Should I tell his wife?

[Anonymous]

OP, you are getting attacked on here, but you have done something about half the population has. Live and learn.

There are a ton of seemingly or genuinely happy marriages where someone has cheated. Contrary to the revenge fantasies, usually no one finds out. You need to keep this information to your grave or tell a therapist. You gain nothing by exposing this and risk totally upending some innocent kids' lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only reason you want to tell the wife is so a) the relationship breaks up and you get him to yourself (you want to win), or b) you want the wife to hurt as badly as you do.

Don't pretend any other altruistic motive. This is about you.

I agree that is her true motive. However, I would want to know if my husband was cheating. Especially to see if my health was compromised.

I would send her an anon text or email at least to get herself checked for STDs. That's all she needs to do. Then see a therapist to see why her self esteem is so low. And how to improve her own life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When Monica Lewinsky tried OP's tactic, the entire US government branded her a "crazy stalker".

Oh, good grief.

Correction:
Monica Lewinsky did nothing of the sort.
She confided in someone she thought was a trusted friend.

That horrendous Linda Tripp was the one who exposed the affair and used the so-called "tactic" that you're implying... not Monica.

[Anonymous]

This seems like a troll post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are getting attacked on here, but you have done something about half the population has. Live and learn.

There are a ton of seemingly or genuinely happy marriages where someone has cheated. Contrary to the revenge fantasies, usually no one finds out. You need to keep this information to your grave or tell a therapist. You gain nothing by exposing this and risk totally upending some innocent kids' lives.

This.

[Anonymous]

Just move on from the disfunction. Their marriage is not happy, healthy, nor whole. They are not your monkeys and its not your circus.

She has a cheating husband not you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When Monica Lewinsky tried OP's tactic, the entire US government branded her a "crazy stalker".

Oh, good grief.

Correction:
Monica Lewinsky did nothing of the sort.
She confided in someone she thought was a trusted friend.

That horrendous Linda Tripp was the one who exposed the affair and used the so-called "tactic" that you're implying... not Monica.

A boss is not a friend. Where you eat, you don’t...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When Monica Lewinsky tried OP's tactic, the entire US government branded her a "crazy stalker".

Oh, good grief.

Correction:
Monica Lewinsky did nothing of the sort.
She confided in someone she thought was a trusted friend.

That horrendous Linda Tripp was the one who exposed the affair and used the so-called "tactic" that you're implying... not Monica.

If I found out my friend was a sleaze doing stuff with our president who turned out to be a sleaze.... you bet I would be let others know.

Tripp wasn't the horrendous one and Monica destroyed her life because she had no morals. When you start blaming the people that catch the criminals, or wrong doers it shows your thinking isn't right. Time to raise that bar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When Monica Lewinsky tried OP's tactic, the entire US government branded her a "crazy stalker".

Oh, good grief.

Correction:
Monica Lewinsky did nothing of the sort.
She confided in someone she thought was a trusted friend.

That horrendous Linda Tripp was the one who exposed the affair and used the so-called "tactic" that you're implying... not Monica.

A boss is not a friend. Where you eat, you don’t...

You don't do that kind of thing period. A lot of ramifications because of that. The last election showed that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only reason you want to tell the wife is so a) the relationship breaks up and you get him to yourself (you want to win), or b) you want the wife to hurt as badly as you do.

Don't pretend any other altruistic motive. This is about you.

I agree that is her true motive. However, I would want to know if my husband was cheating. Especially to see if my health was compromised.

I would send her an anon text or email at least to get herself checked for STDs. That's all she needs to do. Then see a therapist to see why her self esteem is so low. And how to improve her own life.

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So what. The fact that you would want to know is not a controlling factor in whether it is OP's place to tell.

[Anonymous]

Op, I would not. DW knows. Guaranteed. But prefers to keep her kids in a parental union. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You knew he was married and yet you still made the choice to sleep with him. You are a crappy person just like he is.

You have a lot of nerve trying to expose him. Why not do some deep self-reflection and expose yourself to yourself instead.

Hahaha! This is good advice for OP. I can't believe she has the nerve to talk about him being a cheater when she's just as rotten. She claims only 2 times, but she knew he was MARRIED! I'm not here saying I'm perfect but I would never, nor have been with a married guy.

Plus 1

[Anonymous]

In the future if you are love bombed and the guy is married
you just say no.

There are plenty of quite eligible single and legally divorced men available to date so that you don't have to
compromise your morals.

[Anonymous]

Two words.

His. Wife.

Not your wife. His.

Leave it alone and move the cluck on.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I am moved on. I won’t be involving myself further. As a PP said, not my circus, not my monkeys.