Annoying vegan sibling

[Anonymous]

Most of the vegans that have responded have mentioned they like to add to the table.

The hosting tantrums here are weird.

[Anonymous]

The posts pop up fairly often on sm sites and the attitude of the person with the dietary restrictions

[Anonymous]

from above

says a lot. I wonder if the ones who complain ever reached out to the host in advance to try to help them with ideas. As a host I would welcome that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every vegan and vegetarian is annoying, well that I met! You make them a ton of healthy veggies and they eat the potatoes. My niece was vegan for a while. We were all lectured about how Texas Road House uses animal fat or butter on their baked potatoes so she can't even get that! A couple of months later, she decided that being vegan was too hard and she is back to being vegetarian, but no eggs, other than in baked goods. And McD french fries are ok, cause why not, and do they really use beef fat on them?
She is obese and can't figure out why. Maybe ordering butter paneer and butter garlic naan non-stop has something to do with it?

I have never been to a restaurant at which I could not order several sides of mixed veggies and/or green salad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We recently switched to a vegan diet for health reasons and a chronic disease that keeps getting worse. It’s made me more empathetic to people with dietary restrictions. But I used to share similar views as a lot of these posters. Now I f I have guests, I like to ask if they have any restrictions and try to be accommodating.

Of course most of us ask about restrictions, and go out of our way to accommodate them. To the VERY FEW vegans who manage to accept this hospitality gracefully, thank you.

But, as evidenced by this very thread, many attention-seeking vegans or “vegans of convenience” will pull shyt like eating regular, dairy-filled mashed potatoes and ignoring the efforts of their host, who also made vegan mashed potatoes. Or will have the audacity to complain about the BRAND of vegan cheese purchased by their host.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, I was starving and inhaled all the potatoes after being there for hours without eating (all the “heavy apps” were unsafe food choices for me). I was desperate. The veggie looked amazing but I was unable to see through my hunger. I’ll pack snacks next time.

Guess you were not that badly starving if you bypassed carrots and broccoli and green beans, and sweet potatoes. What a funny selective hunger and starvation mode you go in!

I'm vegan, and when I'm starving....nope, not doing broccoli and carrots. Gimme French fries and a greasy veggie burger.

Why are you “starving” at 6 p.m.? Didn’t you eat breakfast and lunch, and maybe a snack? Are you that big of a moron that you can’t feed yourself all day, and expect to fill, fill, fill up on free food?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, I was starving and inhaled all the potatoes after being there for hours without eating (all the “heavy apps” were unsafe food choices for me). I was desperate. The veggie looked amazing but I was unable to see through my hunger. I’ll pack snacks next time.

Guess you were not that badly starving if you bypassed carrots and broccoli and green beans, and sweet potatoes. What a funny selective hunger and starvation mode you go in!

Did you have a main dish for this person or did you decide they can make do on sides and crudités? A guest is a guest, even if you project an arch behavior onto them. If you cannot provide a proper complete meal, let them know ahead to bring something or where they can order in. The need to control is rife in this family.

Oh, dear, what is a main dish for vegans?? What an awful host I must have been to have pasta, and veggies, and salad, and was I missing tofu? What is the accepted list of 200 dishes all good hosts must have for vegan guests?

I realize you are being sarcastic, but in case anyone on here is actually interested in preparing tempting vegan meals for guests, check out the weekly menus on the Vegetable+Bucher site. I started ordering these when my college-aged kids came home for the summer and I got tired of cooking for so many. We are all omnivores, but have been perfectly content with their vegan options for breakfast and lunch. Proteins they use include tofu, quinoa, beans, nuts and seitan.

Back to OP’s point, I do know new vegans, gluten or carb free diet enthusiasts who are beyond annoying and attention-seeking. As a PP noted, it’s not about the diet at all. The diet just provides an exciting new outlet for their narcissism. I also know a lot of vegans, vegetarians, and pescatarians who don’t talk about their diets and are motivated by environmental or prevention of animal cruelty reasons. I also know several people who have legit issues with gluten. You need to be careful not to lump the annoying attention seekers together with all the others who happen to follow a special diet for one reason or another.

No, I don’t care to “tempt” vegans. I care to accommodate them. If you don’t like what I serve, decline the invitation.

[Anonymous]

As a person who mostly follows a Whole Food Plant based diet (I still have half/half in coffee), when I am invited to an event or out to a particular restaurant I ALWAYS, ALWAYS eat before I go. Some of my friends know how I eat and will ask what can they prepare for me. I typically tell them do not fuss over me and as long as there is salad and fruit I will be OK. Normally, there are some sort of veggies as side dishes that I can enjoy.
I never say I am vegan simply because I don't want the fake processed vegan cheese, meats or anything else labeled "vegan". If the ingredients on a box, jar, can, etc have items other than an actual food, it stays on the shelf.
I find other people make more of a big deal about the way I've chosen to eat than I do. I try to move the conversation away from my food choices, so I don't have to hear and educate the "Where do you get your protein question, which ALWAYS comes up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a person who mostly follows a Whole Food Plant based diet (I still have half/half in coffee), when I am invited to an event or out to a particular restaurant I ALWAYS, ALWAYS eat before I go. Some of my friends know how I eat and will ask what can they prepare for me. I typically tell them do not fuss over me and as long as there is salad and fruit I will be OK. Normally, there are some sort of veggies as side dishes that I can enjoy.
I never say I am vegan simply because I don't want the fake processed vegan cheese, meats or anything else labeled "vegan". If the ingredients on a box, jar, can, etc have items other than an actual food, it stays on the shelf.
I find other people make more of a big deal about the way I've chosen to eat than I do. I try to move the conversation away from my food choices, so I don't have to hear and educate the "Where do you get your protein question, which ALWAYS comes up.

