What’s fair for nannies when they have a baby?

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No you aren’t used to or experienced handling multiple kids for years. You underestimate what an excellent nanny is capable of bc you know you couldn’t handle it. You also assume a nanny cannot spread their love to multiple kids. Most nannies love their kids as their own. The only difference is she birthed one and brought it to work. Here is the thing with DCUM, most hire subpar or average nannies and claim they pay well. Most families don’t. When you experience a truly amazing nanny you know it. Everything she does is effortless bc it’s the same rodeo just different kids for her.

I bet you aren't experienced in handling other people's kids + your own for years. I mean how many years would you really bring your child to work? This isn't exactly a popular arrangement.

Love isn't a reflection of skill. It isn't love that makes you a good multitasker.

No one loves other people kids like their own. You don't either. That's just a thing people say.

[Anonymous]

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No you aren’t used to or experienced handling multiple kids for years. You underestimate what an excellent nanny is capable of bc you know you couldn’t handle it. You also assume a nanny cannot spread their love to multiple kids. Most nannies love their kids as their own. The only difference is she birthed one and brought it to work. Here is the thing with DCUM, most hire subpar or average nannies and claim they pay well. Most families don’t. When you experience a truly amazing nanny you know it. Everything she does is effortless bc it’s the same rodeo just different kids for her.

Every nanny thinks she's amazing, I mean how many people can evaluate themselves objectively?

[Anonymous]

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No you aren’t used to or experienced handling multiple kids for years. You underestimate what an excellent nanny is capable of bc you know you couldn’t handle it. You also assume a nanny cannot spread their love to multiple kids. Most nannies love their kids as their own. The only difference is she birthed one and brought it to work. Here is the thing with DCUM, most hire subpar or average nannies and claim they pay well. Most families don’t. When you experience a truly amazing nanny you know it. Everything she does is effortless bc it’s the same rodeo just different kids for her.

I bet you aren't experienced in handling other people's kids + your own for years. I mean how many years would you really bring your child to work? This isn't exactly a popular arrangement.

Love isn't a reflection of skill. It isn't love that makes you a good multitasker.

No one loves other people kids like their own. You don't either. That's just a thing people say.

You aren’t a nanny so you don’t and won’t get it.

[Anonymous]

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No you aren’t used to or experienced handling multiple kids for years. You underestimate what an excellent nanny is capable of bc you know you couldn’t handle it. You also assume a nanny cannot spread their love to multiple kids. Most nannies love their kids as their own. The only difference is she birthed one and brought it to work. Here is the thing with DCUM, most hire subpar or average nannies and claim they pay well. Most families don’t. When you experience a truly amazing nanny you know it. Everything she does is effortless bc it’s the same rodeo just different kids for her.

Every nanny thinks she's amazing, I mean how many people can evaluate themselves objectively?

I’m sure every nanny does. But that isn’t what is being discussed. Experiencing an amazing nanny will show you how they multitask and provide amazing care for kids. While you worry if she can handle multiple kids she isn’t. She’s just doing her job.

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No you aren’t used to or experienced handling multiple kids for years. You underestimate what an excellent nanny is capable of bc you know you couldn’t handle it. You also assume a nanny cannot spread their love to multiple kids. Most nannies love their kids as their own. The only difference is she birthed one and brought it to work. Here is the thing with DCUM, most hire subpar or average nannies and claim they pay well. Most families don’t. When you experience a truly amazing nanny you know it. Everything she does is effortless bc it’s the same rodeo just different kids for her.

I bet you aren't experienced in handling other people's kids + your own for years. I mean how many years would you really bring your child to work? This isn't exactly a popular arrangement.

Love isn't a reflection of skill. It isn't love that makes you a good multitasker.

No one loves other people kids like their own. You don't either. That's just a thing people say.

No, I’m not. But I’m not the nanny poster who is doing that. I’m just not closed minded and bent on trying to prove her wrong. I know what a great nanny is capable of, just like I know some iffy nannies. I’m experienced with handling multiple kids under 5 and for me it’s easy. While the parents struggle with just their kids I don’t. Parents are quick to dismiss a nanny’s skill bc they think it makes them look bad as a parent.

