Am I being too sensitive about doctors COVID statement?

[Anonymous]

So I had my first Ob appointment today and my doctor made a statement that really freaked me out. I'm not sure if I am overthinking it but I am now wondering if I made a mistake getting pregnant and her comments are hitting me hard for some reason. She mentioned COVID risks multiple times and when I asked her to expand she said that I am automatically high risk due to the coronavirus situation and said that now is not a good time to be pregnant. She then stated that my baby may be at risk for possible long term issues if I were to catch COVID but did say no one knows for sure about the long term affects. I feel like her statements were insensitive but maybe I am being overly sensitive and she was just being giving me the hard truth. Any thoughts or am I freaking out uncessarily?

[Anonymous]

You're being overly sensitive. She's trying to warn you to not socialize with people without staying a few meters away and wearing a mask. Don't go shopping outdoors for the sake of going shopping. If you don't have to go with your husband (or wife) to the store, then don't - stay home.

[Anonymous]

I don't think OBs are in the business of pointlessly shaming people for being pregnant. But pregnant women are certainly touchy.

[Anonymous]

I just had a baby, most of my pregnancy was during this pandemic. You're being overly sensitive and your OB was telling you the truth. We have no idea what the long term effects of this virus are on pregnancy women and babies. You don't want to be a test case. Your OB was telling you to take the threat seriously, and you should.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're being overly sensitive. She's trying to warn you to not socialize with people without staying a few meters away and wearing a mask. Don't go shopping outdoors for the sake of going shopping. If you don't have to go with your husband (or wife) to the store, then don't - stay home.

Actually don't send anyone to the store, I would treat myself as a very high risk individual and get grocery delivery and isolate for the next 12 months or so.

[Anonymous]

This is the kind of talk that separates OBs with good bedside manner, I think. There is a good way to say this and a “what kind of dumb b!tch founders herself knocked up right now!!?” way to say this.

[Anonymous]

I am not sure how her being insensitive comes into play here. She was stating a fact and her #1 duty to you is to present you facts. So, yes, I think you are being too sensitive.

[Anonymous]

She mentioned Covid risks and you asked for more details so she gave you more details. It sounds like she gave you true information about Covid risks at your request. This doesn't mean you and your baby are going to die or suffer long term effects because you are pregnant, it means be extra careful. What was insensitive about what she said? That it is a bad time to be pregnant? It's not the easiest time, that's for sure. Take a deep breath, wear your mask, and be careful around others.

[Anonymous]

I prefer doctors like that. Give me the real info so I can be fully prepared. I don't want hand holding. If being pregnant puts me at high risk and they don't know what complications babies could have if exposed to Covid....tell me that directly. When I had cancer, I always preferred the doctors who didn't sugar coat things or who held back on being direct.

Her statements were not insensitive, they were real. She wants you to know it can be serious to get Covid while pregnant and she wants you to take it seriously.

[Anonymous]

Come on, this post is ridiculous. The doctor was doing her job. Of course the risks are higher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're being overly sensitive. She's trying to warn you to not socialize with people without staying a few meters away and wearing a mask. Don't go shopping outdoors for the sake of going shopping. If you don't have to go with your husband (or wife) to the store, then don't - stay home.

Actually don't send anyone to the store, I would treat myself as a very high risk individual and get grocery delivery and isolate for the next 12 months or so.

This. You and everyone in your household needs to stay home. Get grocery delivery. And when you go to the doctor wear masks and eye protection.

[Anonymous]

She’s giving you the facts. You need to know that you are high risk and to act accordingly.

[Anonymous]

Your OB was giving you notice not to see people in person or take any risks, like having an in person baby shower or hanging out in grocery stores or going into work in person. You are high risk and should act like it. (I am also high risk)

[Anonymous]

They just want you to be really careful to not expose yourself, which is smart. You need to think of yourself as an 80-year-old. No unnecessary risks. Get groceries delivered. No shopping in person, no restaurants, etc etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just had a baby, most of my pregnancy was during this pandemic. You're being overly sensitive and your OB was telling you the truth. We have no idea what the long term effects of this virus are on pregnancy women and babies. You don't want to be a test case. Your OB was telling you to take the threat seriously, and you should.

Exactly. I can guarantee that if the heightened risks are not relayed in a way that hits home how sobering the situation is, then some women might well blame their providers for not making that clear. It's uncomfortable but necessary, and precisely because the weight of it might lead to changed behaviors to decrease some of that risk.