Teen Dating Age Gaps??

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Anonymous wrote:In the 80's as a freshman at 14 I dated Seniors who were 18. Sh shouldn't date him why? Kids younger than her are having sex with each other.

And none of that is okay. What the hell is wrong with you?

She dated 18 year olds when she was 14. That's what's wrong with her.

Nothing is wrong with herA lo.t of kids did this. Stop your pearl clutching. Judgy bitches. Just jealous no one dated you in HS.

It messed you up more than you think, especially since with this comment you're displaying signs of arrested development.

LOL. You need to get a life of your own. So busy in other's business. Sad.

See?

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think that age gap is too great. But I have some advise. When my DD 15 dated someone 17, this is what we did: the rules for them dating were the rules for a 15 year old. Example: she wasn't driving yet. If she had been dating another 15 yr old, he wouldn't be driving yet either. So parents had to drive them. Parties? Not permitted to go to Senior parties as a sophomore. Curfews? She had to be in before anyone else. Every decision was based on being 15 years old. Every single decision. Not fun for a 17 year old. It really inconvenienced him. That will likely end it.

Then why even allow it? Sounds passive aggressive to me.

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Anonymous wrote:No one said it was okay. They just said it was happening between children. Nothing about pedophilia. Get a grip. You're the one amping up this thread.

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No, they were no they were attempting to normalize child sex and shame anyone who pointed out it was wrong. I saw what you were doing. You've been called out. Don't try to gaslight me.

In your hysteria you lost your reading skills. NO ONE said that the middle schoolers who are sexually is okay. NO ONE. The crux is that the age gap for DATING is to big. Presumably because the oder guy will be ready for things before the 14 year old. I agree. The PP merely posted out that age itself is not a determining factor and that they had heard from their child that kids at their kids middle schools were having sex. That is all. No one is normalizing anything. you're the only one who brought up pedophilia. NO ONE said it was okay for an 18 year old to be having sex with a 14 year old NO ONE. Also no one said it was okay middles scholars were having sex. Calm down.

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Actually someone did say exactly that. And I reported it, and Jeff deleter the post, so he agreed with me.

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Anonymous wrote:Yuck. The guy sounds creepy. I just asked my nephew who is only in 9th grade and he said most 9th graders would hesitate to date a middle schooler.

Exactly and your nephew is likely only 14/15 himself and more age-appropriate and only a year older than OP's daughter and he's sees the issues. Something is off with this 17 year old.

Exactly! I’m PP and I would not be bothered by my nephew dating an 8th grader but he thinks that’s weird and it further confirms my thought that this is really off for an 11th grader!

What's sad is a child recognizes this but we have adults in this thread trying to justify it.

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Getting your validation from DCUM is sad.

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Anonymous wrote:Yuck. The guy sounds creepy. I just asked my nephew who is only in 9th grade and he said most 9th graders would hesitate to date a middle schooler.

Exactly and your nephew is likely only 14/15 himself and more age-appropriate and only a year older than OP's daughter and he's sees the issues. Something is off with this 17 year old.

Exactly! I’m PP and I would not be bothered by my nephew dating an 8th grader but he thinks that’s weird and it further confirms my thought that this is really off for an 11th grader!

What's sad is a child recognizes this but we have adults in this thread trying to justify it.

Some of the posters have lived it. I don't think they are justifying anything. Just offering another point of view you disagree with.

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Anonymous wrote:Yuck. The guy sounds creepy. I just asked my nephew who is only in 9th grade and he said most 9th graders would hesitate to date a middle schooler.

Exactly and your nephew is likely only 14/15 himself and more age-appropriate and only a year older than OP's daughter and he's sees the issues. Something is off with this 17 year old.

Exactly! I’m PP and I would not be bothered by my nephew dating an 8th grader but he thinks that’s weird and it further confirms my thought that this is really off for an 11th grader!

What's sad is a child recognizes this but we have adults in this thread trying to justify it.

Some of the posters have lived it. I don't think they are justifying anything. Just offering another point of view you disagree with.