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No you aren’t used to or experienced handling multiple kids for years. You underestimate what an excellent nanny is capable of bc you know you couldn’t handle it. You also assume a nanny cannot spread their love to multiple kids. Most nannies love their kids as their own. The only difference is she birthed one and brought it to work. Here is the thing with DCUM, most hire subpar or average nannies and claim they pay well. Most families don’t. When you experience a truly amazing nanny you know it. Everything she does is effortless bc it’s the same rodeo just different kids for her.

I bet you aren't experienced in handling other people's kids + your own for years. I mean how many years would you really bring your child to work? This isn't exactly a popular arrangement.

Love isn't a reflection of skill. It isn't love that makes you a good multitasker.

No one loves other people kids like their own. You don't either. That's just a thing people say.

No, I’m not. But I’m not the nanny poster who is doing that. I’m just not closed minded and bent on trying to prove her wrong. I know what a great nanny is capable of, just like I know some iffy nannies. I’m experienced with handling multiple kids under 5 and for me it’s easy. While the parents struggle with just their kids I don’t. Parents are quick to dismiss a nanny’s skill bc they think it makes them look bad as a parent.

I don't think you get it. When parents add another baby to the family, they understand the level of care for the older children will go down. They know it and they accept it in the name of expanding the family, because another sibling is worth less attention to the others. But they aren't ready to accept it in the name of another child. That's what you aren't getting. Of course you can handle multiple children - what nanny can't? It's just that not all parents are ready to accept the reduction in care in the name of another person's child.

I'll give you an example from our preposterous friend whose newborn is nursing in a carrier while she's running around three-year olds at a playground. We all know that's not possible so let's pretend it's a more realistic scenario of her nursing her infant on the bench while 3-year olds are playing.

Now let's pretend one three-year old fell down.

Or both kids want the nanny to support them in climbing something.

Or one kid wants the nanny to come and play shop.

Now, if it's a mother nursing her infant while her children play, she may be perfectly comfortable saying to the 3-year old, hey Johnny, you have to wait, your brother is eating. But not all parents may be comfortable with the idea of nanny saying hey Johnny, you have to wait, my baby is eating.

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No you aren’t used to or experienced handling multiple kids for years. You underestimate what an excellent nanny is capable of bc you know you couldn’t handle it. You also assume a nanny cannot spread their love to multiple kids. Most nannies love their kids as their own. The only difference is she birthed one and brought it to work. Here is the thing with DCUM, most hire subpar or average nannies and claim they pay well. Most families don’t. When you experience a truly amazing nanny you know it. Everything she does is effortless bc it’s the same rodeo just different kids for her.

I bet you aren't experienced in handling other people's kids + your own for years. I mean how many years would you really bring your child to work? This isn't exactly a popular arrangement.

Love isn't a reflection of skill. It isn't love that makes you a good multitasker.

No one loves other people kids like their own. You don't either. That's just a thing people say.

No, I’m not. But I’m not the nanny poster who is doing that. I’m just not closed minded and bent on trying to prove her wrong. I know what a great nanny is capable of, just like I know some iffy nannies. I’m experienced with handling multiple kids under 5 and for me it’s easy. While the parents struggle with just their kids I don’t. Parents are quick to dismiss a nanny’s skill bc they think it makes them look bad as a parent.

I don't think you get it. When parents add another baby to the family, they understand the level of care for the older children will go down. They know it and they accept it in the name of expanding the family, because another sibling is worth less attention to the others. But they aren't ready to accept it in the name of another child. That's what you aren't getting. Of course you can handle multiple children - what nanny can't? It's just that not all parents are ready to accept the reduction in care in the name of another person's child.

I'll give you an example from our preposterous friend whose newborn is nursing in a carrier while she's running around three-year olds at a playground. We all know that's not possible so let's pretend it's a more realistic scenario of her nursing her infant on the bench while 3-year olds are playing.

Now let's pretend one three-year old fell down.

Or both kids want the nanny to support them in climbing something.

Or one kid wants the nanny to come and play shop.

Now, if it's a mother nursing her infant while her children play, she may be perfectly comfortable saying to the 3-year old, hey Johnny, you have to wait, your brother is eating. But not all parents may be comfortable with the idea of nanny saying hey Johnny, you have to wait, my baby is eating.

I mean if that’s how you want to spin it and view it then so be it. With your logic you would need to have one child if you were going to use a nanny. This is the type of parent who wants their child to have all the focus. So I guess they would hire a nanny for each child if they had multiple kids.

