are assholes).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG, grow up, OP.

I think a grown up would offer ways to talk to the kids if it's ever brought up by one of them, or family memebers (happens).

[Anonymous]

Eleanor Roosevelt's mother thought she was unattractive too.



Maybe your hang ups will create the "right" psychological damage that will cause your child to become one of the most accomplished people in history.
https://saintssistersandsluts.wordpress.com/2012/06/18/eleanor-roosevelt-a-late-bloomer/

I think you're unattractive inside, OP, and that's much harder to change. Go meditate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't even know how to say this, but it's becoming relatively obvious that one of my children is much more attractive than the other. My oldest is classically attractive, just got lucky in the gene pool I suppose. She is more attractive than either DH or myself, definitely. The younger, not so much. It's like one is a combination of our worst features and the other is a combination of our best. Just wondering how to handle this if anyone has a similar situation. I am almost afraid that someone else will comment on it.. seems like it's so blatant that it's only a matter of time, and that makes me so sad.

Seems like you do know how to say this!

How old are they? If under 10, way too early to worry about this.

I agree with this but it won't stop stupid people from commenting about your older child's good looks in front of the other, especially since the older one is a girl. You will have to keep a few deflecting phrases at the ready. Someone more creative than me can suggest some.

[Anonymous]

Is the attractive one a girl, OP? And the so-called unattractive one a boy? If so, that's a luckier distribution because, sadly, society places more emphasis on female looks. But most unattractiveness can be overcome by proper grooming and fitness.

[Anonymous]

My brother is incredibly good looking and, on a good day, I was cute but it never bothered me. He's also smart, but I'm smarter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eleanor Roosevelt's mother thought she was unattractive too.



Maybe your hang ups will create the "right" psychological damage that will cause your child to become one of the most accomplished people in history.
https://saintssistersandsluts.wordpress.com/2012/06/18/eleanor-roosevelt-a-late-bloomer/

I think you're unattractive inside, OP, and that's much harder to change. Go meditate.

I think Eleanor Roosevelt was ugly too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eleanor Roosevelt's mother thought she was unattractive too.



Maybe your hang ups will create the "right" psychological damage that will cause your child to become one of the most accomplished people in history.
https://saintssistersandsluts.wordpress.com/2012/06/18/eleanor-roosevelt-a-late-bloomer/

I think you're unattractive inside, OP, and that's much harder to change. Go meditate.

I think Eleanor Roosevelt was ugly too.

PP, which one is her? All three children look beautiful to me, TBH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't even know how to say this, but it's becoming relatively obvious that one of my children is much more attractive than the other. My oldest is classically attractive, just got lucky in the gene pool I suppose. She is more attractive than either DH or myself, definitely. The younger, not so much. It's like one is a combination of our worst features and the other is a combination of our best. Just wondering how to handle this if anyone has a similar situation. I am almost afraid that someone else will comment on it.. seems like it's so blatant that it's only a matter of time, and that makes me so sad.

Seems like you do know how to say this!

How old are they? If under 10, way too early to worry about this.

I agree with this but it won't stop stupid people from commenting about your older child's good looks in front of the other, especially since the older one is a girl. You will have to keep a few deflecting phrases at the ready. Someone more creative than me can suggest some.

If they genuinely aren't going to pick up on it, I'd either ignore it. Or if feeling spunky, I'd say something to the adult when the kid's walk away such as "By XYZ, did you mean what I think you meant?" If the kid hears the comment and it's offensive I'd look at them straight in the eye and say "Excuse me? Do you want to rephrase that?"

[Anonymous]

OP that is the situation with our kids. Older DD, younger DS by 2 years, 3 grades in school. They are mid to late teens and younger DS who is quite handsome and outwardly smart as an extreme extrovert has been told so for years and is full of himself. DD "cleans up well" as some say. She doesn't seem to mind too much particularly since her brother is so annoying.

No real advice other than it happens pretty frequently and if you don't make a big deal of it they probably won't either as long as they are a few grades apart in age.

My two sisters were 1 year apart and one looked like an angel (sadly we lost her to a young tragic death) the other, while beautiful as a college student and beyond, was an ugly duckling. They got along terribly until they were adults and living in different areas. Too much competition for older ducking from oblivious to her looks angelic younger tomboy sister.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eleanor Roosevelt's mother thought she was unattractive too.



Maybe your hang ups will create the "right" psychological damage that will cause your child to become one of the most accomplished people in history.
https://saintssistersandsluts.wordpress.com/2012/06/18/eleanor-roosevelt-a-late-bloomer/

I think you're unattractive inside, OP, and that's much harder to change. Go meditate.

I think Eleanor Roosevelt was ugly too.

PP, which one is her? All three children look beautiful to me, TBH.

what? only the youngest one is cute.