I think I physically can't have sex anymore

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Anonymous wrote:Wow even benign (non-offensive) posts which dare to mention the censorship of posts being deleted .... have been deleted.

Watch THIS get deleted!

Mine got deleted. All I did was ask what her dentist said?

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Anonymous wrote:Are you sure it's not mental? If you viewed your childbirth experience as traumatic, there might be a mental component.

just stop. vulvar & vaginal pain are real things.

They aren’t necessarily mutually exclusive to emotional trauma. Especially if pain and pelvic floor imbalance has been ongoing issue
postpartum. I needed pelvic floor pt AND somatic therapy to heal. Shame was a huge factor for me with long term incontinence and I needs internal scar tissue massage. I also was completely numb for nearly two years as my nerves mended from
tearing. That can do a number on your bodymind. Try to be open to the idea that everyone needs something different to heal.

OP, I strongly urge you to consider pelvic floor therapy and look for the book Pelvic Liberation by Leslie Howard. She’s a phenomenal resource for women’s self care. Best of luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I highly recommend the pelvic floor PTs at bodyConnect in DC.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:My doctor says that physically, everything looks fine. She's recommended special lubes, etc. That's what I meant by "creams, pills, this that and the other."

I HAVE done everything my doctor recommended.

Ok, what does your dentist say?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow even benign (non-offensive) posts which dare to mention the censorship of posts being deleted .... have been deleted.

Watch THIS get deleted!

Mine got deleted. All I did was ask what her dentist said?

The Uber liberal who runs this board deletes any post that questions a woman but he lets clear misandry stand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow even benign (non-offensive) posts which dare to mention the censorship of posts being deleted .... have been deleted.

Watch THIS get deleted!

Mine got deleted. All I did was ask what her dentist said?

The Uber liberal who runs this board deletes any post that questions a woman but he lets clear misandry stand.

The woman is seriously asking for help. The blowjob jokes aren't appropriate in this context. (You could, however, note that sexual relations that aren't painful for her might be worth exploring.) Asking that people have some social awareness isn't some sort of conspiracy against men.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow even benign (non-offensive) posts which dare to mention the censorship of posts being deleted .... have been deleted.

Watch THIS get deleted!

Mine got deleted. All I did was ask what her dentist said?

The Uber liberal who runs this board deletes any post that questions a woman but he lets clear misandry stand.

The woman is seriously asking for help. The blowjob jokes aren't appropriate in this context. (You could, however, note that sexual relations that aren't painful for her might be worth exploring.) Asking that people have some social awareness isn't some sort of conspiracy against men.

BJ jokes, like fart jokes, are always funny.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow even benign (non-offensive) posts which dare to mention the censorship of posts being deleted .... have been deleted.

Watch THIS get deleted!

Mine got deleted. All I did was ask what her dentist said?

The Uber liberal who runs this board deletes any post that questions a woman but he lets clear misandry stand.

The woman is seriously asking for help. The blowjob jokes aren't appropriate in this context. (You could, however, note that sexual relations that aren't painful for her might be worth exploring.) Asking that people have some social awareness isn't some sort of conspiracy against men.

BJ jokes, like fart jokes, are always funny.

Wrong audience, bro.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curious as to what pelvic floor PT involves!

For me, it turned out that several of my muscles that connected my perineum to the inside of my hip bone were unbelievably tight. It was causing a lot of pain, especially during sex, and making it impossible to use the bathroom without splinting (supporting the perineum). We also discovered that I had an incredibly tight and effed up muscle deep inside my glute, which we think is where my first kid’s head was pressing through a very long and traumatic labor seven years ago! (My pelvis was tilted for SEVEN YEARS, I had to wear a shoe lift on one side, my whole body was thrown off...) Anyway, the solution for me was a lot of internal work from my amazing PT, which is exactly what it sounds like — a lot of really intense deep tissue massage from within the vagina. Let me tell you, someone rubbing your hip joint from the inside is...weird. But it was amazing, I can have sex without pain, I can use the toilet like a big girl, and I can wear shoes without orthotics! I swear by pelvic floor PT.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Curious as to what pelvic floor PT involves!

For me, it turned out that several of my muscles that connected my perineum to the inside of my hip bone were unbelievably tight. It was causing a lot of pain, especially during sex, and making it impossible to use the bathroom without splinting (supporting the perineum). We also discovered that I had an incredibly tight and effed up muscle deep inside my glute, which we think is where my first kid’s head was pressing through a very long and traumatic labor seven years ago! (My pelvis was tilted for SEVEN YEARS, I had to wear a shoe lift on one side, my whole body was thrown off...) Anyway, the solution for me was a lot of internal work from my amazing PT, which is exactly what it sounds like — a lot of really intense deep tissue massage from within the vagina. Let me tell you, someone rubbing your hip joint from the inside is...weird. But it was amazing, I can have sex without pain, I can use the toilet like a big girl, and I can wear shoes without orthotics! I swear by pelvic floor PT.