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No you aren’t used to or experienced handling multiple kids for years. You underestimate what an excellent nanny is capable of bc you know you couldn’t handle it. You also assume a nanny cannot spread their love to multiple kids. Most nannies love their kids as their own. The only difference is she birthed one and brought it to work. Here is the thing with DCUM, most hire subpar or average nannies and claim they pay well. Most families don’t. When you experience a truly amazing nanny you know it. Everything she does is effortless bc it’s the same rodeo just different kids for her.

I bet you aren't experienced in handling other people's kids + your own for years. I mean how many years would you really bring your child to work? This isn't exactly a popular arrangement.

Love isn't a reflection of skill. It isn't love that makes you a good multitasker.

No one loves other people kids like their own. You don't either. That's just a thing people say.

No, I’m not. But I’m not the nanny poster who is doing that. I’m just not closed minded and bent on trying to prove her wrong. I know what a great nanny is capable of, just like I know some iffy nannies. I’m experienced with handling multiple kids under 5 and for me it’s easy. While the parents struggle with just their kids I don’t. Parents are quick to dismiss a nanny’s skill bc they think it makes them look bad as a parent.

I don't think you get it. When parents add another baby to the family, they understand the level of care for the older children will go down. They know it and they accept it in the name of expanding the family, because another sibling is worth less attention to the others. But they aren't ready to accept it in the name of another child. That's what you aren't getting. Of course you can handle multiple children - what nanny can't? It's just that not all parents are ready to accept the reduction in care in the name of another person's child.

I'll give you an example from our preposterous friend whose newborn is nursing in a carrier while she's running around three-year olds at a playground. We all know that's not possible so let's pretend it's a more realistic scenario of her nursing her infant on the bench while 3-year olds are playing.

Now let's pretend one three-year old fell down.

Or both kids want the nanny to support them in climbing something.

Or one kid wants the nanny to come and play shop.

Now, if it's a mother nursing her infant while her children play, she may be perfectly comfortable saying to the 3-year old, hey Johnny, you have to wait, your brother is eating. But not all parents may be comfortable with the idea of nanny saying hey Johnny, you have to wait, my baby is eating.

I mean if that’s how you want to spin it and view it then so be it. With your logic you would need to have one child if you were going to use a nanny. This is the type of parent who wants their child to have all the focus. So I guess they would hire a nanny for each child if they had multiple kids.

I don't think you read it carefully - I said most people would accept their children receiving less than 100% focus in exchange for siblings. But not in exchange for unrelated infants. If my son's little brother is crying, his playing shop thing can wait. If another baby is crying, then hmmm...less inclined.

[Anonymous]

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No you aren’t used to or experienced handling multiple kids for years. You underestimate what an excellent nanny is capable of bc you know you couldn’t handle it. You also assume a nanny cannot spread their love to multiple kids. Most nannies love their kids as their own. The only difference is she birthed one and brought it to work. Here is the thing with DCUM, most hire subpar or average nannies and claim they pay well. Most families don’t. When you experience a truly amazing nanny you know it. Everything she does is effortless bc it’s the same rodeo just different kids for her.

I bet you aren't experienced in handling other people's kids + your own for years. I mean how many years would you really bring your child to work? This isn't exactly a popular arrangement.

Love isn't a reflection of skill. It isn't love that makes you a good multitasker.

No one loves other people kids like their own. You don't either. That's just a thing people say.

No, I’m not. But I’m not the nanny poster who is doing that. I’m just not closed minded and bent on trying to prove her wrong. I know what a great nanny is capable of, just like I know some iffy nannies. I’m experienced with handling multiple kids under 5 and for me it’s easy. While the parents struggle with just their kids I don’t. Parents are quick to dismiss a nanny’s skill bc they think it makes them look bad as a parent.

I don't think you get it. When parents add another baby to the family, they understand the level of care for the older children will go down. They know it and they accept it in the name of expanding the family, because another sibling is worth less attention to the others. But they aren't ready to accept it in the name of another child. That's what you aren't getting. Of course you can handle multiple children - what nanny can't? It's just that not all parents are ready to accept the reduction in care in the name of another person's child.

I'll give you an example from our preposterous friend whose newborn is nursing in a carrier while she's running around three-year olds at a playground. We all know that's not possible so let's pretend it's a more realistic scenario of her nursing her infant on the bench while 3-year olds are playing.

