S/O men would you marry a physician?

[Anonymous]

Hey!! Where did my Dr Seuss-esque rhyme go? It was a response to the OP and on topic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Guy here. The only issue I would have marrying a Physician is the hours they may be required to work. I have a job where I work 40 hrs / week, [/b]making decent money (200K/yr). I have no problem being with someone who makes more than me ([b]400K /yr is starting to get to decent money).

But, if she is working 70-80 hours per week, she will be too tired for a life outside of work.

Am I wrong? 168 hours in a week. 49 hours sleeping, another 14 with "personal time" including grooming, etc. That is 63 hours per week. If you work 80 hours a week, that leaves 25 hours a week for everything else. How much time do you spend eating? What about commute? I remember when my father was practicing medicine, he worked and slept/

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here I find it interesting that men pick woman based on what they think woman can do for them. While male physicians are seen as attractive to woman because of the high salaries, female physician are unattractive to men because of long hours that make the profession too all consuming to allow for the husband to feel nurtured, cared for and to do sick days for future kids.

This dating/marriage in a nutshell. Marriage is only beneficial to a woman if it improves her financial situation. As was brought out in the recent SAHM thread men and women are raised with the idea that women are to do the heavy lifting of the household, even if they work it's the expectation.

I’m amused that people so bothered by 1950s roles will turn around and boil things down to another stereotype. People are more complex than the convenient generalization you claim was agreed to on another thread.

NP here. When men post on here, they are the ones who claim that men are simple creatures for whom looks and sexual compatibility are the main drivers of selection criteria. We hear so often that men prefer younger women and education status is not that important to many. I mean it’s men who educate us on these values on this board.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. The only issue I would have marrying a Physician is the hours they may be required to work. I have a job where I work 40 hrs / week, [/b]making decent money (200K/yr). I have no problem being with someone who makes more than me ([b]400K /yr is starting to get to decent money).

But, if she is working 70-80 hours per week, she will be too tired for a life outside of work.

Am I wrong? 168 hours in a week. 49 hours sleeping, another 14 with "personal time" including grooming, etc. That is 63 hours per week. If you work 80 hours a week, that leaves 25 hours a week for everything else. How much time do you spend eating? What about commute? I remember when my father was practicing medicine, he worked and slept/

I think PP was rolling her eyes at the idea that $400k a year is starting to get to decent money. I don’t have anything decent by those standards, but even I can infer that. Funny that you went to counting down the hours.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. The only issue I would have marrying a Physician is the hours they may be required to work. I have a job where I work 40 hrs / week, [/b]making decent money (200K/yr). I have no problem being with someone who makes more than me ([b]400K /yr is starting to get to decent money).

But, if she is working 70-80 hours per week, she will be too tired for a life outside of work.

Am I wrong? 168 hours in a week. 49 hours sleeping, another 14 with "personal time" including grooming, etc. That is 63 hours per week. If you work 80 hours a week, that leaves 25 hours a week for everything else. How much time do you spend eating? What about commute? I remember when my father was practicing medicine, he worked and slept/

I think PP was rolling her eyes at the idea that $400k a year is starting to get to decent money. I don’t have anything decent by those standards, but even I can infer that. Funny that you went to counting down the hours.

Oh...the 400K for a year being decent is sort of a DCUM joke. I live pretty well on my 200K. The counting down the hours....just how I think.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. The only issue I would have marrying a Physician is the hours they may be required to work. I have a job where I work 40 hrs / week, [/b]making decent money (200K/yr). I have no problem being with someone who makes more than me ([b]400K /yr is starting to get to decent money).

But, if she is working 70-80 hours per week, she will be too tired for a life outside of work.

Am I wrong? 168 hours in a week. 49 hours sleeping, another 14 with "personal time" including grooming, etc. That is 63 hours per week. If you work 80 hours a week, that leaves 25 hours a week for everything else. How much time do you spend eating? What about commute? I remember when my father was practicing medicine, he worked and slept/

You’re wrong in thinking $400k a year isn’t “decent money.” Get a clue.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I are both doctors and it’s worked out fine. We generally have pretty decent schedules not unlike other professional couples which means it’s not easy but it’s workable.

It seems to work best for doctor doctor couples

+2 All the female physicians that I know are married to other drs, except one. My DH is a physician himself so I know a lot.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I are both doctors and it’s worked out fine. We generally have pretty decent schedules not unlike other professional couples which means it’s not easy but it’s workable.

It seems to work best for doctor doctor couples

+2 All the female physicians that I know are married to other drs, except one. My DH is a physician himself so I know a lot.

