Never Have I Ever (Netflix)

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Anonymous wrote:So great, I have cried three times so far and the show isn't even over yet. Does anyone know why the mother yells at daughter for putting books on the ground? Is it bad luck?

Just starting to watch it, but yes it’s disrespectful to put books on the ground.

Yes, to disrespect books is to disrespect Goddess Saraswati, goddess of learning, knowledge, music, and truth. Keeping books on the ground/stepping on them is not allowed. I remember in college someone was using a stack of books to reach something on a high shelf and I couldn't look!

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Anonymous wrote:So great, I have cried three times so far and the show isn't even over yet. Does anyone know why the mother yells at daughter for putting books on the ground? Is it bad luck?

Just starting to watch it, but yes it’s disrespectful to put books on the ground.

Yes, to disrespect books is to disrespect Goddess Saraswati, goddess of learning, knowledge, music, and truth. Keeping books on the ground/stepping on them is not allowed. I remember in college someone was using a stack of books to reach something on a high shelf and I couldn't look!

Oh man, I’m South Asian Muslim and similarly was taught books on the ground were bad. I would have had a near heart attack seeing that!

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My 16 yo liked it and now I’m watching it. It’s funny, we agree it’s cringey in many places.

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Anonymous wrote:So great, I have cried three times so far and the show isn't even over yet. Does anyone know why the mother yells at daughter for putting books on the ground? Is it bad luck?

Just starting to watch it, but yes it’s disrespectful to put books on the ground.

Yes, to disrespect books is to disrespect Goddess Saraswati, goddess of learning, knowledge, music, and truth. Keeping books on the ground/stepping on them is not allowed. I remember in college someone was using a stack of books to reach something on a high shelf and I couldn't look!

Oh man, I’m South Asian Muslim and similarly was taught books on the ground were bad. I would have had a near heart attack seeing that!

Yeah, there is this Christian meme I see sometimes with a person standing on a Bible, to show it is what grounds them. It always makes me so uncomfortable.

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I liked it even though the main character is kind of annoying especially in the last two episodes. Interestingly my kids find it cringey and stopped watching.

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Anonymous wrote:So great, I have cried three times so far and the show isn't even over yet. Does anyone know why the mother yells at daughter for putting books on the ground? Is it bad luck?

Just starting to watch it, but yes it’s disrespectful to put books on the ground.

Yes, to disrespect books is to disrespect Goddess Saraswati, goddess of learning, knowledge, music, and truth. Keeping books on the ground/stepping on them is not allowed. I remember in college someone was using a stack of books to reach something on a high shelf and I couldn't look!

Oh man, I’m South Asian Muslim and similarly was taught books on the ground were bad. I would have had a near heart attack seeing that!

Yeah, there is this Christian meme I see sometimes with a person standing on a Bible, to show it is what grounds them. It always makes me so uncomfortable.

Hindu PP here, this would make me so uncomfortable, too!

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Anonymous wrote:Can the people start a separate thread about the jokes about people in wheelchairs? Let’s get back to talking about the show more generally. The wheelchair is not a major topic and I don’t know why they even did it. They forgot about it after like the second episode.

+1000

For more info please follow This Little Miggy on Instagram. Her young daughter is a wheel chair user and I learn SO much from her posts about ableism. Please go and discuss there.

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Anonymous wrote:So great, I have cried three times so far and the show isn't even over yet. Does anyone know why the mother yells at daughter for putting books on the ground? Is it bad luck?

Just starting to watch it, but yes it’s disrespectful to put books on the ground.

Yes, to disrespect books is to disrespect Goddess Saraswati, goddess of learning, knowledge, music, and truth. Keeping books on the ground/stepping on them is not allowed. I remember in college someone was using a stack of books to reach something on a high shelf and I couldn't look!

Oh man, I’m South Asian Muslim and similarly was taught books on the ground were bad. I would have had a near heart attack seeing that!

Yeah, there is this Christian meme I see sometimes with a person standing on a Bible, to show it is what grounds them. It always makes me so uncomfortable.

Hindu PP here, this would make me so uncomfortable, too!

Whoa no way! I’m a Christian, but raised catholic, and we NEVER put the Bible on the ground!

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Anonymous wrote:So great, I have cried three times so far and the show isn't even over yet. Does anyone know why the mother yells at daughter for putting books on the ground? Is it bad luck?

You cried 3 times in the first episode? Why?

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Anonymous wrote:Can anyone tell me if it would be appropriate for a 7th grade Indian girl whose really excited to watch this?! I noticed there’s lots of wanting-to-get-laid references on the trailer?

Me again. I watched and decided not to let my DD watch it. Too many references to smart Indian girls being nerds or unattractive, which would be fit pinching to my daughter.

Definitely for older kids whose sense of self is firmly in place!

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Anonymous wrote:Can anyone tell me if it would be appropriate for a 7th grade Indian girl whose really excited to watch this?! I noticed there’s lots of wanting-to-get-laid references on the trailer?