Now let's pretend one three-year old fell down.

Or both kids want the nanny to support them in climbing something.

Or one kid wants the nanny to come and play shop.

Now, if it's a mother nursing her infant while her children play, she may be perfectly comfortable saying to the 3-year old, hey Johnny, you have to wait, your brother is eating. But not all parents may be comfortable with the idea of nanny saying hey Johnny, you have to wait, my baby is eating.

I mean if that’s how you want to spin it and view it then so be it. With your logic you would need to have one child if you were going to use a nanny. This is the type of parent who wants their child to have all the focus. So I guess they would hire a nanny for each child if they had multiple kids.

I don't think you read it carefully - I said most people would accept their children receiving less than 100% focus in exchange for siblings. But not in exchange for unrelated infants. If my son's little brother is crying, his playing shop thing can wait. If another baby is crying, then hmmm...less inclined.

Ok Karen.

Methinks the nanny doth protest too much...

Just out of curiosity, is there any number of kids you can’t handle super nanny? Just curious...

[Anonymous]

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No you aren’t used to or experienced handling multiple kids for years. You underestimate what an excellent nanny is capable of bc you know you couldn’t handle it. You also assume a nanny cannot spread their love to multiple kids. Most nannies love their kids as their own. The only difference is she birthed one and brought it to work. Here is the thing with DCUM, most hire subpar or average nannies and claim they pay well. Most families don’t. When you experience a truly amazing nanny you know it. Everything she does is effortless bc it’s the same rodeo just different kids for her.

I bet you aren't experienced in handling other people's kids + your own for years. I mean how many years would you really bring your child to work? This isn't exactly a popular arrangement.

Love isn't a reflection of skill. It isn't love that makes you a good multitasker.

No one loves other people kids like their own. You don't either. That's just a thing people say.

No, I’m not. But I’m not the nanny poster who is doing that. I’m just not closed minded and bent on trying to prove her wrong. I know what a great nanny is capable of, just like I know some iffy nannies. I’m experienced with handling multiple kids under 5 and for me it’s easy. While the parents struggle with just their kids I don’t. Parents are quick to dismiss a nanny’s skill bc they think it makes them look bad as a parent.

I don't think you get it. When parents add another baby to the family, they understand the level of care for the older children will go down. They know it and they accept it in the name of expanding the family, because another sibling is worth less attention to the others. But they aren't ready to accept it in the name of another child. That's what you aren't getting. Of course you can handle multiple children - what nanny can't? It's just that not all parents are ready to accept the reduction in care in the name of another person's child.

I'll give you an example from our preposterous friend whose newborn is nursing in a carrier while she's running around three-year olds at a playground. We all know that's not possible so let's pretend it's a more realistic scenario of her nursing her infant on the bench while 3-year olds are playing.

Now let's pretend one three-year old fell down.

Or both kids want the nanny to support them in climbing something.

Or one kid wants the nanny to come and play shop.

Now, if it's a mother nursing her infant while her children play, she may be perfectly comfortable saying to the 3-year old, hey Johnny, you have to wait, your brother is eating. But not all parents may be comfortable with the idea of nanny saying hey Johnny, you have to wait, my baby is eating.

I mean if that’s how you want to spin it and view it then so be it. With your logic you would need to have one child if you were going to use a nanny. This is the type of parent who wants their child to have all the focus. So I guess they would hire a nanny for each child if they had multiple kids.

I don't think you read it carefully - I said most people would accept their children receiving less than 100% focus in exchange for siblings. But not in exchange for unrelated infants. If my son's little brother is crying, his playing shop thing can wait. If another baby is crying, then hmmm...less inclined.

"Mom of 3" here and +1 to this. Is it really so hard to understand? My older kids got far less attention for a year, and slightly less attention individually overall, because they gained a sibling and all the good stuff that goes with that. I'm not going to accept the same situation when it's some random other baby we're talking about. The fact that this self-proclaimed "Supernanny" doesn't understand that is really bizarre.

