Former ILs Mistreating New Wife

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So Op, you want to still be all involved even though you are no longer married. He's boring but you are not letting go of him.

I let go of him a long time ago. I even married way before him. It's his family who can't seem to let ME go.

[Anonymous]

and round and round we go

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So Op, you want to still be all involved even though you are no longer married. He's boring but you are not letting go of him.

I let go of him a long time ago. I even married way before him. It's his family who can't seem to let ME go.

Narcissist

[Anonymous]

Not your business.

Make sure you don’t secretly enjoy it.

Say nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stay out of it!

I don't understand why I am in it in the first place. Why do these people keep bringing me up?

because you are being used as a pawn in some way. Stay out of it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ILs are protecting their grandkids’ feelings. New wife, new baby, new family. They are doing their best to make sure their grandkids know that they still matter.

They have two sets of grandkids who deserve to be loved.

Of course. But their dad and mom split up and the grandparents can see the way the kids look at their dad and his new family. It isn’t really that hard to understand, is it? It has nothing to do with OP and everything to do with her children.

+1000 they are not hurting thebaby’s feelings with lack of gifts, baby doesn’t care. When the baby is older hopefully they will treat him well. Right now for the grandparents maybe it is between grandkids and new DIL,and they want the grandkids to feel precious

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So Op, you want to still be all involved even though you are no longer married. He's boring but you are not letting go of him.

I let go of him a long time ago. I even married way before him. It's his family who can't seem to let ME go.

NP. They have let you go. They didn't like you either, they weren't warm to you. They are only talking about you to get at the new wife.

It's not about you, they aren't interested in you they are just using your name to get to the new wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So Op, you want to still be all involved even though you are no longer married. He's boring but you are not letting go of him.

I let go of him a long time ago. I even married way before him. It's his family who can't seem to let ME go.

NP. They have let you go. They didn't like you either, they weren't warm to you. They are only talking about you to get at the new wife.

It's not about you, they aren't interested in you they are just using your name to get to the new wife.

Yes, this.

[Anonymous]

So...they are probably asking/talking about you a lot so the kids dont feel abandoned/threatened by the arrival of new baby. They may worry about the fragility of their feelings right now, so discuss you frequently etc. Also, just becuase your children did not see any baby gifts given by other family members does not mean they were not given.