Disagreement With Wife..

[Anonymous]

Mom of 3 boys here. Get the condo closest to the best playground.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The one you like: the big roof deck is shared space and the small balcony is private, right? No way would I take little kids to the large space with those relatively low walls.

The 2nd unit (wife’s pick) has much higher walls in the shared space plus the nice fireplace.

Finally, with Chicago weather, the roof deck isn’t usable half the year anyway, right?

The master bath is nicer in your wife’s pick. Also it looks like there’s wall space to the right of the pantry where you could add additional stand alone storage.

I’d pick the wife’s choice, number one.

I think you’re confused.

The first unit is the wife’s pick. Hers is the one with the shared deck with the low walls.

His is the second until with the private balcony and private deck with the big walls and fireplace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The one you like: the big roof deck is shared space and the small balcony is private, right? No way would I take little kids to the large space with those relatively low walls.

The 2nd unit (wife’s pick) has much higher walls in the shared space plus the nice fireplace.

Finally, with Chicago weather, the roof deck isn’t usable half the year anyway, right?

The master bath is nicer in your wife’s pick. Also it looks like there’s wall space to the right of the pantry where you could add additional stand alone storage.

I’d pick the wife’s choice, number one.

I think you’re confused.

The first unit is the wife’s pick. Hers is the one with the shared deck with the low walls.

His is the second until with the private balcony and private deck with the big walls and fireplace.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The one you like: the big roof deck is shared space and the small balcony is private, right? No way would I take little kids to the large space with those relatively low walls.

The 2nd unit (wife’s pick) has much higher walls in the shared space plus the nice fireplace.

Finally, with Chicago weather, the roof deck isn’t usable half the year anyway, right?

The master bath is nicer in your wife’s pick. Also it looks like there’s wall space to the right of the pantry where you could add additional stand alone storage.

I’d pick the wife’s choice, number one.

I think you’re confused.

The first unit is the wife’s pick. Hers is the one with the shared deck with the low walls.

His is the second until with the private balcony and private deck with the big walls and fireplace.

Unit. I think OPs pick is much nicer. I don’t like the bathroom in the wife’s pick. I think 16 steps is fine. We had two boys in a walk-up and it was fine.

[Anonymous]

Vote for wife s pick. The kitchen size for both doesn’t seem to be that big different.

For private deck, how many days in a year would you use that deck? But for stair vs elevator, that is bigger issue. No elevators for kid is a deal breaker.
Besides building with no stairs, should be at lower price point than one with elevator if everything else is the compatible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife and I have been in a disagreement and neither will budge. We looking into condos and found two that we settled on. She likes one more than the other, and I like the other one more. Her pick is nice but the kitchen is smaller with less cabinet space, but the living room and bedrooms are bigger. Hers in an elevator building with a shared rooftop deck. My pick is in a walk-up ( 2nd floor) but it’s bigger, has a better layout with big kitchen and lots of cabinets, and it’s has a private deck off the unit. They are both the same price and in desirable neighborhoods.

She likes my pick but doesn’t want to deal with stairs. I like her pick but do not want a smaller kitchen with a shared deck. I feel we will lose both condos if we don’t move quickly. How can I get her to make a decision?

She made a decision. What you mean is how can I get her to make the decision I want her to make.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OMG - after seeing both of them, I am totally Team DH. That private deck is amazing. And, yes, kitchen is much better. I like your pick a lot better for the same price.

-woman with kids who would put up with stairs

I bet you have older kids and forgot the baby/toddler years.

I have 3 kids. My youngest is now 3. I remember when we were looking at homes when we had just 2 kids, any home with stairs to the main level was a no.

When is the last time you had a double stroller at the bottom of 16 stairs? Or had a sleeping 40 pound toddler in a stroller to carry up 16 stairs?

I’m sure OP thinks carrying an infant baby seat up and down stairs is no big deal.

So true! He said newborn so that baby probably weighs no more than 10 pounds right now. My 3 year old is tall and weighs 43 pounds. I would hate to have to carry him up 16 steps. With every single step I would be cursing my life choices.

— woman who loved living in a 2 story walk up when I was single!!!

Why TF would you be carrying a 3 year old up 16 stairs? That’s nothing. Make him walk. Fat, lazy kids, this generation is raising.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I me the cook/chef/baker in my house and 35 cabinets sounds way too big. How large is the triangle in each space? The triangle between the stove, fridge and sink. (You don’t want more than 24feet total )

+1

The size of the kitchen is less important than the layout. I had a bigger kitchen in my last place, but the layout was a pain. My kitchen now is smaller, but laid out correctly, and it's much better for cooking. Also, how many cabinets do you even need?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG - after seeing both of them, I am totally Team DH. That private deck is amazing. And, yes, kitchen is much better. I like your pick a lot better for the same price.

