Happily Married but also love someone else

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The answer evades me in this situation. Maybe it just takes time and a realization that nothing will happen despite the feelings of love. Look, I mean even if somehow the person you also feel love for were available I can't see how it wouldn't unhinge the life you've built. A marriage is safe, stable, typically years of shared history together that proves there is lasting power. The part that stings is the very real feelings of love (even though it's not in the cards). It happens.

Wtf are you rambling on about?

Your AP never loved you. It was a fantasy. He had zero intentions of leaving his wife and played the family card to get away from your crazy ugly @ss. Men always affair down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A number of cheaters have no desire to upend their married life with kids but truly love their APs. It’s different kinds of love.

Many men love screwing their APs, but do not have any live for them. They know women will put it out and keep it coming if they tell them what they want to hear...and then drop them like garbage when they get tired of them. It’s not real. If it were they would give up everything for you. Sorry—you are easy sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Too many losers on Facebook. Thinking they love someone else instead of living in the present. Miserable lives.

Omg. YES!! Middle aged losers

So many losers from high school reliving glory days...so many affairs start this way

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not me.

I only have ever truly loved my husband romantically. I married for love.

I do not reminisce let alone even think about high school or college boyfriends before I met him when I was 26.

I’m 50 and he’s the only one. I can’t imagine loving anyone else.

Me too.

It’s sick how many people on this forum settled.

I met my spouse when we were in our mid 20s and it was like a lightning strike. He was talking marriage within a month. We were inseparable ...still hot for each other 25 years later.

It’s sad so many people stay in marriages without true passionate love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not me.

I only have ever truly loved my husband romantically. I married for love.

I do not reminisce let alone even think about high school or college boyfriends before I met him when I was 26.

I’m 50 and he’s the only one. I can’t imagine loving anyone else.

Me too.

It’s sick how many people on this forum settled.

I met my spouse when we were in our mid 20s and it was like a lightning strike. He was talking marriage within a month. We were inseparable ...still hot for each other 25 years later.

It’s sad so many people stay in marriages without true passionate love.

Color me a pessimist but I suspect only 20% of marriages still have passionate love after 20 years. If that. Should all these marriages end? Most people cope by having affairs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not me.

I only have ever truly loved my husband romantically. I married for love.

I do not reminisce let alone even think about high school or college boyfriends before I met him when I was 26.

I’m 50 and he’s the only one. I can’t imagine loving anyone else.

Me too.

It’s sick how many people on this forum settled.

I met my spouse when we were in our mid 20s and it was like a lightning strike. He was talking marriage within a month. We were inseparable ...still hot for each other 25 years later.

It’s sad so many people stay in marriages without true passionate love.

DH here. We are friends with a couple like this. Head over heels for each other, wife is ALWAYS talking about how amazing her husband is. It’s honestly sort of cute and charming in a way... slightly annoying sometimes, but whatever, good for them! The husband is a great dad and husband, dotes on her constantly. They’re both really good looking and affectionate.

Except the husband has also gotten drunk with the neighborhood dads and talked about multiple affairs. Also the girl he wished he’d married. Like more than once, it’s a big part of his “private” life and existence. So, don’t be so naive and superior. His DW sounds like you and would seriously die of shock if she ever found out.

Also, the worlds a big place and anyone worth a damn is multidimensional. It’s completely natural to love more than one person. Whether you act on it and under what circumstances is a different question. But I think the weirder thing is going through life not falling in love with all kinds of people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The answer evades me in this situation. Maybe it just takes time and a realization that nothing will happen despite the feelings of love. Look, I mean even if somehow the person you also feel love for were available I can't see how it wouldn't unhinge the life you've built. A marriage is safe, stable, typically years of shared history together that proves there is lasting power. The part that stings is the very real feelings of love (even though it's not in the cards). It happens.

Wtf are you rambling on about?

Your AP never loved you. It was a fantasy. He had zero intentions of leaving his wife and played the family card to get away from your crazy ugly @ss. Men always affair down.

No affair here or even close. Do you mean she? It wasn’t meant to be and that’s ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not me.

I only have ever truly loved my husband romantically. I married for love.

I do not reminisce let alone even think about high school or college boyfriends before I met him when I was 26.

I’m 50 and he’s the only one. I can’t imagine loving anyone else.

Me too.

It’s sick how many people on this forum settled.

I met my spouse when we were in our mid 20s and it was like a lightning strike. He was talking marriage within a month. We were inseparable ...still hot for each other 25 years later.

