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No you aren’t used to or experienced handling multiple kids for years. You underestimate what an excellent nanny is capable of bc you know you couldn’t handle it. You also assume a nanny cannot spread their love to multiple kids. Most nannies love their kids as their own. The only difference is she birthed one and brought it to work. Here is the thing with DCUM, most hire subpar or average nannies and claim they pay well. Most families don’t. When you experience a truly amazing nanny you know it. Everything she does is effortless bc it’s the same rodeo just different kids for her. [/quote]

I bet you aren't experienced in handling other people's kids + your own for years.   I mean how many years would you really bring your child to work?  This isn't exactly a popular arrangement.

Love isn't a reflection of skill. It isn't love that makes you a good multitasker.

No one loves other people kids like their own. You don't either. That's just a thing people say.[/quote]

No, I’m not. But I’m not the nanny poster who is doing that. I’m just not closed minded and bent on trying to prove her wrong. I know what a great nanny is capable of, just like I know some iffy nannies. I’m experienced with handling multiple kids under 5 and for me it’s easy. While the parents struggle with just their kids I don’t. Parents are quick to dismiss a nanny’s skill bc they think it makes them look bad as a parent. [/quote]

I don't think you get it.  When parents add another baby to the family, they understand the level of care for the older children will go down.  They know it and they accept it in the name of expanding the family, because another sibling is worth less attention to the others.  But they aren't ready to accept it in the name of another child.  That's what you aren't getting. Of course you can handle multiple children - what nanny can't? It's just that not all parents are ready to accept the reduction in care in the name of another person's child.

I'll give you an example from our preposterous friend whose newborn is nursing in a carrier while she's running around three-year olds at a playground. We all know that's not possible so let's pretend it's a more realistic scenario of her nursing her infant on the bench while 3-year olds are playing.

Now let's pretend one three-year old fell down.

Or both kids want the nanny to support them in climbing something.

Or one kid wants the nanny to come and play shop.

Now, if it's a mother nursing her infant while her children play, she may be perfectly comfortable saying to the 3-year old, hey Johnny, you have to wait, your brother is eating.   But not all parents may be comfortable with the idea of nanny saying hey Johnny, you have to wait, my baby is eating. [/quote]

I mean if that’s how you want to spin it and view it then so be it. With your logic you would need to have one child if you were going to use a nanny. This is the type of parent who wants their child to have all the focus. So I guess they would hire a nanny for each child if they had multiple kids. [/quote]

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