Age not to take boy into restaurant ladies bathroom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mom of two boys and I felt zero guilt and we did it for a LONG time. Of course if dh were there, he took our boys. Now my oldest is a teen and he has been taking his little brother with him for several years. It is unfortunate if a tween girl is uncomfortable, guess what? My boys were uncomfortable too. We called it the Mom's bathroom instead of the Women's bathroom. If your tween girls are uncomfortable then why don't you tell them about little boys who have been raped and murdered in bathrooms? That should help them understand that feeling uncomfortable is not as important as safety.

And can I just say that THANK HEAVENS for places like Ikea with the family bathrooms. Our airport had them in the terminal virgin used but not the one that United used. I flew out of the terminal with the family bathrooms as often as possible. I don't think that moms of girls get the moms of boys are often having to think of the logistics of bathrooms ahead of time. I am sure that dads of girls who take them lots of places on their own think about those logistics a lot too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mom of two boys and I felt zero guilt and we did it for a LONG time. Of course if dh were there, he took our boys. Now my oldest is a teen and he has been taking his little brother with him for several years. It is unfortunate if a tween girl is uncomfortable, guess what? My boys were uncomfortable too. We called it the Mom's bathroom instead of the Women's bathroom. If your tween girls are uncomfortable then why don't you tell them about little boys who have been raped and murdered in bathrooms? That should help them understand that feeling uncomfortable is not as important as safety.

"Mom's bathroom" still wouldn't give boys an excuse to be there. Little boys are not moms.
I'm not a tween girl. I am an adult woman who is uncomfortable with older boys in the womens room. And I LIVED in Oceanside, CA when Matthew Cecchi was murdered. It was awful.
It doesn't change the fact that teen boys should not be in a women's bathroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 8 yr old goes into the men's bathroom without any issues.

Great! It is wonderful that your son has not been attacked. It does not mean that the moms who bring their 8 yr olds in with them are making a mistake or don't know something that you know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Mom of two boys and I felt zero guilt and we did it for a LONG time. Of course if dh were there, he took our boys. Now my oldest is a teen and he has been taking his little brother with him for several years. It is unfortunate if a tween girl is uncomfortable, guess what? My boys were uncomfortable too. We called it the Mom's bathroom instead of the Women's bathroom. If your tween girls are uncomfortable then why don't you tell them about little boys who have been raped and murdered in bathrooms? That should help them understand that feeling uncomfortable is not as important as safety.

"Mom's bathroom" still wouldn't give boys an excuse to be there. Little boys are not moms.
I'm not a tween girl. I am an adult woman who is uncomfortable with older boys in the womens room. And I LIVED in Oceanside, CA when Matthew Cecchi was murdered. It was awful.
It doesn't change the fact that teen boys should not be in a women's bathroom.

Who is talking about taking teen boys in bathrooms with them? Wasn't Matthew Cecchi young like 5? Get over yourself. If you are uncomfortable, you are an adult and you can wait until the children are finished. Rape and murder are a bigger deal than your discomfort.

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe there are people who take non-disabled 8 year old boys into women’s bathrooms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe there are people who take non-disabled 8 year old boys into women’s bathrooms.

I can't believe the people who care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mom of two boys and I felt zero guilt and we did it for a LONG time. Of course if dh were there, he took our boys. Now my oldest is a teen and he has been taking his little brother with him for several years. It is unfortunate if a tween girl is uncomfortable, guess what? My boys were uncomfortable too. We called it the Mom's bathroom instead of the Women's bathroom. If your tween girls are uncomfortable then why don't you tell them about little boys who have been raped and murdered in bathrooms? That should help them understand that feeling uncomfortable is not as important as safety.

"Mom's bathroom" still wouldn't give boys an excuse to be there. Little boys are not moms.
I'm not a tween girl. I am an adult woman who is uncomfortable with older boys in the womens room. And I LIVED in Oceanside, CA when Matthew Cecchi was murdered. It was awful.
It doesn't change the fact that teen boys should not be in a women's bathroom.

Who is talking about taking teen boys in bathrooms with them? Wasn't Matthew Cecchi young like 5? Get over yourself. If you are uncomfortable, you are an adult and you can wait until the children are finished. Rape and murder are a bigger deal than your discomfort.

He was 9.

And maybe the boys can wait until the women who BELONG in the bathroom are finished. A woman not being sexually violated (by the prying eyes of a teen boy) is a bigger deal than their discomfort (of having to hold it)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Under 13, I wouldn't care.

I have tween girls and they would be extremely uncomfortable with 10, 11 and 12 year old boys in the ladies’ room. That’s too old.