-woman with kids who would put up with stairs

I bet you have older kids and forgot the baby/toddler years.

I have 3 kids. My youngest is now 3. I remember when we were looking at homes when we had just 2 kids, any home with stairs to the main level was a no.

When is the last time you had a double stroller at the bottom of 16 stairs? Or had a sleeping 40 pound toddler in a stroller to carry up 16 stairs?

I’m sure OP thinks carrying an infant baby seat up and down stairs is no big deal.

So true! He said newborn so that baby probably weighs no more than 10 pounds right now. My 3 year old is tall and weighs 43 pounds. I would hate to have to carry him up 16 steps. With every single step I would be cursing my life choices.

— woman who loved living in a 2 story walk up when I was single!!!

Why TF would you be carrying a 3 year old up 16 stairs? That’s nothing. Make him walk. Fat, lazy kids, this generation is raising.

NP but you’re rude. Sometimes 3 year olds are little assholes who refuse to do stuff for irrational reasons and cannot be bribed to do anything. Sometimes you don’t feel like waiting it out and need to move.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG - after seeing both of them, I am totally Team DH. That private deck is amazing. And, yes, kitchen is much better. I like your pick a lot better for the same price.

-woman with kids who would put up with stairs

I bet you have older kids and forgot the baby/toddler years.

I have 3 kids. My youngest is now 3. I remember when we were looking at homes when we had just 2 kids, any home with stairs to the main level was a no.

When is the last time you had a double stroller at the bottom of 16 stairs? Or had a sleeping 40 pound toddler in a stroller to carry up 16 stairs?

I’m sure OP thinks carrying an infant baby seat up and down stairs is no big deal.

So true! He said newborn so that baby probably weighs no more than 10 pounds right now. My 3 year old is tall and weighs 43 pounds. I would hate to have to carry him up 16 steps. With every single step I would be cursing my life choices.

— woman who loved living in a 2 story walk up when I was single!!!

Why TF would you be carrying a 3 year old up 16 stairs? That’s nothing. Make him walk. Fat, lazy kids, this generation is raising.

NP but you’re rude. Sometimes 3 year olds are little assholes who refuse to do stuff for irrational reasons and cannot be bribed to do anything. Sometimes you don’t feel like waiting it out and need to move.

So you’d base your entire real estate decision around the fact that your kid is an asshole and you can’t control him. Wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG - after seeing both of them, I am totally Team DH. That private deck is amazing. And, yes, kitchen is much better. I like your pick a lot better for the same price.

-woman with kids who would put up with stairs

I bet you have older kids and forgot the baby/toddler years.

I have 3 kids. My youngest is now 3. I remember when we were looking at homes when we had just 2 kids, any home with stairs to the main level was a no.

When is the last time you had a double stroller at the bottom of 16 stairs? Or had a sleeping 40 pound toddler in a stroller to carry up 16 stairs?

I’m sure OP thinks carrying an infant baby seat up and down stairs is no big deal.

So true! He said newborn so that baby probably weighs no more than 10 pounds right now. My 3 year old is tall and weighs 43 pounds. I would hate to have to carry him up 16 steps. With every single step I would be cursing my life choices.

— woman who loved living in a 2 story walk up when I was single!!!

Why TF would you be carrying a 3 year old up 16 stairs? That’s nothing. Make him walk. Fat, lazy kids, this generation is raising.

NP but you’re rude. Sometimes 3 year olds are little assholes who refuse to do stuff for irrational reasons and cannot be bribed to do anything. Sometimes you don’t feel like waiting it out and need to move.

And even if they’re perfectly agreeable 3 year olds, it’s common for kids this age to fall asleep in the stroller. Most people would prefer to let their kid keep napping for the extra 30 - 45 minutes after you get home. If you wake up the kid and make him walk up the stairs, he’s going to be wide awake while you’re trying to put away groceries and get a minute to yourself.

Yes, these problems are not insurmountable, but why would you do this to yourself if you don’t have to??? It’s like buying a house with not enough bedrooms because you can turn the corner of the living room into an office. It’s fine if you have to do this, but it’s a stupid choice if you had the option of buying a house with an office.

