What behavior caused you to spank?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Older child bit the younger child. One hard whack with the belt on the behind sent a strong and clear message to the brain: that is completely wrong. After the spanking, biting never happened again. I would say a spanking is as effective as 500 time outs with whining & pleading to be a good child and behave.

Whack! It works, has worked for thousands of years to correct a child. I have actually had people come up to me and marvel how well behaved my children are. I joke and tell them they are afraid of getting beaten half to death so they know to behave.

When my #1 bit my #2, I picked #2 up and hurried away while saying...WE DO NOT PLAY WITH PEOPLE WHO BITE...and then ignored #1 for a good long time while having lots of fun with #2. Biting never happened again.

Ignoring your little kid while lavishing attention on your other little kid in my mind is more damaging than a simple swipe to the bottom. I’d rather get a swat to the bottom than to have a mother’s love withdrawn and given to my sibling. Jesus.

I’m glad I’m not the only one who thought that. Emotional abuse is insidious


I have spanked my son for running in to road repeatedly after being told no and once when he threw his sippy cup at me in anger and broke one of my eye socket bones

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son just kept darting into the road and wouldn't hold hands. One time too many and he almost got hit by a car. I swatted his butt and it never happened again. He held my hand like an angel forevermore.

This seems like a pretty common refrain. When parents who havent spanked finally do it for something serious, it actually really works. Surprising.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Older child bit the younger child. One hard whack with the belt on the behind sent a strong and clear message to the brain: that is completely wrong. After the spanking, biting never happened again. I would say a spanking is as effective as 500 time outs with whining & pleading to be a good child and behave.

Whack! It works, has worked for thousands of years to correct a child. I have actually had people come up to me and marvel how well behaved my children are. I joke and tell them they are afraid of getting beaten half to death so they know to behave.

When my #1 bit my #2, I picked #2 up and hurried away while saying...WE DO NOT PLAY WITH PEOPLE WHO BITE...and then ignored #1 for a good long time while having lots of fun with #2. Biting never happened again.

Ignoring your little kid while lavishing attention on your other little kid in my mind is more damaging than a simple swipe to the bottom. I’d rather get a swat to the bottom than to have a mother’s love withdrawn and given to my sibling. Jesus.

I’m glad I’m not the only one who thought that. Emotional abuse is insidious


I have spanked my son for running in to road repeatedly after being told no and once when he threw his sippy cup at me in anger and broke one of my eye socket bones

You think hitting your kid with a belt and "joking" to strangers that you're going to beat your children to death is better parenting than planned ignoring ...?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who are you people? Both DH and I were spanked as children and we didn’t grow up to be violent adults with self worth issues. We’re still close to our parents too.

Such conviction about spanking being physical abuse, but I never hear about the emotional and psychological abuse that children endure, which is likely far more damaging in the long run. Judging by the mean, nasty posts I frequently read on DCUM…

Same here, I was spanked a few times and who cares. Close to my parents. I haven't spanked my kids, but major eyeroll at what a big deal some ppl think it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son just kept darting into the road and wouldn't hold hands. One time too many and he almost got hit by a car. I swatted his butt and it never happened again. He held my hand like an angel forevermore.

This seems like a pretty common refrain. When parents who havent spanked finally do it for something serious, it actually really works. Surprising.

It's absolutely the lazy way. If you have a child with actual impulse control issues like ADHD or ASD, spanking won't work and will make it worse. If you have an NT child, you can train them without spanking.

OTOH, I don't blame a parent who hits their child out of fear/surprise when they do something really dangerous. I just think it's self-serving bullsh*t to claim it's good parenting or the only way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^oh and for the traffic one my toddler randomly sprinted into the road just yesterday, when he was by my side on the sidewalk, after having been spanked (lightly obviously) for it about 6 months ago and never trying it again. A car slammed on its breaks, I lost maybe 20 years off my life, and I screamed so loud i am sure it traumatized him more than the spank that he clearly forgot about since he tried it again. I have heart palpitations just thinking about it again. Some toddlers just do insane and unpredictable things (like sprinting across the neighborhood, not busy, road when I’m RIGHT THERE speaking with my other child, before I can grab him and when the one car of the hour happened to go by) and if a quick spank means he won’t do it again for a few months, then Jesus, getting a spank is better then getting run over.

Obviously your periodic spanking isn't working ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Older child bit the younger child. One hard whack with the belt on the behind sent a strong and clear message to the brain: that is completely wrong. After the spanking, biting never happened again. I would say a spanking is as effective as 500 time outs with whining & pleading to be a good child and behave.

