Should I tell his wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Long and short, I slept with a married man. Twice. It was a fling, he love-bombed me to bits, I called it off after a few weeks out of crippling guilt - we’ve gone no contact. He’s not a clever cheater - I know his real name, address, job, etc etc. I also have his wife’s information.

Now a dilemma: do I tell his wife? They’re mid-forties, married nearly twenty years, two teens. Established. That said, he mentioned that he’d cheated on her in the past and after much struggle they were able to stay married. I feel sorry for the woman, as I’m sure I’m not the only one. But maybe she doesn’t want to know.

WWYD?

Sounds like you are hoping to find a way to dissolve his marriage so he’ll end up w you

[Anonymous]

The love bombing would cause me to tell her. And please stay away from married men...if they cheat on their current wife they will eventually cheat on you.

[Anonymous]

Leave this alone and move on.

[Anonymous]

Why would you put yourself? This has to be a troll.

[Anonymous]

Congratulations on your decision to sleep with a married man. Don’t compound your stupidity with another dumb move.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Long and short, I slept with a married man. Twice. It was a fling, he love-bombed me to bits, I called it off after a few weeks out of crippling guilt - we’ve gone no contact. He’s not a clever cheater - I know his real name, address, job, etc etc. I also have his wife’s information.

Now a dilemma: do I tell his wife? They’re mid-forties, married nearly twenty years, two teens. Established. That said, he mentioned that he’d cheated on her in the past and after much struggle they were able to stay married. I feel sorry for the woman, as I’m sure I’m not the only one. But maybe she doesn’t want to know.

WWYD?

Sounds like you are hoping to find a way to dissolve his marriage so he’ll end up w you

Certainly not. And I’m not a troll.

[Anonymous]

If I were the wife I’d honestly want to know. I mean if he’s sleeping with you, he may be sleeping with others as well. Do her a huge favor and tell her. Let her choose whether she should stay married to her loser husband or not.

You really need to think about your role in this. Don’t be the other woman...you’ll never win.

[jabaltimore004]

I don't think you should tell her simply because you would want to know. She is not you and you are not her. She knows who and what she's married to and if she doesn't it's not because he's good at hiding it, it's because she chooses not to know.

[Anonymous]

Using the phrase love-bombing means you’re incapable of reflection. Leave his wife alone.

[Anonymous]

This is none of your business. Let them
Figure it out you are not part of the marriage

[Anonymous]

In theory, it would be best to just leave the situation be & move on w/your own life.

But if I were in your situation-
I likely would tell her out of spite.

Is that why you want to tell her?
Or are you seriously concerned about her being in an unfaithful marriage.

Fair question.

[Anonymous]

He “love bombed” you!?
Please. You’re a grown woman who chose to sleep with a married man and now you’re playing victim. Two wrongs aren’t going to make a right here. Learn from your mistake and do better rather than throwing a bomb into that family’s life. Walk away.

[Anonymous]

No!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Using the phrase love-bombing means you’re incapable of reflection. Leave his wife alone.

Is a love bomb like an F bomb? Explain please. English is not my first language I’m from the South.

[Anonymous]

Why? What's your end game?