[Anonymous]

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No you aren’t used to or experienced handling multiple kids for years. You underestimate what an excellent nanny is capable of bc you know you couldn’t handle it. You also assume a nanny cannot spread their love to multiple kids. Most nannies love their kids as their own. The only difference is she birthed one and brought it to work. Here is the thing with DCUM, most hire subpar or average nannies and claim they pay well. Most families don’t. When you experience a truly amazing nanny you know it. Everything she does is effortless bc it’s the same rodeo just different kids for her.

I bet you aren't experienced in handling other people's kids + your own for years. I mean how many years would you really bring your child to work? This isn't exactly a popular arrangement.

Love isn't a reflection of skill. It isn't love that makes you a good multitasker.

No one loves other people kids like their own. You don't either. That's just a thing people say.

No, I’m not. But I’m not the nanny poster who is doing that. I’m just not closed minded and bent on trying to prove her wrong. I know what a great nanny is capable of, just like I know some iffy nannies. I’m experienced with handling multiple kids under 5 and for me it’s easy. While the parents struggle with just their kids I don’t. Parents are quick to dismiss a nanny’s skill bc they think it makes them look bad as a parent.

I don't think you get it. When parents add another baby to the family, they understand the level of care for the older children will go down. They know it and they accept it in the name of expanding the family, because another sibling is worth less attention to the others. But they aren't ready to accept it in the name of another child. That's what you aren't getting. Of course you can handle multiple children - what nanny can't? It's just that not all parents are ready to accept the reduction in care in the name of another person's child.

I'll give you an example from our preposterous friend whose newborn is nursing in a carrier while she's running around three-year olds at a playground. We all know that's not possible so let's pretend it's a more realistic scenario of her nursing her infant on the bench while 3-year olds are playing.

Now let's pretend one three-year old fell down.

Or both kids want the nanny to support them in climbing something.

Or one kid wants the nanny to come and play shop.

Now, if it's a mother nursing her infant while her children play, she may be perfectly comfortable saying to the 3-year old, hey Johnny, you have to wait, your brother is eating. But not all parents may be comfortable with the idea of nanny saying hey Johnny, you have to wait, my baby is eating.

I mean if that’s how you want to spin it and view it then so be it. With your logic you would need to have one child if you were going to use a nanny. This is the type of parent who wants their child to have all the focus. So I guess they would hire a nanny for each child if they had multiple kids.

I don't think you read it carefully - I said most people would accept their children receiving less than 100% focus in exchange for siblings. But not in exchange for unrelated infants. If my son's little brother is crying, his playing shop thing can wait. If another baby is crying, then hmmm...less inclined.

"Mom of 3" here and +1 to this. Is it really so hard to understand? My older kids got far less attention for a year, and slightly less attention individually overall, because they gained a sibling and all the good stuff that goes with that. I'm not going to accept the same situation when it's some random other baby we're talking about. The fact that this self-proclaimed "Supernanny" doesn't understand that is really bizarre.

Well if they are already not getting attention from you then they should be used to it. Maybe just stay home and try to give them attention if you are so worried.

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No you aren’t used to or experienced handling multiple kids for years. You underestimate what an excellent nanny is capable of bc you know you couldn’t handle it. You also assume a nanny cannot spread their love to multiple kids. Most nannies love their kids as their own. The only difference is she birthed one and brought it to work. Here is the thing with DCUM, most hire subpar or average nannies and claim they pay well. Most families don’t. When you experience a truly amazing nanny you know it. Everything she does is effortless bc it’s the same rodeo just different kids for her.

I bet you aren't experienced in handling other people's kids + your own for years. I mean how many years would you really bring your child to work? This isn't exactly a popular arrangement.

Love isn't a reflection of skill. It isn't love that makes you a good multitasker.

No one loves other people kids like their own. You don't either. That's just a thing people say.

No, I’m not. But I’m not the nanny poster who is doing that. I’m just not closed minded and bent on trying to prove her wrong. I know what a great nanny is capable of, just like I know some iffy nannies. I’m experienced with handling multiple kids under 5 and for me it’s easy. While the parents struggle with just their kids I don’t. Parents are quick to dismiss a nanny’s skill bc they think it makes them look bad as a parent.

I don't think you get it. When parents add another baby to the family, they understand the level of care for the older children will go down. They know it and they accept it in the name of expanding the family, because another sibling is worth less attention to the others. But they aren't ready to accept it in the name of another child. That's what you aren't getting. Of course you can handle multiple children - what nanny can't? It's just that not all parents are ready to accept the reduction in care in the name of another person's child.

