If you’re a stay at home mom do you get any breaks?

[Anonymous]

I use marijuana at the end of the day to cope. You can try CBD but that didn't do it for me. I'm also about to join the Y because it's the closest gym with chid care. I'll be like that mom above and sit in the sauna for as long as they'll allow it.

Mine are 4 and 2 and I feel ya. I can also relate to the feeling of other moms having an easier time of it. I talk a lot about the importance of mental health and meditation/taking breaks. My 4 year old will ask me, "mom, do you need a break?" and I'll thank her and she'll play quietly with her sister for a bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I use marijuana at the end of the day to cope. You can try CBD but that didn't do it for me. I'm also about to join the Y because it's the closest gym with chid care. I'll be like that mom above and sit in the sauna for as long as they'll allow it.

Mine are 4 and 2 and I feel ya. I can also relate to the feeling of other moms having an easier time of it. I talk a lot about the importance of mental health and meditation/taking breaks. My 4 year old will ask me, "mom, do you need a break?" and I'll thank her and she'll play quietly with her sister for a bit.

You really should see a therapist and get proper meds, marijuana around kids sounds dicey.

I’m guessing you don’t have much money, but why not go back to work and hire sitter? If your kids drive you to toking up and your 4 year already sense you don’t want to be around her, not sure why you make all suffer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I use marijuana at the end of the day to cope. You can try CBD but that didn't do it for me. I'm also about to join the Y because it's the closest gym with chid care. I'll be like that mom above and sit in the sauna for as long as they'll allow it.

Mine are 4 and 2 and I feel ya. I can also relate to the feeling of other moms having an easier time of it. I talk a lot about the importance of mental health and meditation/taking breaks. My 4 year old will ask me, "mom, do you need a break?" and I'll thank her and she'll play quietly with her sister for a bit.

You really should see a therapist and get proper meds, marijuana around kids sounds dicey.

I’m guessing you don’t have much money, but why not go back to work and hire sitter? If your kids drive you to toking up and your 4 year already sense you don’t want to be around her, not sure why you make all suffer.

Well, you would be very wrong. Sounds like you don't know anything about medical marijuana. Do you have wine or beer at your house? Sounds dicey. Liquor? Call the cops!

I don't drink. HHI is 300k. Anything else you want to blindly judge an internet stranger about, or are you all set for the day?

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand why people SAH if they are so miserable. I would definitely have gone back to work if I was as unhappy and in need of as many breaks as the people on this thread. It’s not meant to be a prison sentence people! My kids are in school now and I’d go back to those days in a NY minute!

[Anonymous]

You get a break when kids are in school. Some moms don’t get that.

I have 3 kids and DH works long hours. I have a pt sitter and housecleaning. My youngest is 2 and does not go to school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I use marijuana at the end of the day to cope. You can try CBD but that didn't do it for me. I'm also about to join the Y because it's the closest gym with chid care. I'll be like that mom above and sit in the sauna for as long as they'll allow it.

Mine are 4 and 2 and I feel ya. I can also relate to the feeling of other moms having an easier time of it. I talk a lot about the importance of mental health and meditation/taking breaks. My 4 year old will ask me, "mom, do you need a break?" and I'll thank her and she'll play quietly with her sister for a bit.

You really should see a therapist and get proper meds, marijuana around kids sounds dicey.

I’m guessing you don’t have much money, but why not go back to work and hire sitter? If your kids drive you to toking up and your 4 year already sense you don’t want to be around her, not sure why you make all suffer.

Well, you would be very wrong. Sounds like you don't know anything about medical marijuana. Do you have wine or beer at your house? Sounds dicey. Liquor? Call the cops!

I don't drink. HHI is 300k. Anything else you want to blindly judge an internet stranger about, or are you all set for the day?

NP here, and I truly don’t understand why with that income you don’t hire an occasional or regular babysitter. You must enjoy being a martyr because you certainly have the means to get a break if you wanted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I use marijuana at the end of the day to cope. You can try CBD but that didn't do it for me. I'm also about to join the Y because it's the closest gym with chid care. I'll be like that mom above and sit in the sauna for as long as they'll allow it.

Mine are 4 and 2 and I feel ya. I can also relate to the feeling of other moms having an easier time of it. I talk a lot about the importance of mental health and meditation/taking breaks. My 4 year old will ask me, "mom, do you need a break?" and I'll thank her and she'll play quietly with her sister for a bit.

