I HATE AUTISM

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm sorry it is so hard right now. In addition to getting on some waitlists for your son, you might order the book "Not What I Expected" for yourself by Rita Eichenstein. No matter what his eventual diagnosis is, you are in a stage of anger and grief around what he is not (and what your life is not). That is OK! This stuff is hard, and it's OK to be angry about it. Eventually, hopefully, those feelings won't be quite so intense. But it's OK to have them and to rage a bit about what might have been but is not.

[Anonymous]

NP here. I hate autism too. I hate what it has done to my son and our family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have a child with autism and you're going around saying you hate autism, you're a bad parent. Plain and simple. Your job is to advocate and support your child. You should be working to make the world a more accommodating and supportive environment. Your child has enough struggles without his/her own parents spewing hateful words.

I hate neurotypicals!! They don't know how to follow a routine, insist on talking in codes rather than just saying what they mean, insist on variety just for the sake of it, and don't let me stim when that's a key way for me to emotionally regulate., etc. etc. That would be a really awful thing to say, right?

Don't use hate when it comes to your kids. Should be an easy rule.

This is horrible and frankly, PP, you are horrible for saying it.

If I have a child with cancer, am I not allowed to say that I hate cancer? Cancer is NOT my child, nor my child's identity.

Amen

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have a child with autism and you're going around saying you hate autism, you're a bad parent. Plain and simple. Your job is to advocate and support your child. You should be working to make the world a more accommodating and supportive environment. Your child has enough struggles without his/her own parents spewing hateful words.

I hate neurotypicals!! They don't know how to follow a routine, insist on talking in codes rather than just saying what they mean, insist on variety just for the sake of it, and don't let me stim when that's a key way for me to emotionally regulate., etc. etc. That would be a really awful thing to say, right?

Don't use hate when it comes to your kids. Should be an easy rule.

This is horrible and frankly, PP, you are horrible for saying it.

If I have a child with cancer, am I not allowed to say that I hate cancer? Cancer is NOT my child, nor my child's identity.

They are not comparable. Cancer is a disease. Autism is not. Autism is not something that needs to be cured.

Autism is a disorder that must be managed. It can't be cured, unfortunately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have never permitted video games in our home. Problem solved.

Haha. Is that a joke?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have never permitted video games in our home. Problem solved.

How is this advice helpful to OP?

It’s really not a good idea for anyone’s mental health to take away the one source of enjoyment in life for a child with violent episodes requiring 9118 who is not currently in treatment or medicated.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have a child with autism and you're going around saying you hate autism, you're a bad parent. Plain and simple. Your job is to advocate and support your child. You should be working to make the world a more accommodating and supportive environment. Your child has enough struggles without his/her own parents spewing hateful words.

I hate neurotypicals!! They don't know how to follow a routine, insist on talking in codes rather than just saying what they mean, insist on variety just for the sake of it, and don't let me stim when that's a key way for me to emotionally regulate., etc. etc. That would be a really awful thing to say, right?

Don't use hate when it comes to your kids. Should be an easy rule.

This is horrible and frankly, PP, you are horrible for saying it.

If I have a child with cancer, am I not allowed to say that I hate cancer? Cancer is NOT my child, nor my child's identity.

They are not comparable. Cancer is a disease. Autism is not. Autism is not something that needs to be cured.

Autism is a disorder that must be managed. It can't be cured, unfortunately.

Autism in NOT a disorder!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I hate autism too. I hate what it has done to my son and our family.

Does your child have a diagnosis? Hers does not, that's the point!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have a child with autism and you're going around saying you hate autism, you're a bad parent. Plain and simple. Your job is to advocate and support your child. You should be working to make the world a more accommodating and supportive environment. Your child has enough struggles without his/her own parents spewing hateful words.

I hate neurotypicals!! They don't know how to follow a routine, insist on talking in codes rather than just saying what they mean, insist on variety just for the sake of it, and don't let me stim when that's a key way for me to emotionally regulate., etc. etc. That would be a really awful thing to say, right?

