Nanny vent

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Now I have to find out what dalgona coffee is.

Me too!

Really? It’s all over Instagram (and FB and every other platform - even Washington Post and NYT write about it!)

I hadn’t heard of it either. But I don’t waste my time on social media, and I don’t read articles about food trends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Now I have to find out what dalgona coffee is.

Me too!

Really? It’s all over Instagram (and FB and every other platform - even Washington Post and NYT write about it!)

I hadn’t heard of it either. But I don’t waste my time on social media, and I don’t read articles about food trends.

NP I hadn't heard of it either, but this is a pretty big self-own from somebody posting here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Now I have to find out what dalgona coffee is.

Me too!

Really? It’s all over Instagram (and FB and every other platform - even Washington Post and NYT write about it!)

I hadn’t heard of it either. But I don’t waste my time on social media, and I don’t read articles about food trends.

NP I hadn't heard of it either, but this is a pretty big self-own from somebody posting here.

I’m a nanny. I’m here to keep track of what’s going on with nannies and employers, offer advice or commiserate. I don’t think it’s a waste. Spending hours on social media? Yeah no.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you want to keep her, shut up and stop being a control freak!
I would have quit long ago!

I guess my husband should just quit his job as an associate because his partners are all control freaks

One less lawyer! Thank God!

Ha, you sound like you would never cut it.

Whine whine whine

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My preschooler needs up very close during Zoom. There is nothing else happening during preschool Zoom. I might glance at my phone, but I am 100% keeping my kid in the frame, engaged, etc.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Responding to multiple PPs. She is a real nanny, although we are her first job as a nanny. She has been with our family for three years though so she's not a newbie to being a nanny or to our family. She's live-out. I pay her very well with benefits, nanny has been happy with our family and has turned down offers for more pay to stay with us. I'm not a difficult boss; she would have left well before now if I were. I do have high standards, but I keep my thoughts mostly to myself and come here to vent occasionally, which is how we've lasted this long

I'm asking her to take DD out for TWO hours at a time, which includes a 10 minute walk to the park. Yes, they have plenty to do there for an hour and 40 minutes, it is a huge park with lots of paths to walk/hike/scooter/bike, plus they can have a picnic and eat a snack and read book.

These are strange times and an adjustment process for all of us, including the nanny so I have been flexible. Like I said, if they are 20-30 minutes late some of the time, or even most of the time, I wouldn't care. We've been sheltering in place for over a month now and did not have nanny for part of it so I get how difficult it is to maintain a strict schedule. But I also am well aware of how the day goes awry if you DON'T attempt to maintain any routine at all.

I built in an hour of transition time between Zoom and outdoors during which she and nanny do an activity. I tried to keep the schedule pretty easy, which is why it's frustrating that nanny can't, or rather won't, stick to it. Also, I never said that I'm having such a hard time. Without the extra help, I was doing okay (nanny didn't come for a couple weeks), with the extra help, I cannot call life hard. But that doesn't mean that I have to accept however nanny does her job and that she disregards my clear wishes.

I can't imagine the replies are from parents. They HAVE to be from nannies!
Set a timer for two pm where she will hear it. Use an alarm clock, alexa, whatever. Tell her when the alarm goes off, start making your way out. Frankly, she's taking advantage of you.
If her work ethic doesn't improve i would find a new nanny.

[Anonymous]

I guess you can't outsource everything. Just saying.

[Anonymous]

After 7 years of nannies I learned that nannies are not raising their own kids. Nothing off their nose if your kid learns abc a little later, is not as articulate, etc. Anyone who says otherwise is either paying lip service or wants to but at the end of the day, can’t/won’t put in the extra 10% to get it done at the end of a long day.

Pp is right. You can’t outsource everything but I did put my younger in a structured all day Montessori as soon as my older started all day kindergarten. It cost the same as a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After 7 years of nannies I learned that nannies are not raising their own kids. Nothing off their nose if your kid learns abc a little later, is not as articulate, etc. Anyone who says otherwise is either paying lip service or wants to but at the end of the day, can’t/won’t put in the extra 10% to get it done at the end of a long day.

Pp is right. You can’t outsource everything but I did put my younger in a structured all day Montessori as soon as my older started all day kindergarten. It cost the same as a nanny.

Then you didn’t have a good nanny. A good nanny incorporates obvious learning several times per day. A great nanny challenges a child to grow to the best of their ability, although through play for the younger years. Now, a nanny isn’t a miracle worker, so a late talker may not be articulate at 24 months even if the nanny narrated everything from birth. However, if the nanny is simply not trying? You have a sitter or subpar nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you want to keep her, shut up and stop being a control freak!
I would have quit long ago!

I guess my husband should just quit his job as an associate because his partners are all control freaks

One less lawyer! Thank God!

Ha, you sound like you would never cut it.

Whine whine whine

I believe one has to have a JD as well as pass the local bar and be licensed to practice law. As I do not have such a degree, obviously, I could not make it as a lawyer.

Though, I do believe that if we indiscriminately picked every third lawyer in the country and sent them to another galaxy, life on earth would be improved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Now I have to find out what dalgona coffee is.

Me too!

Really? It’s all over Instagram (and FB and every other platform - even Washington Post and NYT write about it!)

I hadn’t heard of it either. But I don’t waste my time on social media, and I don’t read articles about food trends.

NP I hadn't heard of it either, but this is a pretty big self-own from somebody posting here.

I’m a nanny. I’m here to keep track of what’s going on with nannies and employers, offer advice or commiserate. I don’t think it’s a waste. Spending hours on social media? Yeah no.

Sure.