It’s sad so many people stay in marriages without true passionate love.

Color me a pessimist but I suspect only 20% of marriages still have passionate love after 20 years. If that. Should all these marriages end? Most people cope by having affairs

No most people do not have affairs. Only 20%. You have your numbers backwards but whatever you need to justify your nasty behavior...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not me.

I only have ever truly loved my husband romantically. I married for love.

I do not reminisce let alone even think about high school or college boyfriends before I met him when I was 26.

I’m 50 and he’s the only one. I can’t imagine loving anyone else.

Me too.

It’s sick how many people on this forum settled.

I met my spouse when we were in our mid 20s and it was like a lightning strike. He was talking marriage within a month. We were inseparable ...still hot for each other 25 years later.

It’s sad so many people stay in marriages without true passionate love.

DH here. We are friends with a couple like this. Head over heels for each other, wife is ALWAYS talking about how amazing her husband is. It’s honestly sort of cute and charming in a way... slightly annoying sometimes, but whatever, good for them! The husband is a great dad and husband, dotes on her constantly. They’re both really good looking and affectionate.

Except the husband has also gotten drunk with the neighborhood dads and talked about multiple affairs. Also the girl he wished he’d married. Like more than once, it’s a big part of his “private” life and existence. So, don’t be so naive and superior. His DW sounds like you and would seriously die of shock if she ever found out.

Also, the worlds a big place and anyone worth a damn is multidimensional. It’s completely natural to love more than one person. Whether you act on it and
under what circumstances is a different question. But I think the weirder thing is going through life not falling in love with all kinds of people.

Ha. Definitely not me. Husbands ex is 4’9” troll who has 4 baby daddies. It’s a running home between us. Every HS reunion it’s some new loser and a new kid. He got out if that sh@t town and never looked back.

[Anonymous]

*running joke, not home

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not me.

I only have ever truly loved my husband romantically. I married for love.

I do not reminisce let alone even think about high school or college boyfriends before I met him when I was 26.

I’m 50 and he’s the only one. I can’t imagine loving anyone else.

Me too.

It’s sick how many people on this forum settled.

I met my spouse when we were in our mid 20s and it was like a lightning strike. He was talking marriage within a month. We were inseparable ...still hot for each other 25 years later.

It’s sad so many people stay in marriages without true passionate love.

DH here. We are friends with a couple like this. Head over heels for each other, wife is ALWAYS talking about how amazing her husband is. It’s honestly sort of cute and charming in a way... slightly annoying sometimes, but whatever, good for them! The husband is a great dad and husband, dotes on her constantly. They’re both really good looking and affectionate.

Except the husband has also gotten drunk with the neighborhood dads and talked about multiple affairs. Also the girl he wished he’d married. Like more than once, it’s a big part of his “private” life and existence. So, don’t be so naive and superior. His DW sounds like you and would seriously die of shock if she ever found out.

Also, the worlds a big place and anyone worth a damn is multidimensional. It’s completely natural to love more than one person. Whether you act on it and
under what circumstances is a different question. But I think the weirder thing is going through life not falling in love with all kinds of people.

Ha. Definitely not me. Husbands ex is 4’9” troll who has 4 baby daddies. It’s a running home between us. Every HS reunion it’s some new loser and a new kid. He got out if that sh@t town and never looked back.

Right. You seem like someone who understands things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:*running joke, not home

Oh —he also doesn’t hang out with the neighborhood dads. It’s always wives and husbands together over here. No guy nights.

[Anonymous]

Bunch of miserable people on this thread. Living in their heads.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not me.

I only have ever truly loved my husband romantically. I married for love.

I do not reminisce let alone even think about high school or college boyfriends before I met him when I was 26.

I’m 50 and he’s the only one. I can’t imagine loving anyone else.

Me too.

It’s sick how many people on this forum settled.

I met my spouse when we were in our mid 20s and it was like a lightning strike. He was talking marriage within a month. We were inseparable ...still hot for each other 25 years later.

It’s sad so many people stay in marriages without true passionate love.

Color me a pessimist but I suspect only 20% of marriages still have passionate love after 20 years. If that. Should all these marriages end? Most people cope by having affairs

No most people do not have affairs. Only 20%. You have your numbers backwards but whatever you need to justify your nasty behavior...

lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bunch of miserable people on this thread. Living in their heads.

Happy people aren’t posting here at 11pm at night. They are spending time with the one they love.