You really should see a therapist and get proper meds, marijuana around kids sounds dicey.

I’m guessing you don’t have much money, but why not go back to work and hire sitter? If your kids drive you to toking up and your 4 year already sense you don’t want to be around her, not sure why you make all suffer.

Well, you would be very wrong. Sounds like you don't know anything about medical marijuana. Do you have wine or beer at your house? Sounds dicey. Liquor? Call the cops!

I don't drink. HHI is 300k. Anything else you want to blindly judge an internet stranger about, or are you all set for the day?

Medical marijuana is not prescribed for depression or anxiety; generally for pain management— so unless you are leaving out details you are mis medicated. And smoking anything introduces it into your child’s environment, unless you are carefully showering and laundering after every toke

As for the income, I just assumed that since your solution to having a babysitter was to hide out in the Y, which is one of the cheaper gyms. If you have plenty of money, what the f are you doing.

[Anonymous]

You get a break when they are in school and I assume they both nap? You get more breaks than most people with those ages.
Hire a sitter one evening a week if that would help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You get a break when they are in school and I assume they both nap? You get more breaks than most people with those ages.
Hire a sitter one evening a week if that would help.

OP here. Maybe the 10 hour breaks will be great. So far I haven’t felt a break since it has only been two weeks and between my car not starting due to battery dying and waiting for triple A and because of a stomach bug I had my kids all but one of those break days. The only day I had no kids I spent every second on the phone between several doctor and therapy offices and insurance to get my child treatment and still have calls to follow up with no resolution. As far as going back to school, my H travels to 3 cities a week and his schedule varies so much I worry working full time would add just be too much for me. He is very involved with the kids when he is here but I handle basically everything and organization of the household and with no family support in case of my own sickness or an emergency.. I really can’t imagine working full time days and then doing all of that on my own while he is traveling for work.

[Anonymous]

Sorry going back to work, not achool. OP here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You get a break when they are in school and I assume they both nap? You get more breaks than most people with those ages.
Hire a sitter one evening a week if that would help.

OP here. Maybe the 10 hour breaks will be great. So far I haven’t felt a break since it has only been two weeks and between my car not starting due to battery dying and waiting for triple A and because of a stomach bug I had my kids all but one of those break days. The only day I had no kids I spent every second on the phone between several doctor and therapy offices and insurance to get my child treatment and still have calls to follow up with no resolution. As far as going back to school, my H travels to 3 cities a week and his schedule varies so much I worry working full time would add just be too much for me. He is very involved with the kids when he is here but I handle basically everything and organization of the household and with no family support in case of my own sickness or an emergency.. I really can’t imagine working full time days and then doing all of that on my own while he is traveling for work.

OK so the preschool year just got started and you are off to a bad start. You haven't gotten into your rhythm yet. The obvious answer is to acknowledge you've had a round of bad luck and wait and see once things settle down. If you are still feeling overwhelmed even with ten hour breaks - because of the specific needs of your child's medical issue - then talk with your husband about budgeting for an occasional sitter. Where can you both cut back in expenses to come up with the funds? You should get on the same page and make it happen. But I wouldn't make any decisions about extra help until you see how the school year goes once things get into a more regular schedule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You get a break when they are in school and I assume they both nap? You get more breaks than most people with those ages.
Hire a sitter one evening a week if that would help.

OP here. Maybe the 10 hour breaks will be great. So far I haven’t felt a break since it has only been two weeks and between my car not starting due to battery dying and waiting for triple A and because of a stomach bug I had my kids all but one of those break days. The only day I had no kids I spent every second on the phone between several doctor and therapy offices and insurance to get my child treatment and still have calls to follow up with no resolution. As far as going back to school, my H travels to 3 cities a week and his schedule varies so much I worry working full time would add just be too much for me. He is very involved with the kids when he is here but I handle basically everything and organization of the household and with no family support in case of my own sickness or an emergency.. I really can’t imagine working full time days and then doing all of that on my own while he is traveling for work.

Everyone has medical appointments and sickness and car trouble.

I can’t imagine you were actually talking on the phone the whole day to doctors — probably on hold? So put phone on speaker and fire up Netflix or what not.

