Am I being too sensitive about doctors COVID statement?

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Anonymous wrote:Op here thanks for all of the feedback. This baby was planned and I am well aware of the risks of COVID. Age is not on my side so we decided to go ahead and try. After thinking about it more, I'm going to explore other options for my OB care.

I',m sure your OB will be delighted to be rid of you.

The feeling is mutual though, so they can jump for joy, do a damn flip for all I care.

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Anonymous wrote:I just had a baby, most of my pregnancy was during this pandemic. You're being overly sensitive and your OB was telling you the truth. We have no idea what the long term effects of this virus are on pregnancy women and babies. You don't want to be a test case. Your OB was telling you to take the threat seriously, and you should.

This.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s indisputable fact that now is not a good time to be pregnant and deliver. I’m due next week and the last 6 months of this pregnancy have been incredibly stressful and I dread bringing a newborn into this situation. Every time I have to go to the hospital or the doctor I have to worry about COVID. Or frankly, go to the pharmacy or even just go outside. That’s not personal OP. It’s reality.

That may be the case, but unless you want me to get an abortion, I don't see the benefit in telling someone that.

The flip-side to that is that the very liberal telework policies make this a very good time to stay home with an infant without burning through all of your leave/FMLA.

I don't really understand that earlier comment about being worried about everything. From your own perspective, you'd be worried about COVID regardless of whether you had an infant. The new factor is the infant herself/himself, and COVID seems to be less risky for children than the flu. So from the child's perspective, it's sort of like having a baby in the winter- perhaps not ideal health-wise, but not something most people get too worked up about.

I kind of agree with this as well. Being able to telework this pregnancy has been a blessing. I worked full time up until I gave birth with my last two. I also had a long commute which included riding the train with severe morning sickness. I puked quite a few times on the train. Even when I drove, I once I to make an emergency stop on the interstate to puke. So yeah I am appreciating being at home. I think it's the only reason I feel as good as I do right now. With as sleepy as I have been I have had zero desire to leave the house anyway.

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Also, note that the number of pre-term births has dropped. I really think being on lockdown may have actually benefited some women. I know I really pushed myself way too much during my last pregnancy so there is some upside.

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/07/19/health/coronavirus-premature-birth.html

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Anonymous wrote:I just had a baby, most of my pregnancy was during this pandemic. You're being overly sensitive and your OB was telling you the truth. We have no idea what the long term effects of this virus are on pregnancy women and babies. You don't want to be a test case. Your OB was telling you to take the threat seriously, and you should.

This.

Yes, this.
We are in a pandemic, unprecedented times you need to be prepared for informed decisions to come. Your OB was being responsible and doing her job, consider how would that be if you were in a different country without a good health system.
I have ours at a late age and I had a high risk pregnancy. Our OB told us about ALL the risks because he cared and we were so grateful for that. We were able to make informed decisions.
At 38 weeks, my OB found a condition that didn't affect the baby's health directly but if ignored could have costed her life, there were not visible signs, none. Therefore, my OB recommended a C-section before the due date, which I didn't want, but saved her life thank goodness. We often think of my OB with great gratitude.
We made right decisions and have now a beautiful, healthy and a joyful kid.
Having a baby makes us so sensitive, and it is normal your are not wrong on that. Just try to keep yourself focus on what is important, the baby's safety and yours.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here thanks for all of the feedback. This baby was planned and I am well aware of the risks of COVID. Age is not on my side so we decided to go ahead and try. After thinking about it more, I'm going to explore other options for my OB care.

I',m sure your OB will be delighted to be rid of you.

The feeling is mutual though, so they can jump for joy, do a damn flip for all I care.

Doctors have a "code" about telling other doctors if a patient is a PITA.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here thanks for all of the feedback. This baby was planned and I am well aware of the risks of COVID. Age is not on my side so we decided to go ahead and try. After thinking about it more, I'm going to explore other options for my OB care.

I',m sure your OB will be delighted to be rid of you.

The feeling is mutual though, so they can jump for joy, do a damn flip for all I care.

Doctors have a "code" about telling other doctors if a patient is a PITA.

Okay do you want a cookie now?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here thanks for all of the feedback. This baby was planned and I am well aware of the risks of COVID. Age is not on my side so we decided to go ahead and try. After thinking about it more, I'm going to explore other options for my OB care.

I',m sure your OB will be delighted to be rid of you.

The feeling is mutual though, so they can jump for joy, do a damn flip for all I care.