[Anonymous]

Don't go with either. Keep looking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG - after seeing both of them, I am totally Team DH. That private deck is amazing. And, yes, kitchen is much better. I like your pick a lot better for the same price.

-woman with kids who would put up with stairs

I bet you have older kids and forgot the baby/toddler years.

I have 3 kids. My youngest is now 3. I remember when we were looking at homes when we had just 2 kids, any home with stairs to the main level was a no.

When is the last time you had a double stroller at the bottom of 16 stairs? Or had a sleeping 40 pound toddler in a stroller to carry up 16 stairs?

I’m sure OP thinks carrying an infant baby seat up and down stairs is no big deal.

So true! He said newborn so that baby probably weighs no more than 10 pounds right now. My 3 year old is tall and weighs 43 pounds. I would hate to have to carry him up 16 steps. With every single step I would be cursing my life choices.

— woman who loved living in a 2 story walk up when I was single!!!

Why TF would you be carrying a 3 year old up 16 stairs? That’s nothing. Make him walk. Fat, lazy kids, this generation is raising.

NP but you’re rude. Sometimes 3 year olds are little assholes who refuse to do stuff for irrational reasons and cannot be bribed to do anything. Sometimes you don’t feel like waiting it out and need to move.

And even if they’re perfectly agreeable 3 year olds, it’s common for kids this age to fall asleep in the stroller. Most people would prefer to let their kid keep napping for the extra 30 - 45 minutes after you get home. If you wake up the kid and make him walk up the stairs, he’s going to be wide awake while you’re trying to put away groceries and get a minute to yourself.

Yes, these problems are not insurmountable, but why would you do this to yourself if you don’t have to??? It’s like buying a house with not enough bedrooms because you can turn the corner of the living room into an office. It’s fine if you have to do this, but it’s a stupid choice if you had the option of buying a house with an office.

Um, because OP’s choice is way nicer?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG - after seeing both of them, I am totally Team DH. That private deck is amazing. And, yes, kitchen is much better. I like your pick a lot better for the same price.

-woman with kids who would put up with stairs

I bet you have older kids and forgot the baby/toddler years.

I have 3 kids. My youngest is now 3. I remember when we were looking at homes when we had just 2 kids, any home with stairs to the main level was a no.

When is the last time you had a double stroller at the bottom of 16 stairs? Or had a sleeping 40 pound toddler in a stroller to carry up 16 stairs?

I’m sure OP thinks carrying an infant baby seat up and down stairs is no big deal.

So true! He said newborn so that baby probably weighs no more than 10 pounds right now. My 3 year old is tall and weighs 43 pounds. I would hate to have to carry him up 16 steps. With every single step I would be cursing my life choices.

— woman who loved living in a 2 story walk up when I was single!!!

Why TF would you be carrying a 3 year old up 16 stairs? That’s nothing. Make him walk. Fat, lazy kids, this generation is raising.

NP but you’re rude. Sometimes 3 year olds are little assholes who refuse to do stuff for irrational reasons and cannot be bribed to do anything. Sometimes you don’t feel like waiting it out and need to move.

And even if they’re perfectly agreeable 3 year olds, it’s common for kids this age to fall asleep in the stroller. Most people would prefer to let their kid keep napping for the extra 30 - 45 minutes after you get home. If you wake up the kid and make him walk up the stairs, he’s going to be wide awake while you’re trying to put away groceries and get a minute to yourself.

Yes, these problems are not insurmountable, but why would you do this to yourself if you don’t have to??? It’s like buying a house with not enough bedrooms because you can turn the corner of the living room into an office. It’s fine if you have to do this, but it’s a stupid choice if you had the option of buying a house with an office.

Um, because OP’s choice is way nicer?

It’s not just carrying kids up and down the stairs, it’s lugging all their stuff...and his pick is not way nicer. It’s marginally nicer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We currently live in Chicago. I’m from VA but we moved here for my wife. We will here for another 4-5 years at least. We are tired of renting and don’t have any family around. We need to move out of our current place because the building is being sold.

Here are of almost identical ( most condos in Chicago tend to have similar looks/feature because they’re done by the same builder) places that we are considering. I won’t pit the actual address for safety reasons.

Wife’s pick

https://www.redfin.com/IL/Chicago/3914-N-Damen-Ave-60618/unit-201/home/109599049

My pick

https://www.redfin.com/IL/Chicago/5061-N-Lincoln-Ave-60625/unit-201/home/144720311

Uhm, what?

The address is in the link.