Rate your spouse on these, and are you content?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. Kindness - 3
2. Humor - 6
3. Generosity - 2
4. Parenting - 6
5. Attractiveness--face - 8
6. Attractiveness--body - 7
7. Career success - 9
8. Earnings - 8

No, not content.

+1, was content, not happy at all. Reconsider about life partnership. I'm sad, but it is hard if the other person is not interested in even saying hello or good bye to you. They just want you to comply to what they need which I understand it seems to be a very small ask like going to the company party or family gathering and pretend we are ok. It is a lot to someone who has been unhappy, it would involve drugs.
I love our children so there's that.

Yes, I'm the PP and I have been thinking really hard about whether we even have a relationship anymore. I keep going back and forth though, and I wonder if I just tried harder, it would make it better. Because sometimes I don't know if he's being intentionally cruel and neglectful, or he's just hopelessly clueless. But I feel like throughout the relationship, I have always been the one making the effort to make it better, and I've gotten to a point where I'm just tired of trying and realizing maybe it's just not that important to him. No greetings. No encouragement. When I'm involved with something or accomplish something, he has a way of mocking it instead of being supportive. Has never arranged a date for us. Never remembers our anniversary.

[Anonymous]

1. Kindness - 9
2. Humor - 10
3. Generosity - 10
4. Parenting - 8
5. Attractiveness--face - 4
6. Attractiveness--body - 9
7. Career success - 10
8. Earnings - 10

He's a great guy but not that great looking. Excellent body though, and makes me laugh all the time. Very well off, and generous with me & really everyone. He's a keeper.

[Anonymous]

Who says OP is a woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. Kindness - 9
2. Humor - 10
3. Generosity - 10
4. Parenting - 8
5. Attractiveness--face - 4
6. Attractiveness--body - 9
7. Career success - 10
8. Earnings - 10

He's a great guy but not that great looking. Excellent body though, and makes me laugh all the time. Very well off, and generous with me & really everyone. He's a keeper.

What makes you rate his face a 4?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On scale of 1-10, 1 being low and 10 being high, rate your spouse's:

1. Kindness - 9
2. Humor - 8
3. Generosity - 7
4. Parenting - 9
5. Attractiveness--face - 7
6. Attractiveness--body - 8
7. Career success - 9
8. Earnings - 9

And then answer: are you content being married to this person?

Absolutely! We fit together so well, even after 15 years.

[Anonymous]

1. Kindness - 10
2. Humor - 7 (I am funnier, wittier. He can find humor in adversity)
3. Generosity - 10+
4. Parenting - 10+ -- He is daddy seahorse. If he could carried and nursed the babies he would have.
5. Attractiveness--face - 8 (for me), 7 for others. He was obviously more handsome when he was in his 20s. He is very clean cut. Looks like a military guy. Nerdy. Wears glasses.
6. Attractiveness--body - 10 when I married him 25 years ago. Now in his mid-50s - 7
7. Career success - DCUM 8 (He is in a prestigious organization, average - above average success)
8. Earnings - DCUM 7 (350K).

9. Intelligence - 9
10. Education - 9
11. Hygiene - 10
12. Family relationships - 8. No IL issues for me. He loves my side of the family.
13. Loyalty, Decency, Honesty - 10+ He is a very moral and decent person. We honor each other, our family and marital vows
14. Temperament - 10 -Even keel, no-drama, laid back, no games, feminist.
15. In bed - 10 - Giving, generous, adventurous, loving, communicative, matched high libido.

DH and I are content with each other and proud of our family. He makes me feel loved, honored, valued and nurtured every day. He is my soul mate. He is not a jerky, bad boy, alpha male type, and thank god for that. I could have never accepted a man who did not treat me well and would never have had kids with such a man.