I'll give you an example from our preposterous friend whose newborn is nursing in a carrier while she's running around three-year olds at a playground. We all know that's not possible so let's pretend it's a more realistic scenario of her nursing her infant on the bench while 3-year olds are playing.

Now let's pretend one three-year old fell down.

Or both kids want the nanny to support them in climbing something.

Or one kid wants the nanny to come and play shop.

Now, if it's a mother nursing her infant while her children play, she may be perfectly comfortable saying to the 3-year old, hey Johnny, you have to wait, your brother is eating. But not all parents may be comfortable with the idea of nanny saying hey Johnny, you have to wait, my baby is eating.

I mean if that’s how you want to spin it and view it then so be it. With your logic you would need to have one child if you were going to use a nanny. This is the type of parent who wants their child to have all the focus. So I guess they would hire a nanny for each child if they had multiple kids.

I don't think you read it carefully - I said most people would accept their children receiving less than 100% focus in exchange for siblings. But not in exchange for unrelated infants. If my son's little brother is crying, his playing shop thing can wait. If another baby is crying, then hmmm...less inclined.

Ok Karen.

Methinks the nanny doth protest too much...

Just out of curiosity, is there any number of kids you can’t handle super nanny? Just curious...

Are you trying your hand at being clever? Never said I was supernanny. Don’t think I’m supernanny. However, I do think the other nanny sounds awesome. And I know it’s hard for parents to watch someone come in and do the job easily that they find difficult.

My personal limit is 2 kids under age 3. I admire nannies who can care for 3-5 kids and make it look easy.

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Anonymous wrote:And I should get six months off to rehab my house. And the government should pay for it. And my husband should get the next 6 months off to decorate it.

Having children is a personal choice, as is rehabbing a house. Make sure you can afford it on your own. Don't ask complete strangers to subsidize your personal choices.

Having children really isn’t a personal choice. It’s a requirement for our country to continue and for us not to become extinct as a species. Sure, it’s a choice on an individual level but not on a larger scale. It’s also a personal choice that most people make.

There are many reasons to support parental leave. For example, i support women staying in the workforce and continuing to pay taxes. I don’t think a woman should have to choose between having a family and having a career. I don’t think women should be penalized for having children since men physically can’t.

You have serious moral issues if you equate having a child and bringing a life into this world with rehabbing a house!

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No you aren’t used to or experienced handling multiple kids for years. You underestimate what an excellent nanny is capable of bc you know you couldn’t handle it. You also assume a nanny cannot spread their love to multiple kids. Most nannies love their kids as their own. The only difference is she birthed one and brought it to work. Here is the thing with DCUM, most hire subpar or average nannies and claim they pay well. Most families don’t. When you experience a truly amazing nanny you know it. Everything she does is effortless bc it’s the same rodeo just different kids for her.

I bet you aren't experienced in handling other people's kids + your own for years. I mean how many years would you really bring your child to work? This isn't exactly a popular arrangement.

Love isn't a reflection of skill. It isn't love that makes you a good multitasker.

No one loves other people kids like their own. You don't either. That's just a thing people say.

No, I’m not. But I’m not the nanny poster who is doing that. I’m just not closed minded and bent on trying to prove her wrong. I know what a great nanny is capable of, just like I know some iffy nannies. I’m experienced with handling multiple kids under 5 and for me it’s easy. While the parents struggle with just their kids I don’t. Parents are quick to dismiss a nanny’s skill bc they think it makes them look bad as a parent.

I don't think you get it. When parents add another baby to the family, they understand the level of care for the older children will go down. They know it and they accept it in the name of expanding the family, because another sibling is worth less attention to the others. But they aren't ready to accept it in the name of another child. That's what you aren't getting. Of course you can handle multiple children - what nanny can't? It's just that not all parents are ready to accept the reduction in care in the name of another person's child.

I'll give you an example from our preposterous friend whose newborn is nursing in a carrier while she's running around three-year olds at a playground. We all know that's not possible so let's pretend it's a more realistic scenario of her nursing her infant on the bench while 3-year olds are playing.

Now let's pretend one three-year old fell down.

Or both kids want the nanny to support them in climbing something.

Or one kid wants the nanny to come and play shop.

