Sex life after 20 years together

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Anonymous wrote:20 years together with one teenager here. For us, it ranges between 1-3x per week. We’re both very fit and still attracted to each other. Overall, its pretty routine and conventional but very good. Every once in a while it gets crazy and its a lot if fun. Earlier in the pandemic when we couldn’t find time she did an impromptu striptease in the garage, f’d me in a camping chair and then on a weight bench. I never forget those fun times.

Yowza! Your wife sounds awesome!

And not to brag, but we’re about to do it right now as soon as she gets off of a call.

Report back on anything kinky, please.

Pretty conventional but damn, it was really good. Like I mentioned in my original post, she’s really fit. It finished with her on top with one hand hanging onto the headboard and the other on my chest. I was enjoying the show and had my hands on her six pack listening the sounds she was making plus the bed creaking under me. Afterwards, we went and grabbed tacos. Good start to the weekend.

Tell me more about the tacos!

For sure! I had a Pirata on corn tortilla which has steak, retried beans, cheese, onions and cilantro. It also came with a lime. She had a shrimp taco which looked to be really good. We had chips, salsa and iced tea as well.

Both the tacos and the sex sound hot!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:16 years, 2 kids, 40s - ours is great. I'm not close to being menopausal and my H is still very loving and attentive, so these help a lot. Slowdown a little because he's on ADHD meds, but he's not taking them during the weekend.

Though your situation sounds pretty good, I had to laugh at the bolded. How would you know you are not close to being menopausal, and why would you assume that your sex life will be vastly different once you are?

DP. I’m perimenopausal and my sex drive has fallen off a cliff.

Like no amount of foreplay will help.

Right? I thought this was universal, your sex drive falls a little or all the way after menopause.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:16 years, 2 kids, 40s - ours is great. I'm not close to being menopausal and my H is still very loving and attentive, so these help a lot. Slowdown a little because he's on ADHD meds, but he's not taking them during the weekend.

Though your situation sounds pretty good, I had to laugh at the bolded. How would you know you are not close to being menopausal, and why would you assume that your sex life will be vastly different once you are?

DP. I’m perimenopausal and my sex drive has fallen off a cliff.

Like no amount of foreplay will help.

Right? I thought this was universal, your sex drive falls a little or all the way after menopause.

Ugh. My wife is right around that age and I feel like we have a good thing going. I hope she’s able to retain her drive.

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Anonymous wrote:16 years, 2 kids, 40s - ours is great. I'm not close to being menopausal and my H is still very loving and attentive, so these help a lot. Slowdown a little because he's on ADHD meds, but he's not taking them during the weekend.

Though your situation sounds pretty good, I had to laugh at the bolded. How would you know you are not close to being menopausal, and why would you assume that your sex life will be vastly different once you are?

DP. I’m perimenopausal and my sex drive has fallen off a cliff.

Like no amount of foreplay will help.

Right? I thought this was universal, your sex drive falls a little or all the way after menopause.

Ugh. My wife is right around that age and I feel like we have a good thing going. I hope she’s able to retain her drive.

I'm the OP and I know because I'm not dry and my period is very regular, I don't have flashes, and the hormone panel is stable. I'm 46 y/o, your wife might be far too.

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Anonymous wrote:Well you already know what the choices are. Keep up the duty sex twice per week; give him a hall pass; get a divorce. Just make up your mind... and then don’t complain about your life choices.

2x per week?

Hahaha.

Yes. 2x per week. More if you include birthdays, holidays, vacations.

[Anonymous]

We’re at 21 years. Still have sex once a week and it’s always really good.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:16 years, 2 kids, 40s - ours is great. I'm not close to being menopausal and my H is still very loving and attentive, so these help a lot. Slowdown a little because he's on ADHD meds, but he's not taking them during the weekend.

Though your situation sounds pretty good, I had to laugh at the bolded. How would you know you are not close to being menopausal, and why would you assume that your sex life will be vastly different once you are?

DP. I’m perimenopausal and my sex drive has fallen off a cliff.

Like no amount of foreplay will help.

Right? I thought this was universal, your sex drive falls a little or all the way after menopause.

New poster. Please don't make generalized assumptions about anything to do with sex. It's individual. I'm a woman, 57, postmenopausal, married 25 years, and my drive has increased after menopause. Birth control pills tended to suppress my drive so that was part of the issue but I also think I was fairly middling re: drive anyway. Then in the past year in particular my drive has gone up noticeably. I actually think being at home with DH during the pandemic is a big factor--neither of us has ever been very interested in bedtime sex, so being home together during the day and no commutes to eat up time etc. is helping a lot. With more opportunities that aren't just nighttime, I find it easier to get in the mood than when we were both going out to offices, commuting, coming home tired, busy on weekends with kids (who are both in person at colleges now so...mostly empty nest too).

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Been married for 20 years. I’ve had more sex with other women than I have in the last 20 with my wife. She doesn’t know but It sure beats living with somebody who only wants it once per month

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Do you find your drive declining as you get older and this is helping your marriage