Sometimes I wonder if my husband is gay...

[Anonymous]

Don’t ask. It will just make him go further into hiding. Observe. Keep your eyes open. Trust your instincts. Don’t ignore what you know to be true. I ignored. 24 years later I am just leaving.

[Anonymous]

I know you’re husband is gay because I’m a gay man and your husband really enjoys when I’m doing him doggystyle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've just always had a weird feeling about him. He has never been very sexual. I was a virgin until we married and the sex is ok but not very frequent and he doesn't seem that enthusiastic. From what I know all his past exes were women and I haven't seen him watch gay porn. He does have guy friends and one close gay guy friend who I hang out with too. I notice he usually seems to clench up around new men he meets and I can't tell if its because he is shy or something else.

I will walk around him naked and he isn't very sexually motivated.


Any other red flags to look for?

This is going to sound terrible but: it is very rare for straight men to have close male gay friends.

NP. DCUM will go nuts at this reply, but the bold above is purest bull. The PP who thinks this must not know any straight men who have actual gay male friends.

My DH is straight (yeah, go ahead, snark at me and try to claim he's not; I'm the one who sleeps with him, and he's...very straight indeed) and he has a couple of old friends who are gay.

People who post grossly generalized blanket statements like "it is very rare for straight men to have close male gay friends" are people who cannot picture any friendships different from the ones they themselves know. I'm sure you also believe that "it is very rare for straight women to have close lesbian friends" or "straight men and straight women just cannot be friends, there will always be sexual tension between them" and a thousand other "absolutes" about friendships. Sorry your world is so boring and narrowly confined by people's sexualities. It's pitiful when people define other people solely by their sexual orientations and don't think that other things, like common interests and values, can play roles in friendships.

The key is old friends, they probably met in school or something.

Men in their 20s hang out with guys often to go looking for girls, so unlikely gay would join in. And once married, most friends come from work and family.