It's commendable that you take responsibility for your food choices and try to work with the host but your post points out the difficulty non vegans have in that your preferences are different from other vegans we may know. It can be very difficult to please others with dietary restrictions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a person who mostly follows a Whole Food Plant based diet (I still have half/half in coffee), when I am invited to an event or out to a particular restaurant I ALWAYS, ALWAYS eat before I go. Some of my friends know how I eat and will ask what can they prepare for me. I typically tell them do not fuss over me and as long as there is salad and fruit I will be OK. Normally, there are some sort of veggies as side dishes that I can enjoy.
I never say I am vegan simply because I don't want the fake processed vegan cheese, meats or anything else labeled "vegan". If the ingredients on a box, jar, can, etc have items other than an actual food, it stays on the shelf.
I find other people make more of a big deal about the way I've chosen to eat than I do. I try to move the conversation away from my food choices, so I don't have to hear and educate the "Where do you get your protein question, which ALWAYS comes up.

Why even say you’re vegan then? Do you get it? Just eat beforehand, eat what you eat, and leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a person who mostly follows a Whole Food Plant based diet (I still have half/half in coffee), when I am invited to an event or out to a particular restaurant I ALWAYS, ALWAYS eat before I go. Some of my friends know how I eat and will ask what can they prepare for me. I typically tell them do not fuss over me and as long as there is salad and fruit I will be OK. Normally, there are some sort of veggies as side dishes that I can enjoy.
I never say I am vegan simply because I don't want the fake processed vegan cheese, meats or anything else labeled "vegan". If the ingredients on a box, jar, can, etc have items other than an actual food, it stays on the shelf.
I find other people make more of a big deal about the way I've chosen to eat than I do. I try to move the conversation away from my food choices, so I don't have to hear and educate the "Where do you get your protein question, which ALWAYS comes up.

Why even say you’re vegan then? Do you get it? Just eat beforehand, eat what you eat, and leave.

It's helpful for pp to speak up. The host doesn't waste food if there are individual servings and if possible, as a host I'd rather have something for those with dietary restrictions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We recently switched to a vegan diet for health reasons and a chronic disease that keeps getting worse. It’s made me more empathetic to people with dietary restrictions. But I used to share similar views as a lot of these posters. Now I f I have guests, I like to ask if they have any restrictions and try to be accommodating.

Of course most of us ask about restrictions, and go out of our way to accommodate them. To the VERY FEW vegans who manage to accept this hospitality gracefully, thank you.

But, as evidenced by this very thread, many attention-seeking vegans or “vegans of convenience” will pull shyt like eating regular, dairy-filled mashed potatoes and ignoring the efforts of their host, who also made vegan mashed potatoes. Or will have the audacity to complain about the BRAND of vegan cheese purchased by their host.

To be fair..most vegan cheese is inedible. Especially the brands you’ll find at the supermarket. I’d rather you not try and sneak my own food in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a person who mostly follows a Whole Food Plant based diet (I still have half/half in coffee), when I am invited to an event or out to a particular restaurant I ALWAYS, ALWAYS eat before I go. Some of my friends know how I eat and will ask what can they prepare for me. I typically tell them do not fuss over me and as long as there is salad and fruit I will be OK. Normally, there are some sort of veggies as side dishes that I can enjoy.
I never say I am vegan simply because I don't want the fake processed vegan cheese, meats or anything else labeled "vegan". If the ingredients on a box, jar, can, etc have items other than an actual food, it stays on the shelf.
I find other people make more of a big deal about the way I've chosen to eat than I do. I try to move the conversation away from my food choices, so I don't have to hear and educate the "Where do you get your protein question, which ALWAYS comes up.

PREACH

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, I was starving and inhaled all the potatoes after being there for hours without eating (all the “heavy apps” were unsafe food choices for me). I was desperate. The veggie looked amazing but I was unable to see through my hunger. I’ll pack snacks next time.

Guess you were not that badly starving if you bypassed carrots and broccoli and green beans, and sweet potatoes. What a funny selective hunger and starvation mode you go in!

I'm vegan, and when I'm starving....nope, not doing broccoli and carrots. Gimme French fries and a greasy veggie burger.

Why are you “starving” at 6 p.m.? Didn’t you eat breakfast and lunch, and maybe a snack? Are you that big of a moron that you can’t feed yourself all day, and expect to fill, fill, fill up on free food?

My host said not to worry. They’d have me covered. I believed them at their word. My bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, I was starving and inhaled all the potatoes after being there for hours without eating (all the “heavy apps” were unsafe food choices for me). I was desperate. The veggie looked amazing but I was unable to see through my hunger. I’ll pack snacks next time.

Guess you were not that badly starving if you bypassed carrots and broccoli and green beans, and sweet potatoes. What a funny selective hunger and starvation mode you go in!

I'm vegan, and when I'm starving....nope, not doing broccoli and carrots. Gimme French fries and a greasy veggie burger.

Oh, so you are a vegan and you think the proper main dish... is an imitation of meat? A veggie burger is ok, but veggies are not? Lentils are not nor are beans? But, put them in a shape of meat! Voila!
I think we (not you, but most normal people) can all agree that we do hate vegans and with totally legit resons.

No, carrots and broccoli are not an acceptable main dish, which is what PP wrote. They said nothing about bean or lentil dishes. What is wrong with you?

I swear, anti-vegans are more militant than vegans. EAT YOUR CARROT STICKS AND BE GRATEFUL!!! Bet your parties are loads of fun 🙄