Honestly, I think you should look into seeing a doctor yourself; your level of exhaustion and distress to your situation warrants evaluation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You get a break when they are in school and I assume they both nap? You get more breaks than most people with those ages.
Hire a sitter one evening a week if that would help.

OP here. Maybe the 10 hour breaks will be great. So far I haven’t felt a break since it has only been two weeks and between my car not starting due to battery dying and waiting for triple A and because of a stomach bug I had my kids all but one of those break days. The only day I had no kids I spent every second on the phone between several doctor and therapy offices and insurance to get my child treatment and still have calls to follow up with no resolution. As far as going back to school, my H travels to 3 cities a week and his schedule varies so much I worry working full time would add just be too much for me. He is very involved with the kids when he is here but I handle basically everything and organization of the household and with no family support in case of my own sickness or an emergency.. I really can’t imagine working full time days and then doing all of that on my own while he is traveling for work.

Everyone has medical appointments and sickness and car trouble.

I can’t imagine you were actually talking on the phone the whole day to doctors — probably on hold? So put phone on speaker and fire up Netflix or what not.

Honestly, I think you should look into seeing a doctor yourself; your level of exhaustion and distress to your situation warrants evaluation.

It’s a special needs situation which is why so many phone calls and paperwork. Your level of being a b*tch deserves self reflection.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You get a break when they are in school and I assume they both nap? You get more breaks than most people with those ages.
Hire a sitter one evening a week if that would help.

OP here. Maybe the 10 hour breaks will be great. So far I haven’t felt a break since it has only been two weeks and between my car not starting due to battery dying and waiting for triple A and because of a stomach bug I had my kids all but one of those break days. The only day I had no kids I spent every second on the phone between several doctor and therapy offices and insurance to get my child treatment and still have calls to follow up with no resolution. As far as going back to school, my H travels to 3 cities a week and his schedule varies so much I worry working full time would add just be too much for me. He is very involved with the kids when he is here but I handle basically everything and organization of the household and with no family support in case of my own sickness or an emergency.. I really can’t imagine working full time days and then doing all of that on my own while he is traveling for work.

Everyone has medical appointments and sickness and car trouble.

I can’t imagine you were actually talking on the phone the whole day to doctors — probably on hold? So put phone on speaker and fire up Netflix or what not.

Honestly, I think you should look into seeing a doctor yourself; your level of exhaustion and distress to your situation warrants evaluation.

It’s a special needs situation which is why so many phone calls and paperwork. Your level of being a b*tch deserves self reflection.

I understood it was special needs. From my experience with our therapists they don’t run sessions over the phone. So you were literally speaking with doctors for hours over the phone? Please recommend your doctors since ours only talk at length in session. Paperwork — I would actually bug your DH to do some of that while waiting at airport or in hotel after work.

I wasn’t trying to be critical; I was sincere that it sounds like you need some self-care. If I wanted to be snarky I would add anger management, dear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You get a break when they are in school and I assume they both nap? You get more breaks than most people with those ages.
Hire a sitter one evening a week if that would help.

OP here. Maybe the 10 hour breaks will be great. So far I haven’t felt a break since it has only been two weeks and between my car not starting due to battery dying and waiting for triple A and because of a stomach bug I had my kids all but one of those break days. The only day I had no kids I spent every second on the phone between several doctor and therapy offices and insurance to get my child treatment and still have calls to follow up with no resolution. As far as going back to school, my H travels to 3 cities a week and his schedule varies so much I worry working full time would add just be too much for me. He is very involved with the kids when he is here but I handle basically everything and organization of the household and with no family support in case of my own sickness or an emergency.. I really can’t imagine working full time days and then doing all of that on my own while he is traveling for work.

Everyone has medical appointments and sickness and car trouble.

I can’t imagine you were actually talking on the phone the whole day to doctors — probably on hold? So put phone on speaker and fire up Netflix or what not.

Honestly, I think you should look into seeing a doctor yourself; your level of exhaustion and distress to your situation warrants evaluation.

It’s a special needs situation which is why so many phone calls and paperwork. Your level of being a b*tch deserves self reflection.

Not the PP, but I think part of your issue is that you can't even see your own privilege. You don't need to work outside of the home, you have a comfortable income, and have at least some preschool hours for both of your children. Many many women do not have any of these. Please count your blessings. No one is forcing you to be a stay at home mom. And please do not get pregnant!