What is the earliest age you would buy condoms for your son?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think sex will land him in jail. Check the laws in your state.

There are close in age exceptions but your son doesn't need to know that.

Why wouldn't you be honest with your teen? An honest and open conversation about sex is very important.



And the chicken nugget analogy is just weird.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - a sincere and heartfelt thank you to whoever wrote "The problem is that OP is trying as hard as she can to get her son to understand that he shouldn’t be having sex this young, but it looks like he’s just going to do it anyway." That is exactly the case.

I have no desire to break them up. She is an admirable girl, and they have a healthy relationship. (Most importantly - neither is the boss.) It is in face very likely that they won't have sex anytime soon because she is levelheaded. But my son is most certainly a romantic who sincerely believes himself ready for many adult things. (He'd like to vote and drive as well!) Of course I know that this very delusion proves that he's immature. This situation shouldn't be happening, But it is. So what would you do?

14 is young even for dating, much less a serious relationship.

You didn’t date as a HS freshman?

Nope

Interesting. My Gen X peers and I had Gf/Bf relationships then.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - a sincere and heartfelt thank you to whoever wrote "The problem is that OP is trying as hard as she can to get her son to understand that he shouldn’t be having sex this young, but it looks like he’s just going to do it anyway." That is exactly the case.

I have no desire to break them up. She is an admirable girl, and they have a healthy relationship. (Most importantly - neither is the boss.) It is in face very likely that they won't have sex anytime soon because she is levelheaded. But my son is most certainly a romantic who sincerely believes himself ready for many adult things. (He'd like to vote and drive as well!) Of course I know that this very delusion proves that he's immature. This situation shouldn't be happening, But it is. So what would you do?

14 is young even for dating, much less a serious relationship.

You didn’t date as a HS freshman?

Nope

Interesting. My Gen X peers and I had Gf/Bf relationships then.

14 is young poster-- you are the weird one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think sex will land him in jail. Check the laws in your state.

There are close in age exceptions but your son doesn't need to know that.

Why wouldn't you be honest with your teen? An honest and open conversation about sex is very important.



And the chicken nugget analogy is just weird.

Sex and consent laws are two different things. I would be honest - the age of consent in the state of Virginia or Maryland is X, and here are the penalties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - a sincere and heartfelt thank you to whoever wrote "The problem is that OP is trying as hard as she can to get her son to understand that he shouldn’t be having sex this young, but it looks like he’s just going to do it anyway." That is exactly the case.

I have no desire to break them up. She is an admirable girl, and they have a healthy relationship. (Most importantly - neither is the boss.) It is in face very likely that they won't have sex anytime soon because she is levelheaded. But my son is most certainly a romantic who sincerely believes himself ready for many adult things. (He'd like to vote and drive as well!) Of course I know that this very delusion proves that he's immature. This situation shouldn't be happening, But it is. So what would you do?

14 is young even for dating, much less a serious relationship.

You didn’t date as a HS freshman?

Nope

Interesting. My Gen X peers and I had Gf/Bf relationships then.

I am Gen X and none of my friends were dating at 14.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - a sincere and heartfelt thank you to whoever wrote "The problem is that OP is trying as hard as she can to get her son to understand that he shouldn’t be having sex this young, but it looks like he’s just going to do it anyway." That is exactly the case.

I have no desire to break them up. She is an admirable girl, and they have a healthy relationship. (Most importantly - neither is the boss.) It is in face very likely that they won't have sex anytime soon because she is levelheaded. But my son is most certainly a romantic who sincerely believes himself ready for many adult things. (He'd like to vote and drive as well!) Of course I know that this very delusion proves that he's immature. This situation shouldn't be happening, But it is. So what would you do?

14 is young even for dating, much less a serious relationship.

You didn’t date as a HS freshman?

Nope

Interesting. My Gen X peers and I had Gf/Bf relationships then.

I am Gen X and none of my friends were dating at 14.

Really? I don’t mean what we called “car dating,” but we had regular dances starting in 7th grade and kids paired off. I’d say bf/gf relationships picked up in 8th and especially 9th grade. It was the era of Judy Blume books!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think sex will land him in jail. Check the laws in your state.

There are close in age exceptions but your son doesn't need to know that.

Why wouldn't you be honest with your teen? An honest and open conversation about sex is very important.



And the chicken nugget analogy is just weird.

