Disagreement With Wife..
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Anonymous
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My wife and I have been in a disagreement and neither will budge. We looking into condos and found two that we settled on. She likes one more than the other, and I like the other one more. Her pick is nice but the kitchen is smaller with less cabinet space, but the living room and bedrooms are bigger. Hers in an elevator building with a shared rooftop deck. My pick is in a walk-up ( 2nd floor) but it’s bigger, has a better layout with big kitchen and lots of cabinets, and it’s has a private deck off the unit. They are both the same price and in desirable neighborhoods.
She likes my pick but doesn’t want to deal with stairs. I like her pick but do not want a smaller kitchen with a shared deck. I feel we will lose both condos if we don’t move quickly. How can I get her to make a decision? |
Anonymous
| Wait for one with elevator, private deck, and larger kitchen? Condos aren’t like unicorns or the Loch Ness monster - you will find another one! |
Anonymous
| Who does the cooking? In my relationship, DH is the chef. So we made sure he was happy with the kitchen. I don't like it, but I also don't really care because he's the one dealing with it. |
Anonymous
| Stairs are a big thing so I agree with PP that you should keep looking. |
Anonymous
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Either wait, or go with her choice.
Wanting an elevator is understandable. It’s important if you have young kids, if you are old, or if you injure yourself. The deck is nice but it’s a potential negative if you have young kids. I think it would be harder to resell yours. And you couldn’t age in place in yours. |
Anonymous
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Do you have kids?
A walk up with a baby would be hell. If your kids are 5 or older, it wouldn’t bother me. It’s actually kind of a good way to make sure you get a little exercise every day. |
Anonymous
| No walk up, OP. Hard to resell. |
Anonymous
| Both have enough negatives I would keep looking, but if I had to pick I would go with yours since I had an apt that was walk-up to a second flight years ago (with a 1yo) and it was not a big deal at all. Wouldn't want to climb any higher but one floor is nothing. |
Anonymous
| I agree with her. |
Anonymous
| Echoing the kid question. Do you have or plan on having kids? I wouldn't want to be lugging a stroller and a car seat and groceries up and down stairs. If no kids, then I'd probably go with your pick. And a shared deck is not great. I've lived in a building with a shared entertaining space and it was annoying to have to wait to use it or deal with annoying drunk people (my condo was in also in a trendy neighborhood with lots of young singles in the building). |
Anonymous
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OP here. My choice is just 16 steps. We are both active and in shape. We have one newborn boy. Our current building is being sold and we don’t have much of a choice. We don’t have family around either. We don’t want to spend more money renting and possibly run into the same situation.
I’m the main cook. Her choice has like 18 has like in the kitchen and no pantry. It’s a just one row of cabinets and kitchen with appliances. My pick has like 35 cabinets and is more functional. |
Anonymous
| Is it personal preference or is someone being impacted by the decision like you do the cooking so you are the most impacted my the smaller kitchen or she has to carry a lot of things to the house and stairs so an elevator is a must have? I don’t know that I would even count the deck in the equation because the shared deck may not be convenient enough to use regularly and if an outdoor deck space was that important to both of you the condo with it would have already been given the edge. If it is strictly preference, some things to consider are resale, condo fees/cost, and if you might rent it out some day which would be easier. If none of those things can get to a decision, keep looking. |
Anonymous
| If both of you wouldn't be happy in the one the other chose, you need to keep looking. You both need to be in agreement and be excited for something like a home purchase. |
Anonymous
Hahaha OP you are delusional. Your baby is a newborn so you have no idea how heavy that little guy is going to feel once he’s close to 20 pounds and in a car seat that you have to carry up and down those stairs. When he’s a 30 pound toddler in a stroller it’s going to be even worse to have the kid in one arm and drag his stroller in the other. If you’re thinking about having another kid you’re going to descend a few circles of hell and wonder what you did to deserve this fate. Your apartment should be in the automatic reject pine. |
Anonymous
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OP here. We currently live in Chicago. I’m from VA but we moved here for my wife. We will here for another 4-5 years at least. We are tired of renting and don’t have any family around. We need to move out of our current place because the building is being sold.
Here are of almost identical ( most condos in Chicago tend to have similar looks/feature because they’re done by the same builder) places that we are considering. I won’t pit the actual address for safety reasons. Wife’s pick https://www.redfin.com/IL/Chicago/3914-N-Damen-Ave-60618/unit-201/home/109599049 My pick https://www.redfin.com/IL/Chicago/5061-N-Lincoln-Ave-60625/unit-201/home/144720311 |