Me again. I watched and decided not to let my DD watch it. Too many references to smart Indian girls being nerds or unattractive, which would be fit pinching to my daughter.

Definitely for older kids whose sense of self is firmly in place!

Gut punching! Darn autocorrect

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Anonymous wrote:Can anyone tell me if it would be appropriate for a 7th grade Indian girl whose really excited to watch this?! I noticed there’s lots of wanting-to-get-laid references on the trailer?

I recommend kims convenience. They’re Korean, not Indian, but the cast is very diverse. I’m white and found the diversity refreshing and the show isn’t about their race. It’s just about people.

It’s completely clean, too.

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Anonymous wrote:I liked it, but the wheelchair/ handicap jokes were in very poor taste. I am a wheelchair user and it just stings. I like Mindy Khaling and I liked this show, but it's very lame and old to have it be socially acceptable to make these kind of jokes (hey FDR). In 2020 it's time to just have a character in a wheelchair just be treated like a regular character (like in Raising Dion).

For better or worse, that would not be representative of what it's like to be a disabled teen. Kids are cruel. We should be allowed to tell stories that reflect reality. The kid that makes that joke isnt portrayed in a positive light

Are you a disabled person? Maybe watch Crip Camp to see what some of us have had to go through. Disabled people are just people. I don’t need ableism to discredit my complaint. We are the last group where it is still socially acceptable to be treated “separate but equal” even today. No kids don’t go around calling people FDR. And many people in wheelchairs today aren’t dying to be able to walk. The jokes were bad and give license to viewers to continue to treat us in this way.

Do you have jokes against Jews, blacks, gays? I mean are kids are cruel, NBD right?

The show literally also showcases an ongoing joke calling her the UN which is double entendre for united nations and unf_ckable nerds. Mocking them on two fronts, one racist. Kids are telling cruel jokes about their race in the show as well. But you didn't notice those because they aren't your cause? The high school kids are aholes. And as has been the case since the dawn of the US grade school system, and probably history. kids will look for differences and exploit and mock them to gain status in the group because they haven't fully fleshed out their moral compass yet and are obsessed with fitting in. This is a central line of plot for virtually every piece of film featuring a teenager for the last fifty years.

Also, for the record, it isn't no big deal. This type of casual cruelty is shown to inflict anxiety, stress, sadness, depression and lifelong painful memories and almost all of these high school stories portray this bullying as very damaging.

Nope, who said other things weren't my cause. The handicap/ wheelchair jokes need to end. Period.

All mean-spirited jokes need to end then.

You don't get to decide for me, so no.

Like I said, I thought the show was funny, but I am sick and tired of wheelchairs and disability being a socially acceptable joke, period, and I felt that the use in the show of that plot was unnecessary and offensive. Don't like my opinion, based on my experience growing up with a disability, then I don't care. You trying to discredit me or blend my argument into yours does zero. I have an opinion, deal with it. Maybe educate yourself. I guess in the US if you are a minority it's acceptable for you to poke fun at your minority. But Mindy's not handicap or in a chair. So having a character that is all upset about being in one, and having people treat her like she's got some disease (and the teacher saying "it's not contagious), people calling her FDR, people accusing her of faking, of everyone staring, etc. Give me a break. No, it's not funny, and she shouldn't have had those depictions in there. Just no. Show would have been just as strong without it.

NP. You are unhinged.

No one, in this thread or the show, said it is ok to make fun of disabled people. But, lots of stuff that isn’t ok happens in high school and will be portrayed as happening in a show about high school.

That other groups also had jokes thrown their way is directly relevant to whether the writers were attacking the disabled community. That doesn’t mean those jokes are ok.

You are obviously entitled to your opinion. But so is everyone else and you don’t get to simply decree that we must all be offended.

Oh, you again. Anyone who disagrees with you particularly when you are wrong, is mentally unstable. What privilege you show. People are blind and discriminate against people with disabilities so let's all make fun of them. Gotcha.

Again? I have no idea what other posts or topics you might be referring to.

And you are not unstable because you think the jokes were out of line. I think they were ok. They are offensive, but that’s the point and the show wasn’t presenting it as if the jokes were proper. But I can respect someone who thinks otherwise and wouldn’t view that point of view as a sign of instability.

Your posts, on the other hand, were ridiculous. It wasn’t the position you took per se. it was the ridiculously vehemently you made your points, repeatedly. In particular, your take that people who expressed different views were trying to silent your opinion was nonsensical.

Reasonable people can disagree on whether the show should have included those jokes, but you aren’t a reasonable person, at least on this topic.

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I LOVED Rebecca. If they renew I’d live to see more of her. Her dialogue and delivery were perfection.

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Anonymous wrote:Can anyone tell me if it would be appropriate for a 7th grade Indian girl whose really excited to watch this?! I noticed there’s lots of wanting-to-get-laid references on the trailer?

There are many curse words and sexual themes, so no, I do not think it’s appropriate for a 12 year old. But still loved the show.