Don't use hate when it comes to your kids. Should be an easy rule.

This is horrible and frankly, PP, you are horrible for saying it.

If I have a child with cancer, am I not allowed to say that I hate cancer? Cancer is NOT my child, nor my child's identity.

They are not comparable. Cancer is a disease. Autism is not. Autism is not something that needs to be cured.

Autism is a disorder that must be managed. It can't be cured, unfortunately.

Autism in NOT a disorder!!

Yes it is, it's a neurological and developmental disorder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I hate autism too. I hate what it has done to my son and our family.

Does your child have a diagnosis? Hers does not, that's the point!

That's what point? Many adults are self-diagnosed. Many children and adults are undiagnosed or yet-to-be-diagnosed or in-the-process-of-being-diagnosed, as my DC is, or informally diagnosed, as OPs DC has been.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have a child with autism and you're going around saying you hate autism, you're a bad parent. Plain and simple. Your job is to advocate and support your child. You should be working to make the world a more accommodating and supportive environment. Your child has enough struggles without his/her own parents spewing hateful words.

I hate neurotypicals!! They don't know how to follow a routine, insist on talking in codes rather than just saying what they mean, insist on variety just for the sake of it, and don't let me stim when that's a key way for me to emotionally regulate., etc. etc. That would be a really awful thing to say, right?

Don't use hate when it comes to your kids. Should be an easy rule.

This is horrible and frankly, PP, you are horrible for saying it.

If I have a child with cancer, am I not allowed to say that I hate cancer? Cancer is NOT my child, nor my child's identity.

They are not comparable. Cancer is a disease. Autism is not. Autism is not something that needs to be cured.

Autism is a disorder that must be managed. It can't be cured, unfortunately.

Autism in NOT a disorder!!

So my kid has a psychiatrist, a psychologist, a speech therapist and an IEP for nothing? Good to know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I hate autism too. I hate what it has done to my son and our family.

Does your child have a diagnosis? Hers does not, that's the point!

That's what point? Many adults are self-diagnosed. Many children and adults are undiagnosed or yet-to-be-diagnosed or in-the-process-of-being-diagnosed, as my DC is, or informally diagnosed, as OPs DC has been.

Whoa... self-diagnosis is not legitimate.

[Anonymous]

Oh Girl. I just said a little prayer for you. I hope that you can have peace...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I hate autism too. I hate what it has done to my son and our family.

Does your child have a diagnosis? Hers does not, that's the point!

That's what point? Many adults are self-diagnosed. Many children and adults are undiagnosed or yet-to-be-diagnosed or in-the-process-of-being-diagnosed, as my DC is, or informally diagnosed, as OPs DC has been.

Whoa... self-diagnosis is not legitimate.

Okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have a child with autism and you're going around saying you hate autism, you're a bad parent. Plain and simple. Your job is to advocate and support your child. You should be working to make the world a more accommodating and supportive environment. Your child has enough struggles without his/her own parents spewing hateful words.

I hate neurotypicals!! They don't know how to follow a routine, insist on talking in codes rather than just saying what they mean, insist on variety just for the sake of it, and don't let me stim when that's a key way for me to emotionally regulate., etc. etc. That would be a really awful thing to say, right?

Don't use hate when it comes to your kids. Should be an easy rule.

This is horrible and frankly, PP, you are horrible for saying it.

If I have a child with cancer, am I not allowed to say that I hate cancer? Cancer is NOT my child, nor my child's identity.

They are not comparable. Cancer is a disease. Autism is not. Autism is not something that needs to be cured.

Autism is a disorder that must be managed. It can't be cured, unfortunately.

Autism in NOT a disorder!!

So my kid has a psychiatrist, a psychologist, a speech therapist and an IEP for nothing? Good to know.

They need them to be able to interpret and communicate with the neurotypical world. Just as neurotypicals would need them if the autistic brain were the norm.