Baby is two weeks and gender disappointment hasn’t gone away

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure this will help but fwiw gender is a lot more fluid these days. What we think of as a traditional boy and a traditional girl 10 years ago is slipping away a little. Maybe it might help a little to think of the baby as a kid, and keep all sorts of traditional-boy (sports, mud, I dunno) and traditional-girl (pink, baby dolls, toddler cooking stoves, whateves) open to them. It will turn your kid into a better little person anyway (boys need to cook too and girls love mud etc), and might be a workaround for your feelings here.

This is a great and refreshing perspective. OP, your baby is exactly the one you were meant to have, and will be absolutely perfect for you. Give it time, and give yourself grace for your feelings. You will be a wonderful mom to your baby.

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Anonymous wrote:I think this thread is a good argument for finding out the gender early especially if you have any preference or even think you might. If you’re going to be disappointed, better to deal with it pregnant than post partum imo.

So you think people just deal with any disappointment when they find out then it goes away? I don't think so.

Sample size of one, but yes, I chose not to be surprised because I didn't want feelings of disappointment at birth. Finding out in advance allowed me to work through those feelings prior.