S/O men would you marry a physician?

[Anonymous]

I’m the poster that made the comment about there being two camps of male doctors. I’m not saying that there aren’t other professions that require drive/intelligence. I know doctors married to professors and a speech language pathologist- I consider their spouses driven and intelligent. But I also know a lot of doctors married to women who studied something like communications in college and have never worked since getting my married and having kids. There is a clear division of responsibilities in their relationship- with the woman taking all the home work and the man taking all the financial work. Some male doctors very much want that pretty SAHM figure it seems.

Nothing wrong with that. Win-win situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be fine with it and I could definitely see a lot of positives that a dr. spouse would bring to the table, particularly generally having job security (COVID situation notwithstanding). Debt load might be a concern depending on specialty/pay but that's not a unique concern to doctors. I wouldn't marry anyone that regularly works 60+ hours per week regardless of profession.

This. I’m the poster with lots of doctors in my family. Their job security is phenomenal. I swear, they simply have a NO clue what it means to stress about having to find a job or build a career. To the point where they can lack empathy about people in other professions. One of my siblings was dogging on a cousin of ours for a time he lost his job years before. He was laid off during an economic downturn. I stuck up for him, pointing out layoffs were common during this time. Sibling scoffed, “people who work hard and are good at their jobs don’t get laid off.” Simply no clue.

I tend to agree with your sister. The thing is that, as a doctor, I know thousands of people. And people who are doing real work that is worth the amount they are being paid don’t have trouble finding work.