[Anonymous]

1. Kindness -- 8
2. Humor -- 8
3. Generosity -- 9
4. Parenting -- 8 (he's a really good dad)
5. Attractiveness--face -- 8
6. Attractiveness--body -- 5 (could lose about 20 lbs)
7. Career success -- 10
8. Earnings -- 10

I'm really happy being married to him. He's working on dropping the weight, which I appreciate. Otherwise, I wish he'd pick up his damn socks, which end up everywhere, but that's small potatoes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. Kindness - 10
2. Humor - 7 (I am funnier, wittier. He can find humor in adversity)
3. Generosity - 10+
4. Parenting - 10+ -- He is daddy seahorse. If he could carried and nursed the babies he would have.
5. Attractiveness--face - 8 (for me), 7 for others. He was obviously more handsome when he was in his 20s. He is very clean cut. Looks like a military guy. Nerdy. Wears glasses.
6. Attractiveness--body - 10 when I married him 25 years ago. Now in his mid-50s - 7
7. Career success - DCUM 8 (He is in a prestigious organization, average - above average success)
8. Earnings - DCUM 7 (350K).

9. Intelligence - 9
10. Education - 9
11. Hygiene - 10
12. Family relationships - 8. No IL issues for me. He loves my side of the family.
13. Loyalty, Decency, Honesty - 10+ He is a very moral and decent person. We honor each other, our family and marital vows
14. Temperament - 10 -Even keel, no-drama, laid back, no games, feminist.
15. In bed - 10 - Giving, generous, adventurous, loving, communicative, matched high libido.

DH and I are content with each other and proud of our family. He makes me feel loved, honored, valued and nurtured every day. He is my soul mate. He is not a jerky, bad boy, alpha male type, and thank god for that. I could have never accepted a man who did not treat me well and would never have had kids with such a man.

He sounds amazing, you are very lucky!

[Anonymous]

On scale of 1-10, 1 being low and 10 being high, rate your spouse's:

1. Kindness 9
2. Humor 8
3. Generosity 9
4. Parenting 8
5. Attractiveness--face 6 (8 when she was thinner)
6. Attractiveness--body 5 (2 without the boobies; 7 if she lost 35 lbs)
7. Career success 7
8. Earnings 7

Happily Married

[Anonymous]

Genuinely surprising how many high scores for attractiveness there are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Genuinely surprising how many high scores for attractiveness there are.

People are rating how attractive their spouses are to THEM, which makes sense because they did marry the person after all! Obviously DC isn't full of 9 and 10s.

[Anonymous]

On scale of 1-10, 1 being low and 10 being high, rate your spouse's:

1. Kindness - 9
2. Humor - 6
3. Generosity - 9
4. Parenting - 7
5. Attractiveness--face - 5
6. Attractiveness--body - 5
7. Career success - 10
8. Earnings -10
9. In bed - 2

And then answer: are you content being married to this person?

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On scale of 1-10, 1 being low and 10 being high, rate your spouse's:

1. Kindness
2. Humor
3. Generosity
4. Parenting
5. Attractiveness--face
6. Attractiveness--body
7. Career success
8. Earnings

And then answer: are you content being married to this person?

1. Kindness 7
2. Humor 8
3. Generosity 6
4. Parenting 8
5. Attractiveness — face 9
6. Attractiveness body 6
7. Career success 8
8. Earnings 9

I got super lucky that he became my DH. Very content.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On scale of 1-10, 1 being low and 10 being high, rate your spouse's:

1. Kindness - 9
2. Humor - 6
3. Generosity - 9
4. Parenting - 7
5. Attractiveness--face - 5
6. Attractiveness--body - 5
7. Career success - 10
8. Earnings -10
9. In bed - 2

And then answer: are you content being married to this person?

Yes.

Oof. Why a 2 in bed?

[Anonymous]

1. Kindness - 10
2. Humor - 10
3. Generosity - 10
4. Parenting - 8
5. Attractiveness--face - 7
6. Attractiveness--body - 2 (He could stand to lose 30-40 pounds)
7. Career success - 8
8. Earnings - 8

I really love him and am generally content but I am not physically attracted to him. I find the extra weight to be a turn off. I know that sounds horrible but I prioritize fitness/health and he does not. He has many other wonderful qualities so it is something I am willing to live with, but it is creating problems because our libidos are wildly mismatched.