Sex and consent laws are two different things. I would be honest - the age of consent in the state of Virginia or Maryland is X, and here are the penalties.

Both deserve honest conversation. These are big deals.

And age of consent laws should be clear that two teens less than 24 months apart can have sex, even if they are minors. Your teens deserves to know that. I don't believe in scare tactics as a weapon to keep teens from being sexually active. 1. that doesn't always work, 2. even if it does work, you are damaging your relationship with your teen, or scaring them away from your religious beliefs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - a sincere and heartfelt thank you to whoever wrote "The problem is that OP is trying as hard as she can to get her son to understand that he shouldn’t be having sex this young, but it looks like he’s just going to do it anyway." That is exactly the case.

I have no desire to break them up. She is an admirable girl, and they have a healthy relationship. (Most importantly - neither is the boss.) It is in face very likely that they won't have sex anytime soon because she is levelheaded. But my son is most certainly a romantic who sincerely believes himself ready for many adult things. (He'd like to vote and drive as well!) Of course I know that this very delusion proves that he's immature. This situation shouldn't be happening, But it is. So what would you do?

14 is young even for dating, much less a serious relationship.

You didn’t date as a HS freshman?

Nope

Interesting. My Gen X peers and I had Gf/Bf relationships then.

I am Gen X and none of my friends were dating at 14.

Really? I don’t mean what we called “car dating,” but we had regular dances starting in 7th grade and kids paired off. I’d say bf/gf relationships picked up in 8th and especially 9th grade. It was the era of Judy Blume books!

Really. Middle school dating wasn't a thing in my circles and it's not among my kids' groups of friends either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think sex will land him in jail. Check the laws in your state.

There are close in age exceptions but your son doesn't need to know that.

Why wouldn't you be honest with your teen? An honest and open conversation about sex is very important.



And the chicken nugget analogy is just weird.

Sex and consent laws are two different things. I would be honest - the age of consent in the state of Virginia or Maryland is X, and here are the penalties.

Both deserve honest conversation. These are big deals.

And age of consent laws should be clear that two teens less than 24 months apart can have sex, even if they are minors. Your teens deserves to know that. I don't believe in scare tactics as a weapon to keep teens from being sexually active. 1. that doesn't always work, 2. even if it does work, you are damaging your relationship with your teen, or scaring them away from your religious beliefs.

We'll have to agree to disagree. I don't think including the exception is necessary when having a talk with my 14 year old when my goal is to dissuade him from sexual activity at such a young age.

[Anonymous]

Good luck with that control.

[Anonymous]

Lies of omission are still lies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lies of omission are still lies.

I'm not going to lie awake at night worrying that I haven't included the exceptions to various laws on the books. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - a sincere and heartfelt thank you to whoever wrote "The problem is that OP is trying as hard as she can to get her son to understand that he shouldn’t be having sex this young, but it looks like he’s just going to do it anyway." That is exactly the case.

I have no desire to break them up. She is an admirable girl, and they have a healthy relationship. (Most importantly - neither is the boss.) It is in face very likely that they won't have sex anytime soon because she is levelheaded. But my son is most certainly a romantic who sincerely believes himself ready for many adult things. (He'd like to vote and drive as well!) Of course I know that this very delusion proves that he's immature. This situation shouldn't be happening, But it is. So what would you do?

14 is young even for dating, much less a serious relationship.

You didn’t date as a HS freshman?

Nope

Interesting. My Gen X peers and I had Gf/Bf relationships then.

I am Gen X and none of my friends were dating at 14.

Really? I don’t mean what we called “car dating,” but we had regular dances starting in 7th grade and kids paired off. I’d say bf/gf relationships picked up in 8th and especially 9th grade. It was the era of Judy Blume books!

Really. Middle school dating wasn't a thing in my circles and it's not among my kids' groups of friends either.

Maybe it’s a regional difference. Small town in a non-coastal state. There wasn’t that much “dating” in the sense of going to a movie with just a fb/gf. More like school-based relationships, going to movies in groups, and going to dances in groups.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Lies of omission are still lies.

I'm not going to lie awake at night worrying that I haven't included the exceptions to various laws on the books. Sorry.

Happy you can sleep at night being a liar. It doesn't work for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lies of omission are still lies.

I'm not going to lie awake at night worrying that I haven't included the exceptions to various laws on the books. Sorry.

Happy you can sleep at night being a liar. It doesn't work for me.

People are different. Shrug.