Now, if it's a mother nursing her infant while her children play, she may be perfectly comfortable saying to the 3-year old, hey Johnny, you have to wait, your brother is eating. But not all parents may be comfortable with the idea of nanny saying hey Johnny, you have to wait, my baby is eating.

I mean if that’s how you want to spin it and view it then so be it. With your logic you would need to have one child if you were going to use a nanny. This is the type of parent who wants their child to have all the focus. So I guess they would hire a nanny for each child if they had multiple kids.

I don't think you read it carefully - I said most people would accept their children receiving less than 100% focus in exchange for siblings. But not in exchange for unrelated infants. If my son's little brother is crying, his playing shop thing can wait. If another baby is crying, then hmmm...less inclined.

"Mom of 3" here and +1 to this. Is it really so hard to understand? My older kids got far less attention for a year, and slightly less attention individually overall, because they gained a sibling and all the good stuff that goes with that. I'm not going to accept the same situation when it's some random other baby we're talking about. The fact that this self-proclaimed "Supernanny" doesn't understand that is really bizarre.

Well if they are already not getting attention from you then they should be used to it. Maybe just stay home and try to give them attention if you are so worried.

Actually, I do stay home with my kids. But thanks for playing.

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No you aren’t used to or experienced handling multiple kids for years. You underestimate what an excellent nanny is capable of bc you know you couldn’t handle it. You also assume a nanny cannot spread their love to multiple kids. Most nannies love their kids as their own. The only difference is she birthed one and brought it to work. Here is the thing with DCUM, most hire subpar or average nannies and claim they pay well. Most families don’t. When you experience a truly amazing nanny you know it. Everything she does is effortless bc it’s the same rodeo just different kids for her.

I bet you aren't experienced in handling other people's kids + your own for years. I mean how many years would you really bring your child to work? This isn't exactly a popular arrangement.

Love isn't a reflection of skill. It isn't love that makes you a good multitasker.

No one loves other people kids like their own. You don't either. That's just a thing people say.

No, I’m not. But I’m not the nanny poster who is doing that. I’m just not closed minded and bent on trying to prove her wrong. I know what a great nanny is capable of, just like I know some iffy nannies. I’m experienced with handling multiple kids under 5 and for me it’s easy. While the parents struggle with just their kids I don’t. Parents are quick to dismiss a nanny’s skill bc they think it makes them look bad as a parent.

I don't think you get it. When parents add another baby to the family, they understand the level of care for the older children will go down. They know it and they accept it in the name of expanding the family, because another sibling is worth less attention to the others. But they aren't ready to accept it in the name of another child. That's what you aren't getting. Of course you can handle multiple children - what nanny can't? It's just that not all parents are ready to accept the reduction in care in the name of another person's child.

I'll give you an example from our preposterous friend whose newborn is nursing in a carrier while she's running around three-year olds at a playground. We all know that's not possible so let's pretend it's a more realistic scenario of her nursing her infant on the bench while 3-year olds are playing.

Now let's pretend one three-year old fell down.

Or both kids want the nanny to support them in climbing something.

Or one kid wants the nanny to come and play shop.

Now, if it's a mother nursing her infant while her children play, she may be perfectly comfortable saying to the 3-year old, hey Johnny, you have to wait, your brother is eating. But not all parents may be comfortable with the idea of nanny saying hey Johnny, you have to wait, my baby is eating.

I mean if that’s how you want to spin it and view it then so be it. With your logic you would need to have one child if you were going to use a nanny. This is the type of parent who wants their child to have all the focus. So I guess they would hire a nanny for each child if they had multiple kids.

I don't think you read it carefully - I said most people would accept their children receiving less than 100% focus in exchange for siblings. But not in exchange for unrelated infants. If my son's little brother is crying, his playing shop thing can wait. If another baby is crying, then hmmm...less inclined.

"Mom of 3" here and +1 to this. Is it really so hard to understand? My older kids got far less attention for a year, and slightly less attention individually overall, because they gained a sibling and all the good stuff that goes with that. I'm not going to accept the same situation when it's some random other baby we're talking about. The fact that this self-proclaimed "Supernanny" doesn't understand that is really bizarre.

Well if they are already not getting attention from you then they should be used to it. Maybe just stay home and try to give them attention if you are so worried.

Actually, I do stay home with my kids. But thanks for playing.

Then start learning how to better divide your attention. There’s a game for you.