Losing guest room and inlaws

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Anonymous wrote:What if you had a full size mattress for the guest room instead of a queen? Would that give you enough room to work with?

This would certainly make me flee to a hotel. No way am I sharing a full size with another adult! It's only a few inches wider than a twin.

My husband and I are both pretty thin, so we wouldn’t have any trouble sleeping in a full bed. In fact, we did for years, and it was fine.

Um, the issue isn’t thinness. It’s existence. A full bed is 22” narrower AND also 5” shorter than a king.

Aren't most hotels two full sized beds?

No, they are two queen beds.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd use the nursery as a guest room for 6-12 months. Do you have an "extra" room, like a family or play room? We have a pretty tiny house (3 bedrooms, but one of them we use for our TV and bookshelves, our two kids share a room), and when we have guests, we close off the third bedroom and open up the foldout couch. Yes, it means the TV is not accessible when someone is staying there, but it's not a huge deal. It's just not realistic to expect families in expensive areas to have extra bedrooms not being used year-round.

OP here. The nursery is actually the TINIEST room in the house. It's like 8x9. We'd have to move all the furniture out of that room to fit a queen bed in there, including our rocking chair and changing table. And we don't really have room for all of that in our master bedroom. I'd be tripping over stuff piled to the ceiling while I'm up all night with a newborn. Also, I already have a bassinet in my room set up.

No one thinks my inlaws should stay at my parent's home? My parents have 3 lovely guest rooms. All of our friends and their kids stay there when they visit us (although normally my parents are gone on extended vacations when my friends stay there. My parents would be here when the new baby is born so someone can watch our boys while we're in the hospital). They live one block away.

That is QUITE the imposition on your parents. I think it's inappropriate that your friends are staying at your parents' house as it is. Stop being so cheap.

+1. I find it hard to believe that your parents are crazy about having so many of YOUR houseguests.

OP here. My parents travel a lot of the year, so usually aren't there. They're actually thrilled about guests. A lot of the guests are from my side of the family too, so they're in town to see us and my parents.

DP. Just an aside not related to this immediate visit but...OP, consider thinking now about setting expectations and boundaries for the future. You're extremely lucky in the situation you describe (bolded above) but you do need to plan for someday when your parents do not travel as much, get older/have health issues, are in their own home more, or sell up and move somewhere smaller or whatever. It can happen. They may also become less thrilled about guests at some point if they want or need more room for themselves or are around more. I would really start setting expectations now with the in-laws that your parents' house is not the go-to default place to stay. Time to get the in-laws used to hotels. If/when they can stay at your parents' house, that's just great, but it sounds as if there's a general expectation by you, them, other relatives and friends, that your parents' place is "usually" vacant and that may not be the case in years to come.