My aunt and uncle are a doctor couple and work well. As is my sister and brother in law. I think there’s a schism for male doctors, some are attracted to intelligent women and some are not necessarily attracted to intelligent/driven women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I are both doctors and it’s worked out fine. We generally have pretty decent schedules not unlike other professional couples which means it’s not easy but it’s workable.

It seems to work best for doctor doctor couples

+2 All the female physicians that I know are married to other drs, except one. My DH is a physician himself so I know a lot.

My aunt and uncle are a doctor couple and work well. As is my sister and brother in law. I think there’s a schism for male doctors, some are attracted to intelligent women and some are not necessarily attracted to intelligent/driven women.

If they don’t want to marry other doctors, that doesn’t mean they’re “not attracted to intelligent women”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I are both doctors and it’s worked out fine. We generally have pretty decent schedules not unlike other professional couples which means it’s not easy but it’s workable.

It seems to work best for doctor doctor couples

+2 All the female physicians that I know are married to other drs, except one. My DH is a physician himself so I know a lot.

My aunt and uncle are a doctor couple and work well. As is my sister and brother in law. I think there’s a schism for male doctors, some are attracted to intelligent women and some are not necessarily attracted to intelligent/driven women.

If they don’t want to marry other doctors, that doesn’t mean they’re “not attracted to intelligent women”.

That’s fair.
“Intelligent” and “highly educated” aren’t the sand thing.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely would date a woman doctor. More likely to be intelligent, childless by choice, high income, and highly independent. Wouldn’t get annoyed by me pursuing my hobbies while they are at work. I’m always fascinated by doctors and their work; we’d have no shortage of things to discuss. I like a woman who is driven.

If something ever happened to DW and I had to raise DS on my own, I’d definitely be inclined to date/marry a woman doctor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I are both doctors and it’s worked out fine. We generally have pretty decent schedules not unlike other professional couples which means it’s not easy but it’s workable.

It seems to work best for doctor doctor couples

+2 All the female physicians that I know are married to other drs, except one. My DH is a physician himself so I know a lot.

My aunt and uncle are a doctor couple and work well. As is my sister and brother in law. I think there’s a schism for male doctors, some are attracted to intelligent women and some are not necessarily attracted to intelligent/driven women.

If they don’t want to marry other doctors, that doesn’t mean they’re “not attracted to intelligent women”.

That’s fair.
“Intelligent” and “highly educated” aren’t the sand thing.

And there are other kinds of highly educated women besides doctors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I are both doctors and it’s worked out fine. We generally have pretty decent schedules not unlike other professional couples which means it’s not easy but it’s workable.

It seems to work best for doctor doctor couples

+2 All the female physicians that I know are married to other drs, except one. My DH is a physician himself so I know a lot.

My aunt and uncle are a doctor couple and work well. As is my sister and brother in law. I think there’s a schism for male doctors, some are attracted to intelligent women and some are not necessarily attracted to intelligent/driven women.

If they don’t want to marry other doctors, that doesn’t mean they’re “not attracted to intelligent women”.

That’s fair.
“Intelligent” and “highly educated” aren’t the sand thing.

And there are other kinds of highly educated women besides doctors.

I’m the poster that made the comment about there being two camps of male doctors. I’m not saying that there aren’t other professions that require drive/intelligence. I know doctors married to professors and a speech language pathologist- I consider their spouses driven and intelligent. But I also know a lot of doctors married to women who studied something like communications in college and have never worked since getting my married and having kids. There is a clear division of responsibilities in their relationship- with the woman taking all the home work and the man taking all the financial work. Some male doctors very much want that pretty SAHM figure it seems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey!! Where did my Dr Seuss-esque rhyme go? It was a response to the OP and on topic.

Oh, that sounds fun! I for one clicked on this thread to ask why this poster keeps creating these inane "S/O men would you marry a..." threads.

Would you marry a doctor if she's a total fox?
Would you marry a brunette wearing sox?
Would you marry a
nurse
in a box?
Styling hair? Eating lox?
Would you, would you,
marry a worker from the docks?
Would you marry a teacher
teaching hard knocks?
What if she once was pretty, but
now has pox?
If she has a hobby
fixing clocks?
If she collects cats
and parrots and macaques?
Would you marry for love or
sex or or shocks?
What if her bum
looks big in frocks?
If she shuns stilettos and
favours crocs?
(This poem questions, but
really mocks).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely would date a woman doctor. More likely to be intelligent, childless by choice, high income, and highly independent. Wouldn’t get annoyed by me pursuing my hobbies while they are at work. I’m always fascinated by doctors and their work; we’d have no shortage of things to discuss. I like a woman who is driven.

If something ever happened to DW and I had to raise DS on my own, I’d definitely be inclined to date/marry a woman doctor.

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