Whack! It works, has worked for thousands of years to correct a child. I have actually had people come up to me and marvel how well behaved my children are. I joke and tell them they are afraid of getting beaten half to death so they know to behave.

When my #1 bit my #2, I picked #2 up and hurried away while saying...WE DO NOT PLAY WITH PEOPLE WHO BITE...and then ignored #1 for a good long time while having lots of fun with #2. Biting never happened again.

Ignoring your little kid while lavishing attention on your other little kid in my mind is more damaging than a simple swipe to the bottom. I’d rather get a swat to the bottom than to have a mother’s love withdrawn and given to my sibling. Jesus.

I’m glad I’m not the only one who thought that. Emotional abuse is insidious


I have spanked my son for running in to road repeatedly after being told no and once when he threw his sippy cup at me in anger and broke one of my eye socket bones

You think hitting your kid with a belt and "joking" to strangers that you're going to beat your children to death is better parenting than planned ignoring ...?

No one is talking about beating their kid with a belt (or at least, these posters were not). They’re talking about a quick smack over pants.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^^oh and for the traffic one my toddler randomly sprinted into the road just yesterday, when he was by my side on the sidewalk, after having been spanked (lightly obviously) for it about 6 months ago and never trying it again. A car slammed on its breaks, I lost maybe 20 years off my life, and I screamed so loud i am sure it traumatized him more than the spank that he clearly forgot about since he tried it again. I have heart palpitations just thinking about it again. Some toddlers just do insane and unpredictable things (like sprinting across the neighborhood, not busy, road when I’m RIGHT THERE speaking with my other child, before I can grab him and when the one car of the hour happened to go by) and if a quick spank means he won’t do it again for a few months, then Jesus, getting a spank is better then getting run over.

Obviously your periodic spanking isn't working ...

It worked for like 6 months! Way longer than saying “no street! Street is dangerous! Mommy is MAD!” which lasted for maybe 2 days!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Older child bit the younger child. One hard whack with the belt on the behind sent a strong and clear message to the brain: that is completely wrong. After the spanking, biting never happened again. I would say a spanking is as effective as 500 time outs with whining & pleading to be a good child and behave.

Whack! It works, has worked for thousands of years to correct a child. I have actually had people come up to me and marvel how well behaved my children are. I joke and tell them they are afraid of getting beaten half to death so they know to behave.

When my #1 bit my #2, I picked #2 up and hurried away while saying...WE DO NOT PLAY WITH PEOPLE WHO BITE...and then ignored #1 for a good long time while having lots of fun with #2. Biting never happened again.

Ignoring your little kid while lavishing attention on your other little kid in my mind is more damaging than a simple swipe to the bottom. I’d rather get a swat to the bottom than to have a mother’s love withdrawn and given to my sibling. Jesus.

I’m glad I’m not the only one who thought that. Emotional abuse is insidious


I have spanked my son for running in to road repeatedly after being told no and once when he threw his sippy cup at me in anger and broke one of my eye socket bones

You think hitting your kid with a belt and "joking" to strangers that you're going to beat your children to death is better parenting than planned ignoring ...?

Who is joking about murdering their children other than you….? What the actual F?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Older child bit the younger child. One hard whack with the belt on the behind sent a strong and clear message to the brain: that is completely wrong. After the spanking, biting never happened again. I would say a spanking is as effective as 500 time outs with whining & pleading to be a good child and behave.

Whack! It works, has worked for thousands of years to correct a child. I have actually had people come up to me and marvel how well behaved my children are. I joke and tell them they are afraid of getting beaten half to death so they know to behave.

When my #1 bit my #2, I picked #2 up and hurried away while saying...WE DO NOT PLAY WITH PEOPLE WHO BITE...and then ignored #1 for a good long time while having lots of fun with #2. Biting never happened again.

Ignoring your little kid while lavishing attention on your other little kid in my mind is more damaging than a simple swipe to the bottom. I’d rather get a swat to the bottom than to have a mother’s love withdrawn and given to my sibling. Jesus.

I’m glad I’m not the only one who thought that. Emotional abuse is insidious


I have spanked my son for running in to road repeatedly after being told no and once when he threw his sippy cup at me in anger and broke one of my eye socket bones

You think hitting your kid with a belt and "joking" to strangers that you're going to beat your children to death is better parenting than planned ignoring ...?

No one is talking about beating their kid with a belt (or at least, these posters were not). They’re talking about a quick smack over pants.

