Is it offensive if someone’s excuse not to hang out is laundry or grocery shopping?

[Anonymous]

Doing that = staying at home

[Anonymous]

This is why no good comes of asking for a reason…she doesn’t want to/can’t whatever. No reason needed.

[Anonymous]

Does this friend regularly make it to social events with other people, or does she cancel on everyone? The only two people I've ever known like your friend, who would cancel at the last minute to just stay home both suffered from depression. They had every intention of going out when they made the plans, but then just wouldn't be up to it.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s nice that you can find other times to do laundry. Not everyone shares that level of flexibility. I have friends with tight schedules. Sometimes when we hang out, I go to their house or we run errands together — because my priority is maintaining the friendship, not just having someone who can go out when I can. It would only bother me if I felt that it was an excuse — rather than a genuine conflict.

I would say she has more flexibility than me. She is a SAHM of 2. She literally can do laundry anytime. She lives in a house with her own laundry. It isn’t like she has to take her laundry to a laundromat.

People think that SAHM somehow have all the free time in the world, when in reality they are usually busier than other moms, because they get no help for any chores, and especially with little ones, chores are endless and sleep is scarce.

Don’t resent your friend, but if you don’t like what’s going on, and something you’d like to do comes up, don’t cancel for her. Don’t go out of your way and then get blown off, but don’t be too harsh. If you want the friendship because of your daughter, suck it up and go with it, with a balance to where your daughter doesn’t feel expendable. Little ones are all feeling, and depending on how you do it, she may pick up or not on it.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

You must have never been a shm. Jealousy!!

I don't want to make this yet another mommy wars thread because those are ridiculous, but I don't understand why SAHMs think that all WOH parents have outside help with anything other than watching their children during the day. I am either in the car or at work from 8:00am - 5:00pm, otherwise I'm at home with my children or taking my kids to children's activities or doing something social or cleaning my house or doing laundry or making meals, or grocery shopping, just the same as you. We don't have cleaners, no one else is doing our laundry or trimming our hedges or mowing the lawn. So, yes, the idea that you are somehow busier or more exhausted than I am is laughable.

Most families with working parents do have cleaners. Hell even some SAHMs have cleaners. I’m a SAHM and I don’t have any help. Our house is messy and I am perpetually exhausted.