Losing guest room and inlaws

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if you had a full size mattress for the guest room instead of a queen? Would that give you enough room to work with?

This would certainly make me flee to a hotel. No way am I sharing a full size with another adult! It's only a few inches wider than a twin.

[Anonymous]

Do you *want * The in laws visiting after the baby is born? Are they going to be helpful or create more work and stress when you’re already exhausted? If the latter, this is a good time to break tradition and do the hotel thing. If the former, offer up your parents guest room Abbas tell them that’s the best you can do right now.

[Anonymous]

I hate hate staying at people's houses but when I have to, I deal with it. It's insane to adjust your whole living situation for an occasional visit when your space is at a premium. They will be just fine at an airbnb or hotel when they visit. I have a 4000+ SF house with 5 beds/4 baths and I don't have a designated guest room because it would be such a waste of space. Our play room has a sleeper sofa and an attached bath and we use it as a guest room when needed. Get your 3 y/o his own room.

[Anonymous]

You warn ILs ahead of time that they will be more comfortable at an hotel. They will scoff, but after sleeping on the back-breaking sofa-bed, they will book a hotel room for all future stays, and wonder why they never did before.

End of story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How helpful are your in laws when they come?

This matters.

OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Everyone's comments on giving my son the room really makes me think we need to do it asap. I'll work on it this weekend. I can tell it's been a big deal for him, he's so very proud of not peeing that night time diaper (he's been potty trained during the day since before 2) and is a bit teary eyed about leaving the nursery too. He's excited about the baby but I'm sure becoming a middle child is hard. I've already done 95% of the work for his room and have the curtains, decor and furniture ready to go. Just need to buy the mattress and hang everything. I'd also like to deep clean that nursery so both kids aren't sharing a closet.

NP here. You absolutely need to move quick on this. You gave him a target, he met it -- hold up your end of the bargain.

FWIW, I recently bought a $200 memory foam twin mattress from Amazon and it is REALLY comfortable! My son loves it. have it shipped to your door in 2 days in a small box! (they grow when you take them out of the box).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Number 1: you plan your house for the people who LIVE IN IT. Not for guests.

Number 2: you can work any number of temporary solutions for when DH's parents come to visit. I'd bunk up your older kids together and they can have that room, but I'd make clear how much less comfortable it will be. And say you won't be offended if they choose a hotel instead.

Understanding this saved my marriage and family. I held onto the guest room and isolated an immediate family member who really needed the space. My visitors have been flexible since (couch, air mattress, the Airbnb 2 streets over that I’ve also personally stayed at, hotels).

+1. My grandmother was upset that we got cats because she's allergic to them. I pointed out that she had visited us once in 10 years and had no plans to ever do so again. She was upset anyway. She did in fact visit again but it was 8 years later. Sorry, I love cats, I'm not going to give them up because someone visits twice in two decades.

It's ridiculous for your inlaws not to stay at a hotel if you are paying for it. I could understand if it was a cost thing but if it's not, then you just need to be firm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't have a guest room and never will. My solution is to kick one of my kids out of their bedroom or offer an air mattress in another part of the house.

OP here. You'd put 70 year olds on an air mattress? Usually I would offer to sleep on an air mattress, but it's just not happening while I'm pregnant or postpartum. nope.

Um…hell yeah I would tell 70-year-olds who are well-off (both my parents and ILs) that their only option is an air mattress in my home if they refuse to stay in a hotel, even on my dime. You insist on staying here? OK then, here’s the air mattress. And no, I didn’t blow it up and no, I didn’t put the sheets on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if you had a full size mattress for the guest room instead of a queen? Would that give you enough room to work with?

This would certainly make me flee to a hotel. No way am I sharing a full size with another adult! It's only a few inches wider than a twin.

My husband and I are both pretty thin, so we wouldn’t have any trouble sleeping in a full bed. In fact, we did for years, and it was fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if you had a full size mattress for the guest room instead of a queen? Would that give you enough room to work with?

This would certainly make me flee to a hotel. No way am I sharing a full size with another adult! It's only a few inches wider than a twin.

My husband and I are both pretty thin, so we wouldn’t have any trouble sleeping in a full bed. In fact, we did for years, and it was fine.

Um, the issue isn’t thinness. It’s existence. A full bed is 22” narrower AND also 5” shorter than a king.

[Anonymous]

They need to stay in a hotel. It’s not even a real option to stay with you.

[Anonymous]

Keep the baby in your room and set up one of the bedrooms for your in-laws or get a sleeper sofa for them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if you had a full size mattress for the guest room instead of a queen? Would that give you enough room to work with?

This would certainly make me flee to a hotel. No way am I sharing a full size with another adult! It's only a few inches wider than a twin.

My husband and I are both pretty thin, so we wouldn’t have any trouble sleeping in a full bed. In fact, we did for years, and it was fine.

Um, the issue isn’t thinness. It’s existence. A full bed is 22” narrower AND also 5” shorter than a king.

Aren't most hotels two full sized beds?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep the baby in your room and set up one of the bedrooms for your in-laws or get a sleeper sofa for them.

Now OP needs to pay hundreds or a thousand plus for a new sofa she doesn’t want or need?

What is with some of you people? HOTEL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't have a guest room and never will. My solution is to kick one of my kids out of their bedroom or offer an air mattress in another part of the house.

OP here. You'd put 70 year olds on an air mattress? Usually I would offer to sleep on an air mattress, but it's just not happening while I'm pregnant or postpartum. nope.

The 70 year olds would be putting themselves on an air mattress because they refuse to stay in a hotel.