People you’re attracted to and you don’t know why

[Anonymous]

I don't think any men have posted on this thread. Is it taboo for men to admit this kind of thing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes! I find weirdly attractive:

Really old tenured university professors
Young Hispanic men who don’t speak English
Really smart old men
Black men in tailored suits
Men with certain type of hands

I have a thing for East Asian men in tailored suits. And not K-pop types, but like middle-aged and older businessmen. I remember looking at those photos from when Kim Jong un visited the DMZ and thinking wow, the South Korean president in that nice suit is a total silver fox.

It’s super weird and I’d never admit to this in real life but... I guess this thread is the place for it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a weird one and I've had it my whole life.

Don Knotts AKA Barney Fife on "Andy Griffith Show"

I cannot tell you what it is about him that I find attractive - something about his mouth, his droopy eyes or his little butt.

The episodes where he would have make-out sessions with Thelma Lou were like porn - ha ha!

Hahahaha

I officially love this thtead

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have lots of random crushes. I like nerdy guys as well as conventionally hot guys. But for 20+ years, the man at the top of my laminated list has been Stellan Skarsgard. The first time I remember seeing him was in Good Will Hunting. I was a teenager and my friends would debate who was hotter, Ben Affleck or Matt Damon. I was confused why they wanted those boys, when there was such a man as Professor Lambeau. I was so devastated when I got to college and none of my math professors could hold a candle to him.

Then when True Blood was popular, and the hotness debate switched to Bill or Eric. Again, I’d have to go around and point out that while they’re both lovely fellas, it’s Eric’s IRL dad, Stellan, who wins that debate. (After the confusion and blank stares subsided, they’d ask who I was talking about, and I’d have to walk them back through Good Will Hunting until they remembered the math professor character.)

He’s just so dreamy. I could listen to him talk for hours. I’ve gone to see movies just because he has a minor role in them. Like Thor. I know most people consider whichever Hemsworth is in that to be the eye candy, but it’s the Stellan scenes that get me revved up. DH knows and thinks it’s bizarre but completely non threatening, so he indulges me and let’s me know when a new Stellan Skarsgard movie comes out or if he’s flipping channels and he finds one on tv. He’s no Stellan Skarsgard, but he’s a keeper.

OMG, SS is so hot. We cant be the only people to think this, lol. I saw him.in something the other day (a superhero movie) and was remembering how hot he is/was and wondered why I hadn't seen him in anything for a while.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have lots of random crushes. I like nerdy guys as well as conventionally hot guys. But for 20+ years, the man at the top of my laminated list has been Stellan Skarsgard. The first time I remember seeing him was in Good Will Hunting. I was a teenager and my friends would debate who was hotter, Ben Affleck or Matt Damon. I was confused why they wanted those boys, when there was such a man as Professor Lambeau. I was so devastated when I got to college and none of my math professors could hold a candle to him.

Then when True Blood was popular, and the hotness debate switched to Bill or Eric. Again, I’d have to go around and point out that while they’re both lovely fellas, it’s Eric’s IRL dad, Stellan, who wins that debate. (After the confusion and blank stares subsided, they’d ask who I was talking about, and I’d have to walk them back through Good Will Hunting until they remembered the math professor character.)

He’s just so dreamy. I could listen to him talk for hours. I’ve gone to see movies just because he has a minor role in them. Like Thor. I know most people consider whichever Hemsworth is in that to be the eye candy, but it’s the Stellan scenes that get me revved up. DH knows and thinks it’s bizarre but completely non threatening, so he indulges me and let’s me know when a new Stellan Skarsgard movie comes out or if he’s flipping channels and he finds one on tv. He’s no Stellan Skarsgard, but he’s a keeper.

OMG, SS is so hot. We cant be the only people to think this, lol. I saw him.in something the other day (a superhero movie) and was remembering how hot he is/was and wondered why I hadn't seen him in anything for a while.

I thought I was the only one! I’m so glad to find a kindred spirit

[Anonymous]

Yes! So weird. I love and an attracted to my husband and would never act on a crush. Two that have stood out to me—I studied in another country (already dating my now at the time) and met a somewhat shlumpy police officer on a group tourist thing. Randomly so attracted to him. A few years later I worked in the same office building as this really really funny guy, physically not usually my type, but instant attraction.

[Anonymous]

There are so many aspects of a person that you could be attracted to besides looks. It could be a person's voice, personality, sense of command, dress, sense of humor etc. It is a combination of things that attract you, not just their appearance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think Seth Rogen is sexy.

Well yeah. Funny is sexy.

This made me smile because people always ask my husband if he's Seth Rogen

[Anonymous]

Yes! A coworker higher up than me. Cant explain the attraction, maybe bc they are tall, smart? Since we are all on zoom meetings now, definitely not objectively attractive, but in person I can feel this chemistry so pre-covid I tried to stay away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For some reason, I think the comedian/actor from SNL Pete Davidson is insanely hot. 🔥

I am a fifty-one year old F who’s own kids are 31, 29 + 28 respectively.
Yes, I do realize that my crush is two years younger than my youngest child.

But he is just so honest, real, hilarious + cute that I cannot stop ogling over him.

Of course, everyone I tell says that I have bad taste in men.
That he is too pale, skinny and looks strung out on drugs.
That he looks like he has “bug eyes” and has dark circles.

I guess you are going to see his movie, then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There was a girl on my freshman year of college that I was insanely attracted to and I am 100% straight (and I think she was too). I have no idea why; she wasn’t particularly pretty or smart or clever, but I felt exactly about her as a crush on a man. Never before, never since. Weird sh!t, man

This happened to me too! Completely straight woman with a completely random out of nowhere sexual crush on another straight woman. Only happened once. It must not be that uncommon!

I am attracted to really strong alpha personalities. It is rarer for women to show that side of themselves but when I meet one I am often attracted to them. I’m a woman and straight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For some reason, I think the comedian/actor from SNL Pete Davidson is insanely hot. 🔥

I am a fifty-one year old F who’s own kids are 31, 29 + 28 respectively.
Yes, I do realize that my crush is two years younger than my youngest child.

But he is just so honest, real, hilarious + cute that I cannot stop ogling over him.

Of course, everyone I tell says that I have bad taste in men.
That he is too pale, skinny and looks strung out on drugs.
That he looks like he has “bug eyes” and has dark circles.

I guess you are going to see his movie, then?

There is something so unique/tragic/real about Pete.
He has great facial features and is extremely funny.
I love his Chad skits on Saturday Night live.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think any men have posted on this thread. Is it taboo for men to admit this kind of thing?

Speaking as a man, I think that we, as a gender, are attracted to most any female that seems remotely interested in us.
We will work on the attraction as things move along.

[Anonymous]

There was a young DOD guy who used to get on the same train who made me weak with wanting. I had to grasp the pole to steady myself whenever he boarded because I got so dizzy. Younger, average build, dark hair and eyes. I could see that he had the same effect on other women. Purely pheromonal. I have never experienced that kind of attraction to any other man. Ever.

[Anonymous]

When GWB was president he was so hot to me. When I’d see clips of him relaxing and not working, I’d smile like a little school girl with a crush. Obama was also hot at times.