I’m intrigued. My pelvis has been tilted since 2014 when I was in a car accident. I’ve had a lot of traditional PT for it with no luck. Might this approach help me?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Curious as to what pelvic floor PT involves!

For me, it turned out that several of my muscles that connected my perineum to the inside of my hip bone were unbelievably tight. It was causing a lot of pain, especially during sex, and making it impossible to use the bathroom without splinting (supporting the perineum). We also discovered that I had an incredibly tight and effed up muscle deep inside my glute, which we think is where my first kid’s head was pressing through a very long and traumatic labor seven years ago! (My pelvis was tilted for SEVEN YEARS, I had to wear a shoe lift on one side, my whole body was thrown off...) Anyway, the solution for me was a lot of internal work from my amazing PT, which is exactly what it sounds like — a lot of really intense deep tissue massage from within the vagina. Let me tell you, someone rubbing your hip joint from the inside is...weird. But it was amazing, I can have sex without pain, I can use the toilet like a big girl, and I can wear shoes without orthotics! I swear by pelvic floor PT.

I’m intrigued. My pelvis has been tilted since 2014 when I was in a car accident. I’ve had a lot of traditional PT for it with no luck. Might this approach help me?

Totally plausible! My uneducated guess would be that if your pelvis was broken in the accident there may not be much PT can do but if it’s soft tissue they will probably be able to make a big difference. I went to bodyconnect pt in foggy bottom and had a wonderful experience. Unfortunately the therapist I saw moved out of town, but I’ve heard great things about several of the others. I encourage you to check out pelvic floor work, there or elsewhere — there’s a lot of muscles it’s hard to get at without internal access, which obviously a traditional PT approach has trouble with.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow even benign (non-offensive) posts which dare to mention the censorship of posts being deleted .... have been deleted.

Watch THIS get deleted!

Mine got deleted. All I did was ask what her dentist said?

The Uber liberal who runs this board deletes any post that questions a woman but he lets clear misandry stand.

The woman is seriously asking for help. The blowjob jokes aren't appropriate in this context. (You could, however, note that sexual relations that aren't painful for her might be worth exploring.) Asking that people have some social awareness isn't some sort of conspiracy against men.

OP, now that a woman has condoned the idea, therefore my post might not be deleted, I would like to propose that since YOU can’t physically have sex anymore, meanwhile your husband still has regular needs a couple times per week, you should explore sexual relations that aren’t painful.

[Anonymous]

First - check out https://www.reddit.com/r/vaginismus/
Second in DC - try this specialist https://www.pelvicrehabilitation.com/

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Curious as to what pelvic floor PT involves!

For me, it turned out that several of my muscles that connected my perineum to the inside of my hip bone were unbelievably tight. It was causing a lot of pain, especially during sex, and making it impossible to use the bathroom without splinting (supporting the perineum). We also discovered that I had an incredibly tight and effed up muscle deep inside my glute, which we think is where my first kid’s head was pressing through a very long and traumatic labor seven years ago! (My pelvis was tilted for SEVEN YEARS, I had to wear a shoe lift on one side, my whole body was thrown off...) Anyway, the solution for me was a lot of internal work from my amazing PT, which is exactly what it sounds like — a lot of really intense deep tissue massage from within the vagina. Let me tell you, someone rubbing your hip joint from the inside is...weird. But it was amazing, I can have sex without pain, I can use the toilet like a big girl, and I can wear shoes without orthotics! I swear by pelvic floor PT.

I’m intrigued. My pelvis has been tilted since 2014 when I was in a car accident. I’ve had a lot of traditional PT for it with no luck. Might this approach help me?

Totally plausible! My uneducated guess would be that if your pelvis was broken in the accident there may not be much PT can do but if it’s soft tissue they will probably be able to make a big difference. I went to bodyconnect pt in foggy bottom and had a wonderful experience. Unfortunately the therapist I saw moved out of town, but I’ve heard great things about several of the others. I encourage you to check out pelvic floor work, there or elsewhere — there’s a lot of muscles it’s hard to get at without internal access, which obviously a traditional PT approach has trouble with.

Thank you. I will broach with my GYN.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow even benign (non-offensive) posts which dare to mention the censorship of posts being deleted .... have been deleted.

Watch THIS get deleted!

Mine got deleted. All I did was ask what her dentist said?

The Uber liberal who runs this board deletes any post that questions a woman but he lets clear misandry stand.

The woman is seriously asking for help. The blowjob jokes aren't appropriate in this context. (You could, however, note that sexual relations that aren't painful for her might be worth exploring.) Asking that people have some social awareness isn't some sort of conspiracy against men.

OP, now that a woman has condoned the idea, therefore my post might not be deleted, I would like to propose that since YOU can’t physically have sex anymore, meanwhile your husband still has regular needs a couple times per week, you should explore sexual relations that aren’t painful.

PP, you are still missing the point. Other activities are not just about her DH’s needs. Maybe she’ll be open to doing something that meets her needs.