Where are all of you taking your sons into women’s restrooms? I have never seen a boy older than 4 or 5 come into the bathroom with his mom, and it’s pretty rare for me to see even that.

So, are you ok with your 10 year old going into a bathroom alone? You might feel different with boys.

What?! I am ok with any 10 !!! Year old using the bathroom without supervision. How will your children function independently with this extreme hovering?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I stopped around age 8 if it was a place like a restaurant with multiple exits, Penn station, an airport etc. I really don't care about looks from other moms. No way I'd allow a 4 year old into a mens room alone.

I would never let my 8 year old into a bathroom a penn station alone! I have a 9 year old, and it’s case by case.

Penn Station might be the last place in the US I'd send my kid into a bathroom alone. I enjoy commuting through there; the food is good and who can complain about getting a large fancy beer can with your egg sandwich. But the bathrooms there are known to be frequented by homeless people, many of which have issues with mental health or opiate use or both.

Haha that was a typo. I meant we stopped at around age 8 it wasn't a place like Penn Station - in which case, he would be with me, or we simply would hold it until we went somewhere safer. My kids' safety comes first and the judgment call is mine to make as his mom.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mom of two boys and I felt zero guilt and we did it for a LONG time. Of course if dh were there, he took our boys. Now my oldest is a teen and he has been taking his little brother with him for several years. It is unfortunate if a tween girl is uncomfortable, guess what? My boys were uncomfortable too. We called it the Mom's bathroom instead of the Women's bathroom. If your tween girls are uncomfortable then why don't you tell them about little boys who have been raped and murdered in bathrooms? That should help them understand that feeling uncomfortable is not as important as safety.

"Mom's bathroom" still wouldn't give boys an excuse to be there. Little boys are not moms.
I'm not a tween girl. I am an adult woman who is uncomfortable with older boys in the womens room. And I LIVED in Oceanside, CA when Matthew Cecchi was murdered. It was awful.
It doesn't change the fact that teen boys should not be in a women's bathroom.

Who is talking about taking teen boys in bathrooms with them? Wasn't Matthew Cecchi young like 5? Get over yourself. If you are uncomfortable, you are an adult and you can wait until the children are finished. Rape and murder are a bigger deal than your discomfort.

He was 9.

And maybe the boys can wait until the women who BELONG in the bathroom are finished. A woman not being sexually violated (by the prying eyes of a teen boy) is a bigger deal than their discomfort (of having to hold it)

NP but come on, no one is talking about teens!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe there are people who take non-disabled 8 year old boys into women’s bathrooms.

I can't believe the people who care.

It’s infantilizing, not age appropriate, and unfair to elementary age girls.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mom of two boys and I felt zero guilt and we did it for a LONG time. Of course if dh were there, he took our boys. Now my oldest is a teen and he has been taking his little brother with him for several years. It is unfortunate if a tween girl is uncomfortable, guess what? My boys were uncomfortable too. We called it the Mom's bathroom instead of the Women's bathroom. If your tween girls are uncomfortable then why don't you tell them about little boys who have been raped and murdered in bathrooms? That should help them understand that feeling uncomfortable is not as important as safety.

"Mom's bathroom" still wouldn't give boys an excuse to be there. Little boys are not moms.
I'm not a tween girl. I am an adult woman who is uncomfortable with older boys in the womens room. And I LIVED in Oceanside, CA when Matthew Cecchi was murdered. It was awful.
It doesn't change the fact that teen boys should not be in a women's bathroom.

Who is talking about taking teen boys in bathrooms with them? Wasn't Matthew Cecchi young like 5? Get over yourself. If you are uncomfortable, you are an adult and you can wait until the children are finished. Rape and murder are a bigger deal than your discomfort.

He was 9.

And maybe the boys can wait until the women who BELONG in the bathroom are finished. A woman not being sexually violated (by the prying eyes of a teen boy) is a bigger deal than their discomfort (of having to hold it)

Get over yourself. If you think a 9 yr old boy is a teen, or that a 9 yr old in the bathroom has prying eyes then you have hard work to do with a therapist. Perhaps you should seek out handicapped bathrooms where there is one door, one toilet, one sink.

[Anonymous]

By the way, it's not just children that get murdered in bathrooms.
Adults have also been murdered in public restrooms. You can't have every adult male going into women's rooms with their mommies for the rest of their lives.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe there are people who take non-disabled 8 year old boys into women’s bathrooms.

I can't believe the people who care.

It’s infantilizing, not age appropriate, and unfair to elementary age girls.

OP, as you can see, you should do what you need to do with your child. You do not need to worry about the few crazies who may say something.

[Anonymous]

Some 9 yo girls already have their periods. They shouldn’t have to worry about running into a boy from school in a public bathroom.