What behavior caused you to spank?

[Anonymous]

A friend of mine was talking about how she is anti-spanking but her 4yr old kept purposefully running onto her brother baseball field during practice and after timeouts and removal didn't work she swatted her bottom and she hasn't ran on the field since.

A know almost everyone is anti-spanking but it seems to me that often parents have that one time they broke their stance. Is this pretty typical?

[Anonymous]

I did once (for running away) but in DD's heavy winter clothes it didn't make an impression and then I felt even worse for not only breaking my own rule but being ineffective at it. Do not recommend.

[Anonymous]

She should not have brought her 4 year old for brought toys/ipad for the child to have something to do. I don't think one swat is a big deal but I would never ever do it. Lots of other ways to handle the situation. Time out in car would be better.

[Anonymous]

It’s much more likely to not work. It’s not like this magic discipline that works well and we just don’t do it because of the trauma. It also doesn’t work!

[Anonymous]

Nope. I'm really proud of myself for never spanking. I grew up getting hit by both parents, and grew up afraid of my father, and inherited his rage issues. And I worked (and still work) really hard at not taking rage out on my children.

I have screamed harshly enough that I've hurt my throat for two days, a few times (once was for running into a busy parking lot with a lot of blind spots) because she was angry at me. I've grabbed arms a few times. But I've never spanked any of my kids.

[Anonymous]

my then 3/4 yr old was having a terrible meltdown and I had tried everything from ignoring to comforting to offering help to calm down and she started throwing things across the room and I finally swatted her bottom and she snapped out of it. Was it the right choice? no. Do I think it ruined her for life? also no.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, nope. As someone who was hit as punishment I am 100% never doing it to my kid

Plus my kid is a little mimic so I know spanking or hitting him will very likely cause him to hit others. Nope.

[Anonymous]

Being abusive and having no self control. Oh, you mean the child? You should never strike a child.

[Anonymous]

We never did it but I do not think a one time thing is abusive or life altering. I do think in most cases, spanking is more about a parent losing personal control and that is to be avoided. I feel the same way about really screaming at a kid (not just yelling) but in their face screaming.

[Anonymous]

I never hit my kids. Once, when DH was cooking with DD she repeatedly grabbed for the knife. Out of frustration, he slapped her hand. She was very upset. For about a month after that, anytime DH asked her to do anything, she’d reply loudly, “okay, Daddy, please don’t hit me”. DH got a lot of dirty looks in public.

[Anonymous]

Older child bit the younger child. One hard whack with the belt on the behind sent a strong and clear message to the brain: that is completely wrong. After the spanking, biting never happened again. I would say a spanking is as effective as 500 time outs with whining & pleading to be a good child and behave.

Whack! It works, has worked for thousands of years to correct a child. I have actually had people come up to me and marvel how well behaved my children are. I joke and tell them they are afraid of getting beaten half to death so they know to behave.

[Anonymous]

My son just kept darting into the road and wouldn't hold hands. One time too many and he almost got hit by a car. I swatted his butt and it never happened again. He held my hand like an angel forevermore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. I'm really proud of myself for never spanking. I grew up getting hit by both parents, and grew up afraid of my father, and inherited his rage issues. And I worked (and still work) really hard at not taking rage out on my children.

I have screamed harshly enough that I've hurt my throat for two days, a few times (once was for running into a busy parking lot with a lot of blind spots) because she was angry at me. I've grabbed arms a few times. But I've never spanked any of my kids.

+1 on the first part. I grew up getting spanked very occasionally and it resulted in fear of speaking up in general and I still suffer from self worth issues. I also have rage issues that I am working hard at getting rid of.

If we're not supposed to hit other adults we shouldn't hit children who are helpless and can't defend themselves. It also teaches kids that violence is ok in some circumstances when somebody doesn't do what you want them to do. Terrible "lesson" to teach your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We never did it but I do not think a one time thing is abusive or life altering. I do think in most cases, spanking is more about a parent losing personal control and that is to be avoided. I feel the same way about really screaming at a kid (not just yelling) but in their face screaming.

I'm the pp who spanked for running into the road. I never, ever lose control. Even that spanking was controlled and dispassionate. I was in a store the other day and a mom just kept screaming at a 3 year old and slapping her hands in the shopping cart. The little girl was crying and it made me cry too. Such abuse. She was just really bullying that little girl. Some people shouldn't have kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Older child bit the younger child. One hard whack with the belt on the behind sent a strong and clear message to the brain: that is completely wrong. After the spanking, biting never happened again. I would say a spanking is as effective as 500 time outs with whining & pleading to be a good child and behave.

Whack! It works, has worked for thousands of years to correct a child. I have actually had people come up to me and marvel how well behaved my children are. I joke and tell them they are afraid of getting beaten half to death so they know to behave.

When my #1 bit my #2, I picked #2 up and hurried away while saying...WE DO NOT PLAY WITH PEOPLE WHO BITE...and then ignored #1 for a good long time while having lots of fun with #2. Biting never happened again.