Read the PP. And it's hitting, not a "quick smack."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Older child bit the younger child. One hard whack with the belt on the behind sent a strong and clear message to the brain: that is completely wrong. After the spanking, biting never happened again. I would say a spanking is as effective as 500 time outs with whining & pleading to be a good child and behave.

Whack! It works, has worked for thousands of years to correct a child. I have actually had people come up to me and marvel how well behaved my children are. I joke and tell them they are afraid of getting beaten half to death so they know to behave.

When my #1 bit my #2, I picked #2 up and hurried away while saying...WE DO NOT PLAY WITH PEOPLE WHO BITE...and then ignored #1 for a good long time while having lots of fun with #2. Biting never happened again.

Ignoring your little kid while lavishing attention on your other little kid in my mind is more damaging than a simple swipe to the bottom. I’d rather get a swat to the bottom than to have a mother’s love withdrawn and given to my sibling. Jesus.

I’m glad I’m not the only one who thought that. Emotional abuse is insidious


I have spanked my son for running in to road repeatedly after being told no and once when he threw his sippy cup at me in anger and broke one of my eye socket bones

You think hitting your kid with a belt and "joking" to strangers that you're going to beat your children to death is better parenting than planned ignoring ...?

Who is joking about murdering their children other than you….? What the actual F?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why I would cause physical pain to a child because I wasn’t willing to teach them to behave? At that point I would just not have children? Because things like biting, traffic, grabbing knives are all behaviors parents teach children not to do all the time, all over the world, without hitting them. Hitting them would just mean I was a failure and that hardly seems the fault of a child.

Omfg "I would just not have children." Okay then, don't. So tiresome.

[Anonymous]

I’ll admit I’ve popped DD on the bottom a few times. Generally when she has done something dangerous, but honestly a couple times out of sheer frustration. I’m embarrassed by it now and apologized for letting me emotions get to me and that I reacted that way. One night she was in the bathtub and kept climbing out and I was afraid she was going to get hurt- told her not to do that again (I was sitting right next to the tub). She was laughing and thought it was a game and I eventually popped her on the bottom. It left a red mark and I was HORRIFIED. She didn’t seem phased by it AT ALL but the red mark on her skin is something that will haunt me. I’ll never raise a hand to my children again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Older child bit the younger child. One hard whack with the belt on the behind sent a strong and clear message to the brain: that is completely wrong. After the spanking, biting never happened again. I would say a spanking is as effective as 500 time outs with whining & pleading to be a good child and behave.

Whack! It works, has worked for thousands of years to correct a child. I have actually had people come up to me and marvel how well behaved my children are. I joke and tell them they are afraid of getting beaten half to death so they know to behave.

When my #1 bit my #2, I picked #2 up and hurried away while saying...WE DO NOT PLAY WITH PEOPLE WHO BITE...and then ignored #1 for a good long time while having lots of fun with #2. Biting never happened again.

Ignoring your little kid while lavishing attention on your other little kid in my mind is more damaging than a simple swipe to the bottom. I’d rather get a swat to the bottom than to have a mother’s love withdrawn and given to my sibling. Jesus.

I’m glad I’m not the only one who thought that. Emotional abuse is insidious


I have spanked my son for running in to road repeatedly after being told no and once when he threw his sippy cup at me in anger and broke one of my eye socket bones

You think hitting your kid with a belt and "joking" to strangers that you're going to beat your children to death is better parenting than planned ignoring ...?

No one is talking about beating their kid with a belt (or at least, these posters were not). They’re talking about a quick smack over pants.

Read the very first post in the thread again. "One hard whack with the belt" and "afraid of getting beaten half to death".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The first time I spanked was after my oldest, then 3, had three times pushed his infant sister back from a seated position so she hit her head on the floor, for his own amusement. Timeouts and talking about being gentle hadn’t worked.

I said “this time you’re going to get spanked for doing that. You’ll be spanked now, and if you do it again. This is what it means to get spanked,” and I pulled his pants down, put him across my lap, and spanked him maybe five times.

It certainly wasn’t the last time I spanked, but it was the last time he committed that offense.

This is exactly why I have an issue with parents who spank. Where were you? Why weren’t you making sure your infant was in a safe place and your 3 year old was engaged elsewhere? Putting the responsibility for a three year old to know what their actions mean in this case doesn’t make sense. You reached the end of your capacity as a parent and that’s why you spanked. I had an infant and three year old and never remotely had to deal with this situation because infant was not left unattended with older child and older child was engaged in an appropriate activity.

Agree with this, and it applies in the case of spanking a kid for running onto the road/parking lot. I would feel terrible for letting them get into that situation. I would spank myself!