Doctors have a "code" about telling other doctors if a patient is a PITA.

Okay do you want a cookie now?

NP
No need for a cookie. Being able to do good work with patients who want to be there (and having the ones that don't want to be there leave on their own, instead of having to manage them or find a way to get out of the relationship if you are no longer effective together) is the best reward ever.

All unhappy patients should leave. There is absolutely no downside for anyone when that happens. No cookies needed!

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Anonymous wrote:What are the risks? Stillbirth, clotting issues, placental abruption?

If you look at data, hospitalizations from COVID are bottoming out, as are deaths. I guess if you're obese and have pre-existing conditions, yea, COVID would be the straw to break the camel's back but to a healthy pregnant woman...why scare monger if the data doesn't support it?

OP, I'd switch if you feel uncomfortable with her relational style, doesn't matter if she was talking to you about COVID or about your desire to VBAC. When it's not a good fit, you might feel less confident speaking up and advocating for yourself the rest of the pregnancy.

Where have you been???? There are a lot of risks to COVID beyond death. And we have no idea the king term damage to an exposed fetus. Of course this is an extraordinarily risky time to be pregnant. Nothing has been this dangerous, plunking health wise, in 102 years!

Also:

https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/need-extra-precautions/pregnancy-breastfeeding.html

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/coronavirus/in-depth/coronavirus-in-babies-and-children/art-20484405

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Anonymous wrote:You're being overly sensitive. She's trying to warn you to not socialize with people without staying a few meters away and wearing a mask. Don't go shopping outdoors for the sake of going shopping. If you don't have to go with your husband (or wife) to the store, then don't - stay home.

This.

And don’t fly anywhere for a baby moon or go to your cousin’s wedding.

Hunker down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, note that the number of pre-term births has dropped. I really think being on lockdown may have actually benefited some women. I know I really pushed myself way too much during my last pregnancy so there is some upside.

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/07/19/health/coronavirus-premature-birth.html

Oh this is really interesting. I had my baby at 35 weeks because of a complete previa situation 3 years ago, I teleworked full time already though, and every appointment I had with my MFM they were amazed that I had made it that far along without any bleeding--I think the fact that I was not doing anything beyond sitting in my desk chair or couch or sleeping in bed probably helped that, and I wonder if I'd had my former commute of an hour how that would have gone. I can see how people who are pregnant now and being really cautious are benefitted by teleworking, being able to rest more, etc. would cut down on pre-term births.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she hates her job, and has poor bedside manner. Switch doctors. Also, pregnancy MIGHT be at an increased risk, not ARE at an increased risk, according to the CDC.

This-I would not stay with this dr. I mean, dr is an OB and tells pregnant patients that now is not a good time to be pregnant?

I would find another dr who can communicate effectively and has a positive approach. The vast vast majority of pregnant women are having good outcomes .

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Also, note that the number of pre-term births has dropped. I really think being on lockdown may have actually benefited some women. I know I really pushed myself way too much during my last pregnancy so there is some upside.

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/07/19/health/coronavirus-premature-birth.html

Oh this is really interesting. I had my baby at 35 weeks because of a complete previa situation 3 years ago, I teleworked full time already though, and every appointment I had with my MFM they were amazed that I had made it that far along without any bleeding--I think the fact that I was not doing anything beyond sitting in my desk chair or couch or sleeping in bed probably helped that, and I wonder if I'd had my former commute of an hour how that would have gone. I can see how people who are pregnant now and being really cautious are benefitted by teleworking, being able to rest more, etc. would cut down on pre-term births.

Around 1/3 of preterm births are planned early deliveries due to a life-threatening complication discovered during prenatal care. Majority of pregnant women were avoiding going to the doctor during the lockdown therefore pushing prenatal appointments. Some of those were likely babies that stayed in longer than they would have, and others ended in stillbirth (the stillbirth rate also increased during lockdown).

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/897763.page#17675275

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here thanks for all of the feedback. This baby was planned and I am well aware of the risks of COVID. Age is not on my side so we decided to go ahead and try. After thinking about it more, I'm going to explore other options for my OB care.

I',m sure your OB will be delighted to be rid of you.

The feeling is mutual though, so they can jump for joy, do a damn flip for all I care.

Doctors have a "code" about telling other doctors if a patient is a PITA.

That's awesome, but patients have the internet to tell everyone how much of a POS a doctor is... what exactly is the point of telling an already pregnant woman now is a terrible time to be pregnant? As if, a woman doesn't already know the obvious.