Are your kids allowed in your room?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't like my kids in my room. They leave their toys and stuff behind. My room is for 2 adults to enjoy each other. Nothing is worse than kids toys taking away from the atmosphere. If my kids are in trouble I would want them to come to my room but in general indont feel its a place for them. Its for my husband and I.

Sad life for the kids.

Yes how sad for kids to be given boundaries and learn that mom an dad need time for each other nd the entire world, and every spot of the house doesn't revolve around them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't like my kids in my room. They leave their toys and stuff behind. My room is for 2 adults to enjoy each other. Nothing is worse than kids toys taking away from the atmosphere. If my kids are in trouble I would want them to come to my room but in general indont feel its a place for them. Its for my husband and I.

“My husband and me.”

Also, you are batshit crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the door is open and we're in there, sure. If the door is closed, they have to knock and wait for permission.

If we're not in there they have to ask and say why. "Can I go in your room to borrow the calculator?"

This is how we do it too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't like my kids in my room. They leave their toys and stuff behind. My room is for 2 adults to enjoy each other. Nothing is worse than kids toys taking away from the atmosphere. If my kids are in trouble I would want them to come to my room but in general indont feel its a place for them. Its for my husband and I.

“My husband and me.”

Also, you are batshit crazy.

LOL. I had the same thought!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't like my kids in my room. They leave their toys and stuff behind. My room is for 2 adults to enjoy each other. Nothing is worse than kids toys taking away from the atmosphere. If my kids are in trouble I would want them to come to my room but in general indont feel its a place for them. Its for my husband and I.

“My husband and me.”

Also, you are batshit crazy.

What's crazy about wanting a space for just the two of them?

[Anonymous]

Of course. We love to start lazy weekend mornings with family snuggles in bed. And our kids know they can come in if they’ve had a bad dream. If the door is closed they are supposed to knock. But otherwise they know we’re always available if they need us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i was talking to a friend today whose kids aren't allowed in their room. Growing up, we always knocked if the door was closed, but were definitely allowed in my parents room.

I'm curious how many people still have this rule, and what the rationale is.

If door is closed, anybody's door, they must knock and wait for person to say "cone in."
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[Anonymous]

When they were little they sometimes got into bed with us in the morning. But in general, no. Our kids are not allowed in our bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't like my kids in my room. They leave their toys and stuff behind. My room is for 2 adults to enjoy each other. Nothing is worse than kids toys taking away from the atmosphere. If my kids are in trouble I would want them to come to my room but in general indont feel its a place for them. Its for my husband and I.

“My husband and me.”

Also, you are batshit crazy.

What's crazy about wanting a space for just the two of them?

Absolutely nothing. It's totally ok to have kid free zones in your home, just like it's ok for your teen to have privacy in his bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course. We love to start lazy weekend mornings with family snuggles in bed. And our kids know they can come in if they’ve had a bad dream. If the door is closed they are supposed to knock. But otherwise they know we’re always available if they need us.

I took OP's question to be more about whether the kids are allowed to play and hang out in the room when the parents aren't there. Not "are the kids allowed to come to you when you are in your bedroom".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't like my kids in my room. They leave their toys and stuff behind. My room is for 2 adults to enjoy each other. Nothing is worse than kids toys taking away from the atmosphere. If my kids are in trouble I would want them to come to my room but in general indont feel its a place for them. Its for my husband and I.

“My husband and me.”

Also, you are batshit crazy.

What's crazy about wanting a space for just the two of them?

Its called boundaries. In the lifetime of my marriage my children are temporary. If I want a lasting, fulfilling relationship I set boundaries with the kids. My bedroom is a place for sleep and adult activity. Every other room in my house (including our offices) have now become a place for the kids. Our bedroom is our one place.

[Anonymous]

We spent so much time in our parents room that they put a twin sized bed at the foot of their California King.

(Partially fault of co-sleeping my sister too long up to 5th grade, but I also slept in the twin a few nights 11 < )

I just can’t go down that road.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes (I have 3 boys), but, as they have gotten older and rougher, I have set more boundaries. They cannot take our covers, for example, to make forts. They cannot remove our pillows from our bed. They cannot wrestle on our bed, and they can no longer play in our room because it ends in wrestling every single time. They can come and chat, they can get something out of there that they need, they can use our bathroom, and they can curl up in our bed, if we are in it or not.

+1 this drives me crazy! My kids run and hide constantly under my covers to avoid bath time or whatever else chore I’ve cooked up for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course. We love to start lazy weekend mornings with family snuggles in bed. And our kids know they can come in if they’ve had a bad dream. If the door is closed they are supposed to knock. But otherwise they know we’re always available if they need us.

I took OP's question to be more about whether the kids are allowed to play and hang out in the room when the parents aren't there. Not "are the kids allowed to come to you when you are in your bedroom".

Oh sure, I guess they’d be allowed to, but they never do go in there when we’re not in there. Our bedroom is fairly minimalist, not even a tv. Nothing for them to play with. So they don’t have much interest. Occasionally my 3 year old will go grab some of my shoes and walk around in them, which is cute. And I’ve had to tell them no jumping on our bed on a few occasions. But mostly they don’t go in there when we’re not around.

[Anonymous]

I made the mistake of putting a tank with a pet in my bedroom. Never again. Not enough stimulation for the pet and every. single. friend. that ever came over was brought in to take a look at such a novelty despite being yelled at and repeatedly told to not go in with guests -_-