Agree. MS and HS dating no. Dating within HS? Fine. I trust my kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No one said it was okay. They just said it was happening between children. Nothing about pedophilia. Get a grip. You're the one amping up this thread.

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No, they were no they were attempting to normalize child sex and shame anyone who pointed out it was wrong. I saw what you were doing. You've been called out. Don't try to gaslight me.

In your hysteria you lost your reading skills. NO ONE said that the middle schoolers who are sexually is okay. NO ONE. The crux is that the age gap for DATING is to big. Presumably because the oder guy will be ready for things before the 14 year old. I agree. The PP merely posted out that age itself is not a determining factor and that they had heard from their child that kids at their kids middle schools were having sex. That is all. No one is normalizing anything. you're the only one who brought up pedophilia. NO ONE said it was okay for an 18 year old to be having sex with a 14 year old NO ONE. Also no one said it was okay middles scholars were having sex. Calm down.

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Actually someone did say exactly that. And I reported it, and Jeff deleter the post, so he agreed with me.

No, they didn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Getting your validation from DCUM is sad.

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[Anonymous]

I haven’t read the whole thread, but:

1) I don’t think this is okay for reasons I’m sure have been discussed and

2) Just because a teenager pushes against limits doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have them.

[Anonymous]

Larla needs to get a life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one said it was okay. They just said it was happening between children. Nothing about pedophilia. Get a grip. You're the one amping up this thread.

+1

No, they were no they were attempting to normalize child sex and shame anyone who pointed out it was wrong. I saw what you were doing. You've been called out. Don't try to gaslight me.

In your hysteria you lost your reading skills. NO ONE said that the middle schoolers who are sexually is okay. NO ONE. The crux is that the age gap for DATING is to big. Presumably because the oder guy will be ready for things before the 14 year old. I agree. The PP merely posted out that age itself is not a determining factor and that they had heard from their child that kids at their kids middle schools were having sex. That is all. No one is normalizing anything. you're the only one who brought up pedophilia. NO ONE said it was okay for an 18 year old to be having sex with a 14 year old NO ONE. Also no one said it was okay middles scholars were having sex. Calm down.

+1

Actually someone did say exactly that. And I reported it, and Jeff deleter the post, so he agreed with me.

No, they didn't.

The post I reported was deleted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yuck. The guy sounds creepy. I just asked my nephew who is only in 9th grade and he said most 9th graders would hesitate to date a middle schooler.

Exactly and your nephew is likely only 14/15 himself and more age-appropriate and only a year older than OP's daughter and he's sees the issues. Something is off with this 17 year old.

Exactly! I’m PP and I would not be bothered by my nephew dating an 8th grader but he thinks that’s weird and it further confirms my thought that this is really off for an 11th grader!

What's sad is a child recognizes this but we have adults in this thread trying to justify it.

Some of the posters have lived it. I don't think they are justifying anything. Just offering another point of view you disagree with.

Actually, there have been several adults trying to justify it. You having done it as a child or teen does not mean it's a good idea or needs to be repeated. Most child psychologists would agree with me pp, and a 14-year-old boy who has more sense than 40 something year old you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yuck. The guy sounds creepy. I just asked my nephew who is only in 9th grade and he said most 9th graders would hesitate to date a middle schooler.

Exactly and your nephew is likely only 14/15 himself and more age-appropriate and only a year older than OP's daughter and he's sees the issues. Something is off with this 17 year old.

Exactly! I’m PP and I would not be bothered by my nephew dating an 8th grader but he thinks that’s weird and it further confirms my thought that this is really off for an 11th grader!

What's sad is a child recognizes this but we have adults in this thread trying to justify it.

Some of the posters have lived it. I don't think they are justifying anything. Just offering another point of view you disagree with.

Agree. MS and HS dating no. Dating within HS? Fine. I trust my kids.

Famous last words.

[Anonymous]

OP - there is no easy way to handle this. This was me (albeit many years ago). Good luck.